Confessions of slovenly wife

Oh and stay at home parents, its a job too, harder than lots of other jobs, you are not a slave or some sort of domestic appliance, just because one parent works outside the home and gets a pay cheque, the other is working longer hours for FREE, it does not mean that the one who gets to swan off to the office every morning gets to be a lazy *kitten* do nothing when they get home. I would still expect equal shares on cooking, cleaning and shopping.

At the risk of offending all the feminists on here, thats bullsh!t.

That job isn't that hard. Yes, it's tiring, its depressing, its irritating, and extremely time consuming, but if you think spouse is gonna be fine with you not working, and not cleaning, and not cooking, and acting like your job is so terribly hard, good luck with that.

I'm not talking EVERY day have everything perfect, by any means. I'm saying give it your best effort.

THIS APPLIES TO MEN OR WOMEN.

The one staying at home isn't working for free. They are working for food, clothes, a spouse that loves them, and a house and car and.... Just because they don't get paid money doesn't mean they are "working for free".

I can't stand people that act like being a stay at home dad or mom is the hardest job in the world. Seriously? Quite with the entitlement mentality. I design things where if I screw up, hundreds of people could die. THATS stress.

P.S. Not attacking anyone in particular, I'm making generalized statements.

I am raising 4 children 1 of whom has autism. I cook, clean, and do laundry. I mow the lawns and I make sure all 4 children do their school work. I go to parent teacher conferences, volunteer in the kids class, go to back to school nights and attend regular IEP meetings (for a child with special needs in the school system). Bring home papers to correct for one of my kids teachers. I volunteer to teach a wed. night class for 1rst and 2nd graders at my church. I spent a year and a half crying most days because we did not know what was wrong with our son and why he did not act or talk like other children his age. I went to his kindergarten class everyday to try to help him get through his day. In the midst of all this I still did all the jobs I mentioned above in addition to that I still do special things for my husband who brings home the cash. I work 7 days a week sometimes I am on call in the middle of the night. I clean up vomit, poop, and snot in addition to any other gross thing a kid can make a mess with. My job is pretty difficult at times. But you know what it is the best most rewarding job I could ever have. But to have some man who has never done this job kinda bash it is insulting!

I know you said that you were not attacking anyone in particular and I don't feel attacked but I did think you needed to be educated on the job of a stay at home parent. If I mess up on this journey I could destroy 4 lives that mean the world to me. The people whose lives are in my hands are the MOST important people I know. So to act like the job of a stay at home parent is small and meaningless is an insult to ALL parents who chose to do this difficult job full time. I agree with your comment on payment that is true. You just had such a callous almost snotty attitude about the job I do everyday including weekends and holidays.

Bravo :flowerforyou:

P.S. My son has ADHD and is on the spectrum also, I could not find anyone who would take care of him for me when he was a toddler, he was too hard work.

My close single-mom friends that GET child support, know better then to complain to me, I work my *kitten* off to support my child with no help. Yes I know who the father is, and he decided he didnt want to be a father, I had his rights sealed. $3500 to seal his rights $10,000+ to hunt him down and try to get him to court so I could win SOME TYPE of child support then risk a judge granting him visitation to screw with my childs head? No thank you! I didnt start dating without a child present until I moved to AZ and my parents "watch him" after he's in bed for the night, rarely before. I have had most of my clothes since before I was pregnant, as well as shoes.

If you get enough child support to cover half your rent and all your daycare expenses, plus get every other weekend where your children go to a loving home and you go out and party. DO NOT complain to me when you dont have money to buy a $100 dress:explode: Do not complain that dad is more like a "fun uncle" atleast yours has a decent role model (for the most part):mad: and when you have a closet full of $80 shirts $150 slacks, god only know how expensive of Gucci shoes (that I KNOW are this season so you did not get a "deal") do not complain about buying your child a $40 bike

I don't have kids, but my mom worked for WIC and would tell me all sorts of stories of people abusing the system and how they claimed they didn't have diapers but have a brand new car and a iPhone.

ummm who does check in? seriously do people really do stuff like that? I mean really grown up married people?

Oh and stay at home parents, its a job too, harder than lots of other jobs, you are not a slave or some sort of domestic appliance, just because one parent works outside the home and gets a pay cheque, the other is working longer hours for FREE, it does not mean that the one who gets to swan off to the office every morning gets to be a lazy *kitten* do nothing when they get home. I would still expect equal shares on cooking, cleaning and shopping.

At the risk of offending all the feminists on here, thats bullsh!t.

That job isn't that hard. Yes, it's tiring, its depressing, its irritating, and extremely time consuming, but if you think spouse is gonna be fine with you not working, and not cleaning, and not cooking, and acting like your job is so terribly hard, good luck with that.

I'm not talking EVERY day have everything perfect, by any means. I'm saying give it your best effort.

THIS APPLIES TO MEN OR WOMEN.

The one staying at home isn't working for free. They are working for food, clothes, a spouse that loves them, and a house and car and.... Just because they don't get paid money doesn't mean they are "working for free".

I can't stand people that act like being a stay at home dad or mom is the hardest job in the world. Seriously? Quite with the entitlement mentality. I design things where if I screw up, hundreds of people could die. THATS stress.

P.S. Not attacking anyone in particular, I'm making generalized statements.

I don't understand how people can have so many unwanted pregnancies! I hate seeing women with 3 or 4 kids, feeding them junk food and ignoring them. Didn't you learn with the first one? use protection!