DonT touch my food!
phubb3
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So I know this sounds mean. But after I fed my husband his food. I walked into the kitchen just as he was about to try my pre weighted, calculated lunch. Now I'm mean because I won't share! THAT'S MY FOOD!
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Doesn't sound mean at all. I measure my food for a reason. Now refusing to cook for my family when I'm cooking for myself anyway, or taking all the leftovers without offering it round would be mean. But eating my portion that I've weighed and is smaller than everyone else's anyway? Nope. Not mean.8
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i can understand, i will not eat anything unless it has been measured or counted to the right amount4
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I understand. Its not the same but i have issues with people at work wanting to 'share' my food i bring in. I normally bring in enough that i can split my food in half and eat twice during my 8-10 hour shift.
But you know, im mean because i wont share.4 -
I get it! I'm very protective of my food. Especially my stash of dried bananas.2
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I don't mind sharing just as long as their sample/bite isn't massive. Slightly less calories for me. That's okay.
One time, I made myself pasta salad for dinner. When dinner time rolled by, there was only half left even though I mentioned to everyone that it was my supper. I was NOT impressed.
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Couples can tend to share food off eachother's plates, and breaking that bonding habit can be tough. Go easy on him. A simple "I love you, and I know this is going to be hard to get used to, but the next time you reach for my food I'm going to stab you with my fork" would do the trick.
Hey, how about setting aside a few bites for him to try if you're having something different?24 -
DezYaoified wrote: »I understand. Its not the same but i have issues with people at work wanting to 'share' my food i bring in. I normally bring in enough that i can split my food in half and eat twice during my 8-10 hour shift.
But you know, im mean because i wont share.
Are these people in kindergarten? Meals during breaks in one's work shift are not social occasions; there's nothing "mean" about not bringing enough to share (in fact, they're being rude and mean by asking in the first place and then calling you mean for saying no). But if it's a chronic problem, and it relates to something home-made, maybe you could occasionally make a little extra and bring it in and offer it to people, saying, "Since you're always asking, and I had some extra ingredients this time, I made a little extra today. Would you like to try it?"5 -
This is one reason I'm so grateful for my husband. We have two toddlers and both frequently want extra food off a parent's plate. We cook enough food so that he can have a big serving then they're allowed to have some of daddy's if they want seconds - but mum's food is measured so they can't have it.
It might seem like a really little thing, but it's been awesome to have that support!
OP is not mean at all!3 -
PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Couples can tend to share food off eachother's plates, and breaking that bonding habit can be tough. Go easy on him. A simple "I love you, and I know this is going to be hard to get used to, but the next time you reach for my food I'm going to stab you with my fork" would do the trick.
Hey, how about setting aside a few bites for him to try if you're having something different?
I have done this. Not to my husband, but to a a greedy work colleague who was always too cheap to buy his own food when whenever we went to the pub for lunch, but was more than happy to help himself from everyone else's plates. He tried to steal a piece of scampi so I stabbed him. He was absolutely outraged, and accused me of over-reacting. I just told him I didn't give a stuff and I would happily do it again.14 -
I give my dog his bite of my meal before I weigh it. After weighing I get stingy.7
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Taking food from my plate without asking is just rude even if it is not carefully portioned and weighed. I'd feel stabby.
I'm okay with dh grabbing some of my popcorn though. So I guess it is okay for a snack but not a meal maybe?0 -
When I read the title of you post--this was all i could think about ...
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Oh I snap, If it's counted and weighed don't even! You would think husband would have figured it out by now.
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I've never been possessive of food, but after I've carefully weighed everything, I don't like sharing my plate either. I'm happy to make another for someone else, though!2
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Thank you for sharing this, I thought I was the only one who would get mad when people took some of my food... It's not just taking. Just asking for some pisses me off. "Dude, I packed my own! Why didn't you do the same before coming out?!"3
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If it's weighed and measured it's mine, all mine. Touch it and die.
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I used to mind a lot since I weighed it perfectly and I didn't want anyone interfering with my portion. Now, I don't mind anymore because it's just less calories for me! Also... sharing is caring.0
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Lol. I'm the same way. Before I lost weight, it was because I love food and wanted it all for myself. Today, it's because I love food and want it all for myself AND because it's already been logged.2
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I counted those calories, I'm eating those calories. Everyone knows don't touch my food ever. I've always been one of those people that don't want anyone touching my plate. My food, mine. Your food, yours. Simple1
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Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.0 -
Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.1 -
Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
For me it's the presumption behind it. Nobody has a right to my stuff. Whether they ask, or just lean over and take it, the expectation is that I'll let them have it. It's like they think they're entitled to it.
If it was a partner, as in the OP's case, then even though they probably do have a right to some of my stuff, I'd be annoyed because I'd have explained to them why I weigh my food and expect them to understand that once it's weighed, it's mine and I'm planning to eat it. If it's someone other than a partner, what makes them think they have the right?
I am definitely not a believer that sharing is caring. I don't take food when people offer it, unless it's something like a portion of chips that I've ordered with the intention of sharing with a friend, or at a bring your own buffet. So if I don't take other people's food, why do they have the right to take mine?3 -
OP I feel the same way when I'm weighing and measuring. I find it hurtful when they want some of my carefully weighed food because to me when I'm trying so hard, it feels like they're not being supportive of my efforts. Lack of support yep that's what hurts my feelings.
If you feel like sharing you could maybe weigh the food before and after his bite and use the recipe builder to figure out what he ate. I know you might have to wait until you wash the container to weigh that, kind of a pain. On the other hand I've noticed when someone wants a bite of my food they take the best bite, like the big piece of chicken with none of the greens, so that might not work.0 -
I don't mind sharing a bite.0
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PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.
So it's okay to threaten someone just because you are hungry? In some places, just the threat alone is illegal.0 -
PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.
So it's okay to threaten someone just because you are hungry? In some places, just the threat alone is illegal.
You're taking it a bit too seriously.6 -
BruinsGal_91 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Couples can tend to share food off eachother's plates, and breaking that bonding habit can be tough. Go easy on him. A simple "I love you, and I know this is going to be hard to get used to, but the next time you reach for my food I'm going to stab you with my fork" would do the trick.
Hey, how about setting aside a few bites for him to try if you're having something different?
I have done this. Not to my husband, but to a a greedy work colleague who was always too cheap to buy his own food when whenever we went to the pub for lunch, but was more than happy to help himself from everyone else's plates. He tried to steal a piece of scampi so I stabbed him. He was absolutely outraged, and accused me of over-reacting. I just told him I didn't give a stuff and I would happily do it again.PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.
So it's okay to threaten someone just because you are hungry? In some places, just the threat alone is illegal.
You're taking it a bit too seriously.
Oh really? Because the above post clearly says she stabbed him, which is assault. I don't care how hungry you are, assault or threatening assault is not okay.0 -
BruinsGal_91 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Couples can tend to share food off eachother's plates, and breaking that bonding habit can be tough. Go easy on him. A simple "I love you, and I know this is going to be hard to get used to, but the next time you reach for my food I'm going to stab you with my fork" would do the trick.
Hey, how about setting aside a few bites for him to try if you're having something different?
I have done this. Not to my husband, but to a a greedy work colleague who was always too cheap to buy his own food when whenever we went to the pub for lunch, but was more than happy to help himself from everyone else's plates. He tried to steal a piece of scampi so I stabbed him. He was absolutely outraged, and accused me of over-reacting. I just told him I didn't give a stuff and I would happily do it again.PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.
So it's okay to threaten someone just because you are hungry? In some places, just the threat alone is illegal.
You're taking it a bit too seriously.
Oh really? Because the above post clearly says she stabbed him, which is assault. I don't care how hungry you are, assault or threatening assault is not okay.
Some states allow deadly force in defense of property (ETA the value of the property being a factor). I personally don't agree with it, but it's protected by law. So what's your point?2 -
BruinsGal_91 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Couples can tend to share food off eachother's plates, and breaking that bonding habit can be tough. Go easy on him. A simple "I love you, and I know this is going to be hard to get used to, but the next time you reach for my food I'm going to stab you with my fork" would do the trick.
Hey, how about setting aside a few bites for him to try if you're having something different?
I have done this. Not to my husband, but to a a greedy work colleague who was always too cheap to buy his own food when whenever we went to the pub for lunch, but was more than happy to help himself from everyone else's plates. He tried to steal a piece of scampi so I stabbed him. He was absolutely outraged, and accused me of over-reacting. I just told him I didn't give a stuff and I would happily do it again.PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Maybe it is just me, but I really can't see why people get so possessive over food. Yeah I get it-you took the time to weigh it, but in the grand scheme of things, is one bite really going to make that big of a difference in the calories? Granted, it would be rude if they did it without asking first, that I do agree with.
Also-stabbing then with a fork? Seriously? That's assault. You really think it is appropriate to assault someone over food?
Edit: I'm not saying they have the right to touch your food, but I think assaulting them is over reacting.
Because we're hungry.
Also, I don't personally advocate stabbing someone with a fork. Just threatening. I mean, at least give fair warning that you're gonna do it. I get the desire to follow through, though.
So it's okay to threaten someone just because you are hungry? In some places, just the threat alone is illegal.
You're taking it a bit too seriously.
Oh really? Because the above post clearly says she stabbed him, which is assault. I don't care how hungry you are, assault or threatening assault is not okay.
I wasn't there, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say the guy didn't have to have a fork surgically removed from his hand. Some people have no boundaries. I bet he doesn't try to mooch off her plate again!5
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