Help with takeaway guilt!

dbarford94
dbarford94 Posts: 3 Member
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
Hi guys,

I just had a small grilled chicken shish kebab from my local kebab shop, with a small pitta and tomato, lettuce, onion and red cabbage. I had NO sauce and no meat other than the grilled chicken (which was taken off of the skewer and put on the grill infront of me!

Do you think this was really bad? I feel so guilty :(

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  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,502 Member
    Why would it be bad?
  • 2011rocket3touring
    2011rocket3touring Posts: 1,345 Member
    WTF? Why feel guilty? I'm down 47lbs (in about a year though) and I had pizza last weekend and hoping for some ice cream this weekend.
  • SuzySunshine99
    SuzySunshine99 Posts: 2,990 Member
    Does it fit within your calorie goal? If yes, then it's fine. If not, then log it and move on, accepting the fact that you went over for the day and will do better tomorrow.
  • kenyonhaff
    kenyonhaff Posts: 1,377 Member
    Well, have you logged it? Do you know how much of each component there was? How does that measure into your eating plan?

    Takeaway is not necessarily a bad thing.

    The individual components actually sound like a decent meal, and I'm honestly a bit jealous.

    And even if you completely "blew it" it's only one day. Live and learn. And sometimes a bit of a splurge is just fine. It's eating patterns over time that make a difference, not one meal that one time (or even a couple of times).
  • dbarford94
    dbarford94 Posts: 3 Member
    Well I previously lost 110 pounds, and have put it all back on so i'm really trying to be good. In essence it's just grilled chicken and salad, i'm just working myself up. Down 12lbs in two weeks so far!
  • StaciMarie1974
    StaciMarie1974 Posts: 4,138 Member
    Food is not bad. Food is not good. Food is fuel. Try not to associate food with emotions - it will help in your journey.
  • kenyonhaff
    kenyonhaff Posts: 1,377 Member
    OK, OK... breathe. This isn't about "being good". Eating a kabob is not something that needs to be labelled "bad" or "good"...it's just eating.

    But 12 lbs in two weeks seems pretty extreme and is raising some red flags for me. That's pretty steep and likely not sustainable. I'm wondering if you're approaching this is a healthy way mentally and physically.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    StaciMarie1974 wrote: »
    Food is not bad. Food is not good. Food is fuel. Try not to associate food with emotions - it will help in your journey.

    This
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    kenyonhaff wrote: »
    OK, OK... breathe. This isn't about "being good". Eating a kabob is not something that needs to be labelled "bad" or "good"...it's just eating.

    But 12 lbs in two weeks seems pretty extreme and is raising some red flags for me. That's pretty steep and likely not sustainable. I'm wondering if you're approaching this is a healthy way mentally and physically.

    OP has 100lbs to lose so most of it will have been water.

    The feelings of guilt are a bigger red flag IMO
  • dbarford94
    dbarford94 Posts: 3 Member
    kenyonhaff wrote: »
    OK, OK... breathe. This isn't about "being good". Eating a kabob is not something that needs to be labelled "bad" or "good"...it's just eating.

    But 12 lbs in two weeks seems pretty extreme and is raising some red flags for me. That's pretty steep and likely not sustainable. I'm wondering if you're approaching this is a healthy way mentally and physically.

    This was simply from changing my diet as it was pretty bad before. I'm not starving myself in the slightest, I lost weight relatively quickly last time. The more I lost, the slower it became. I'm pretty sure it's common knowledge that when you're overweight and make a drastic (but healthy change) it's going to have pretty rapid results.
  • kenyonhaff
    kenyonhaff Posts: 1,377 Member
    dbarford94 wrote: »
    kenyonhaff wrote: »
    OK, OK... breathe. This isn't about "being good". Eating a kabob is not something that needs to be labelled "bad" or "good"...it's just eating.

    But 12 lbs in two weeks seems pretty extreme and is raising some red flags for me. That's pretty steep and likely not sustainable. I'm wondering if you're approaching this is a healthy way mentally and physically.

    This was simply from changing my diet as it was pretty bad before. I'm not starving myself in the slightest, I lost weight relatively quickly last time. The more I lost, the slower it became. I'm pretty sure it's common knowledge that when you're overweight and make a drastic (but healthy change) it's going to have pretty rapid results.

    Sure, sure... and I'm just checking in on that. And glad to hear. It's a common enough thing to hear.

    But I hear the black-and-white thinking that a lot of us have programmed into us...either you are good or you've been bad on the diet...rather than seeing it as an overall plan with a lot of grey areas and that's OK. The danger is that if you label your eating--no matter what it was--as either, it leads to some weird, dangerous, and distructive thinking about eating plans. It also tangles up self-worth with food in a disordered way.

    Frankly, the meal sounds delicious. And relatively healthy. Ideally you can get a sense of what you ate portion wise but that's hard to do if you eat out. Sometimes it's impossible to weigh or measure. It happens and that's OK. Enjoy it.
  • tinamarie6624
    tinamarie6624 Posts: 182 Member
    My thoughts are these and I make no judgments either way. You are the only person who can assess whether you have eaten something that you should or should not. Even if you think that eating that was bad, feeling guilty has nothing beneficial to offer you. It is a useless emotion, especially when it comes to dieting. Here is how I deal with that situation. I tell myself that I did it and I can't change the past! Then I move on trying to do better.

    I have lost 191.6 Lbs so far (still have 77 to go) and I have to tell myself every day what a great job I'm doing (even when I mess up). In my opinion, my mental state of well being is very important. Those days when I mess up or just have no loss are the days I need reassurance from myself the most.

    I hope this helps and wish you the best for your journey.
  • TheJourneyToFabulous
    TheJourneyToFabulous Posts: 381 Member
    kenyonhaff wrote: »
    OK, OK... breathe. This isn't about "being good". Eating a kabob is not something that needs to be labelled "bad" or "good"...it's just eating.

    But 12 lbs in two weeks seems pretty extreme and is raising some red flags for me. That's pretty steep and likely not sustainable. I'm wondering if you're approaching this is a healthy way mentally and physically.

    I lost about that in my first 2 weeks as I have over 100lbs to lose so it can be done safely. I think most water weight.

    OP just let yourself enjoy, log as best as you can and tomorrow is a whole new day. I was the same a few weeks ago felt terrible eating something 'bad' but you get in the mindset of life happens aslong as you dont end up doing it everyday
  • crazyycatlady1
    crazyycatlady1 Posts: 292 Member
    edited April 2017
    Ready2Rock206 wrote: »
    Feeling bad about grilled chicken and salad is a major red flag. You really need to work on your relationship with food. Food is fuel. Food isn't good or bad - it just is food. You should never feel guilty about giving your body the fuel it needs to survive. Do you feel guilty when you put gas in your car?

    This. I ate out all the time during my weight loss phase (2-3 times a week), and I had no problem losing the extra weight and also improving all my health markers in the process. Nothing wrong with eating out, just fit it into your calorie goals.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,055 Member
    I'm not sure I agree with this article, but I did find it interesting: The Strange Way Being “Good” Hurts Your Willpower
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