What happened..... :*(
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It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Um.....wait... What?0 -
Vikka the problem is someday you might become important by accident. Imagining a scenario--
Somebody's drowning at the beach and you've been swimming a mile a day for years so you jump in and save them, and then after building you up for a day everyone in the news media digs into your online history trying to get the scoop on dirt to take down the hero, because drama of building up and tearing down sells advertisements.
Whether in public or a 'private room', never say anything on the internet that you wouldn't want to own if it were a headline on the New York times.2 -
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.4 -
BowlingForHollars wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Wait, private groups??
Yes, private groups here on MFP. That's all I know as I would never participate in that kind of *kitten*.
That sucks and is sad as well....
There are some mean people here
There are all kinds of people here. I have been talked about by people here through PM, on Kik, on Instagram, maybe MFP private groups and who knows where else. At one point I almost left because of it, but you know what? F them. If people want to talk they will talk, it doesn't make what they say right. It sucks and it hurts, but the people who really care to get to know me also know the truth. The rest I have to learn to ignore.
Don't you ever go!
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Um.....wait... What?
Yep it's true1 -
FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
@FeraFilia I love that quote.5 -
FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
@FeraFilia I love that quote.
Well, it's an overreaction on my part. But there are some thing I share on my feed with friends because it's semi-anonymous and a safe place because of it, and being able to get all that stupid stuff out of my head and use other folks as a sounding board helps me make better decisions. Now I guess I'm second guessing whether or not it was worth it. You're right, I wouldn't want to have any part in that sort of group.1 -
BowlingForHollars wrote: »FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
It's the people that leave and come back with an "anonymous" profile, claiming that they're new, causing the issues. It's absolute LUnacy. Or maybe I'm just deLUsional.
Meow.
So you are saying Lulu did something?0 -
FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
@FeraFilia I love that quote.
My way of thinking is... If you let them run you off, they win. And that quote pops into my head frequently, and is the reason I keep my mouth shut about people 95% of the time. The rest of the time I just can't quite help myself.
Nobody's perfect.1 -
I've only been here a month so I'm still learning what to say and what not to say.
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FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
@FeraFilia I love that quote.
I know I give off a certain persona here that people prob think I am a certain way when I am not. It's just fun to be flirty and outrageous sometimes. So I wouldn't be surprised if people talk about me based on what I've posted in the forums. Its pretty pathetic to be part of a group that does talk about other members and especially despicable to share private stuff that was not shared publically.
Some people have fun.
Other people hate seeing people have fun.2 -
SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Wait, private groups?? That may explain why I see someone with 10,000 posts who rarely posts on the public threads.
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BowlingForHollars wrote: »FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
@FeraFilia I love that quote.
I know I give off a certain persona here that people prob think I am a certain way when I am not. It's just fun to be flirty and outrageous sometimes. So I wouldn't be surprised if people talk about me based on what I've posted in the forums. Its pretty pathetic to be part of a group that does talk about other members and especially despicable to share private stuff that was not shared publically.
I totally agree with you. I feel the same way.
I joke around, but not to hurt others. What's the point in that. Plus, those that I joke with have a similar sense of humor, and get it. Lately there has just been a mean dark cloud. I genuinely feel bad for someone that gets their thrill from hurting and attacking others maliciously. I'll defend my friends. I've even asked for some to prove me wrong about some of the less popular friends I've had, but they usually fall silent then. Keep looking petty and stick to your little catty group. I'm over it.
I've said it before... I will never understand the mentality of a person who cannot feel good about him or herself without trying someone else down. I mean, it's always nice to feel better about yourself... but it's not necessary, at all, to try to make someone feel like less in the process.2 -
Legend tells there was once a secret kik group of women from here that shared certain pics that were sent unsolicited to them.
Keep it classy yall or some of the mean kids will share the goods.5 -
FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
I know I give off a certain persona here that people prob think I am a certain way when I am not. It's just fun to be flirty and outrageous sometimes. So I wouldn't be surprised if people talk about me based on what I've posted in the forums. Its pretty pathetic to be part of a group that does talk about other members and especially despicable to share private stuff that was not shared publically.
Agree.
And I've been talked about before IRL and it sucks because I do my darnedest to be nice to everyone. And if I don't like a particular person/personality I just steer clear when I can and keep my mouth shut. Drama is for teens. I ain't got time for that shiz.2 -
@lstrat115 wrote: »FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
I know I give off a certain persona here that people prob think I am a certain way when I am not. It's just fun to be flirty and outrageous sometimes. So I wouldn't be surprised if people talk about me based on what I've posted in the forums. Its pretty pathetic to be part of a group that does talk about other members and especially despicable to share private stuff that was not shared publically.
Not to be the devil's advocate here, but.... I am totally going to....
In this thread we are talking about people, talking about people. Lol.
This whole MFP experience has taught me a lot. One of those things is that I have a lot to work on, not just physically. I won't pretend I have never said a bad word about another person or another MFP member. Does it make it right? Nope! None of us are innocent. I don't want to look like I am playing a victim because of what I said. I was just being real. People will talk when they are angry, had a bad day, outraged, jealous, hangry, whatever.... I am not making excuses for anyone's behavior, but I am acknowledging the fact that there are times when we all act very ugly and I am going to use some of what I have read here and personal reflections as motivation to be better.
Maybe some other people here will do the same
You are right. Although we aren't naming names here but you definitely have a point.
We all have things to work on and I try to overlook flaws in others because I hope they'll do the same for me.
Thank you for posting this. I will use it as motivation to be better too.3 -
FairhavenDS wrote: »
It's been feeling dirty and off to me since I found out there are private groups for people to talk about other members and share information that they've either been told in private or that was posted on someone's page.
Not going to lie, this kind of makes me want to deactivate, having read this. It's a site based around support and encouragement. This is why we can't have nice things.
I wouldn't deactivate but it makes me want to not post in the forums, especially jokingly because someone might take something I said out of context. People are going to talk no matter what. It sucks though. I wouldn't ever want to be a part of a closed group just to badmouth people. That's so low.
I know I give off a certain persona here that people prob think I am a certain way when I am not. It's just fun to be flirty and outrageous sometimes. So I wouldn't be surprised if people talk about me based on what I've posted in the forums. Its pretty pathetic to be part of a group that does talk about other members and especially despicable to share private stuff that was not shared publically.
Agree.
And I've been talked about before IRL and it sucks because I do my darnedest to be nice to everyone. And if I don't like a particular person/personality I just steer clear when I can and keep my mouth shut. Drama is for teens. I ain't got time for that shiz.
I'm with you. I think it's pretty obvious who I like and who I don't because I typically just keep my trap shut when it comes to those I don't. Lol
Best way to operate, I think.1 -
[Yes, private groups here on MFP. That's all I know as I would never participate in that kind of *kitten*.
I've been in a few over many years. I am not one to participate in the smack talk folley. My standard response is usually, "I don't have a problem with them". Anyone who knows me knows I like to look at the good in even the most difficult people. I usually get booted out of them because I am "that guy" that calls BS on things. That said, it is also interesting to see the dynamic of things from other perspectives.
Honestly, it is interesting that many people might say that don't get into that kind of stuff, but the private messages and would tell things different.
Meh, I like everyone, but I don't have that kind of interest and energy to put into things here, or any of the other websites I am part of. I can barely keep up with usernames.
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What's this thread about again?0
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Sorry..... Not sorry. I've been trying to hold that knowledge in but I couldn't do it any longer.
What secrets will we learn next?0 -
Sorry..... Not sorry. I've been trying to hold that knowledge in but I couldn't do it any longer.
What secrets will we learn next?
Lol I have no other secrets to share. What happened on Kik stays on Kik
Well. Clearly that's not always the case.... But your secrets are safe with me.
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I need to learn this art. Is this a learned skill, or must one be born with it?0 -
I'm in! As long as I don't have to also wear a tiny bikini.0
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