Why does it feel like he doent notice me?

LeonaB17 · July 2011

I love my huband dearly, but sometimes i'll get all dolled up and cute and sexy and his eyes still remain glued to the xbox. And people at work who knew me when i was bigger say - oh i bet your hsuband is sooo excited to have such a new wife now. I just say to them, well kinda i guess. I know he loves me whethere i'm 330 pounds or 220 pounds b/c he always has.l...but i still need him to show it and i wish that he could be appreciative of the work i've done. Part of the reason i'm losing all thhis weight is so that WE cna have a baby! Idk I just felt like ranting.

crisanderson27 · July 2011

Sometimes guys are completely oblivious to what's going on around them. This isn't an excuse...it's an explanation. We're often creatures of habit hun...and it's up to YOU to shake it up...because if you don't, he'll do the same thing day in and out forever lol.

It goes like 'things are good...I don't have to DO anything to keep them that way, and that's good too, cause if I do the wrong thing, they could get worse!'. It's not even a conscious thought process lol...it's pure instinct =D.

marquesajen · July 2011

Tell him! Guys are about as psychic as girls are. That is to say, not at all. For awhile my husband and I would assume the other knew what we needed, but we finally learned to say "I need space", "I need attention", "I need recognition". You husband probably thinks that it's enough that you know he loves you, and it is, but on this journey you're on you deserve some praise!

If worse comes to worse, turn off the xbox and distract him.

peggyalex · July 2011

I have been there and felt the same way. I think its the place in marriage where they don't feel like they have to say they just think we know that they think we are hot. I had to have a talk with mine and explain to him that I NEED to hear him tell me that he thinks I look great and that he is very proud of my accomplishments. He was telling others just not me. Good luck! I have been there and know how that makes a person feel.

Scott613 · July 2011

I love my huband dearly, but sometimes i'll get all dolled up and cute and sexy and his eyes still remain glued to the xbox. And people at work who knew me when i was bigger say - oh i bet your hsuband is sooo excited to have such a new wife now. I just say to them, well kinda i guess. I know he loves me whethere i'm 330 pounds or 220 pounds b/c he always has.l...but i still need him to show it and i wish that he could be appreciative of the work i've done. Part of the reason i'm losing all thhis weight is so that WE cna have a baby! Idk I just felt like ranting.

Get into COD then he'll notice you:-)

heidi_79 · July 2011

I know exactly how you feel and ask myself the same question... Hang in there

springtrio · July 2011

I used to get really pissed about this, too. Then I talked to his mother about it. I started crying and told her "I'm frickin hot now" and he doesn't even know I'm alive. She told me she raised him to be an honest, loving person and NEVER to judge a woman on their weight. He's one of the few who doesn't. Sounds like yours is the same. Count your blessings (and I say this as nicely as I can, and not in a mean tone) because there is a woman out there crying because her husband is ashamed she's gained a little bit of weight! After that talk, I've never looked at it the same way again (and never asked him again if he prefers me big or small).

capNramsey · July 2011

Don't have advice on the husband situation. But looking at your stats I'm impressed. You lost over 100 lbs since January! That is impressive. He better notice. I also know with my boyfriend I've been dating for three years, he sees me often sometimes it's hard to notice the weight loss. Sometimes I don't notice it until my size changes. But I'm sure he's very proud and you should be very proud of yourself.

Jonathan_Episcopo · July 2011

I agree, as a husband, I would boast to people that my wife lost so much or whatever, or how often she worked out. yada yada yada, but for some reason it never seemed necessary to tell her I was proud of her or that she was still very attractive to me. She stopped trying and now that I am working a fitness program, she has little interest seemingly because she doesnt think it will change my attitude towards her. As the other gentlemen said, ladies if you are not hearing what you want to hear, you have to let us know about it!

sunkisses · July 2011

I lost 190 pounds when I left the dude who would rather play xBox than exist in the real world with me. Game over. Thanks for playin'. Never had that problem again.

minadeathclutch · July 2011

I love my huband dearly, but sometimes i'll get all dolled up and cute and sexy and his eyes still remain glued to the xbox. And people at work who knew me when i was bigger say - oh i bet your hsuband is sooo excited to have such a new wife now. I just say to them, well kinda i guess. I know he loves me whethere i'm 330 pounds or 220 pounds b/c he always has.l...but i still need him to show it and i wish that he could be appreciative of the work i've done. Part of the reason i'm losing all thhis weight is so that WE cna have a baby! Idk I just felt like ranting.

Get into COD then he'll notice you:-)

SO TRUE lol i play call of duty with my lovebug hahaha. but he just notices how ****ty i am at aiming hahhaa

minadeathclutch · July 2011

but anyway. guys are well guys haha. mine rarely gives me any compliments anymore. he said my dog was beautiful just like her mom (me lol) the other day.. and i was telling him i want to get a bathing suit when i lose 10 more lbs, and he said well youll look great in it now or then whenever. lol.

for my birthday next month, im getting the fanciest sexiest dress and fancy *kitten* shoes, and we're going on a fancy date... he has no clue what im gonna show up in, and I'm sure hes going to freak out when he sees me lol I'm gonna go ALL out.

i guess they just assume that we know... but my god it feels amazing when they say something nice. BLAH.

LoveleeB · July 2011

I love my huband dearly, but sometimes i'll get all dolled up and cute and sexy and his eyes still remain glued to the xbox. And people at work who knew me when i was bigger say - oh i bet your hsuband is sooo excited to have such a new wife now. I just say to them, well kinda i guess. I know he loves me whethere i'm 330 pounds or 220 pounds b/c he always has.l...but i still need him to show it and i wish that he could be appreciative of the work i've done. Part of the reason i'm losing all thhis weight is so that WE cna have a baby! Idk I just felt like ranting.

Get into COD then he'll notice you:-)

True Story... that works for me hahaha

crisanderson27 · July 2011

I love my huband dearly, but sometimes i'll get all dolled up and cute and sexy and his eyes still remain glued to the xbox. And people at work who knew me when i was bigger say - oh i bet your hsuband is sooo excited to have such a new wife now. I just say to them, well kinda i guess. I know he loves me whethere i'm 330 pounds or 220 pounds b/c he always has.l...but i still need him to show it and i wish that he could be appreciative of the work i've done. Part of the reason i'm losing all thhis weight is so that WE cna have a baby! Idk I just felt like ranting.

Get into COD then he'll notice you:-)

True Story... that works for me hahaha

My ex and I played just about every major MMORPG together at one point or another lol. Even after we split up we were still playing Rift together. We couldn't stand being in the same room...but we got along fine in game.

Crazy how that works lol.

Why does it feel like he doent notice me?

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