Is getting a lap dance considered cheating?

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  • plaidshirtgirl
    plaidshirtgirl Posts: 58 Member
    It's not cheating technically but I have had problems with this and I am not okay with it. It is just my two cents. You should discuss with him and set rules.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    edited April 2017
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?

    @israttt111 answered this yesterday.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking

    i thought he was denying it all and wouldn't admit he'd actually gotten one? wasn't that the problem yesterday?

    OJFMFhH.gif

    Ye he finally told me after I begged him that he went by himself got one dance and left.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Op this thread is gonna get shut down to, main thing is it doesn't matter what we think! We all would handle the situation differently. If YOU think it's cheating then dump him! There's nothing stopping you, just silly to seek out what others think. Because if you want MY opinion, no it's not cheating it's a guy going to a strip club, i go to them to so idc. I feel women who get angry about men going to stripclubs ether have major insecurities and do not trust there man, or it's religious. Ether way you look at it you're hoping people agree with you by making this thread... let's just rip off the bandaid right now. 1. If you don't trust him 2. If you hate how he goes to the girls joints 3. And anything else you have held over his head...DUMP HIM not science to figure out if you're not happy in a relationship or trying to change the other humans personality for your emotional benefit is just wrong....

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking

    He finally admitted it? After 2 years?

    Ye I was actually relieved he finally told me, I was more pissed he hid it from me then actually lied about going
  • Ms_Sicilian
    Ms_Sicilian Posts: 531 Member
    [/quote]

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking [/quote]

    Good! Now that he told you, you should already know your limits, therefore not need our opinions on the matter and make a healthy adult decision on what you do with this convo not blurt it out on the internet
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    ahhh but what about emotional cheating? what if he confides in this stripper his inner most thoughts and feelings but not you?

    Is there a lot of deep conversations being had in the champagne room?

    @israttt111 can answer this.

    I should talk to this @israttt111 and compare notes......

    jesus christ - 15 of you.



  • Ben_there_done_that
    Ben_there_done_that Posts: 732 Member
    Wait, it was two years ago? Who cares now? What, are you guys keeping score or something?
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  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member

    Lol girl he already told me he went and got a dance. He asked me if I think its cheating and it got me thinking [/quote]

    Good! Now that he told you, you should already know your limits, therefore not need our opinions on the matter and make a healthy adult decision on what you do with this convo not blurt it out on the internet[/quote]

    Nahhhh I can post whatever I want
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    Please break up with this guy...for his sake.

    :D

  • BedsideTableKangaroo
    BedsideTableKangaroo Posts: 736 Member
    edited April 2017
    i think the topic was pretty well covered in the other thread, from all angles. it has been beaten like a dude's lap at a strip club. the real issue isn't strippers or lap dances.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    You btches are rude af I asked an opinion and y'all are attacking me wtf
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    its evident we are being trolled but who cares.

    Helps pass the time during a dry period at work!
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    i think the topic was pretty well covered in the other thread, from all angles. it has been beaten like a dude's lap at a strip club. the real issue isn't stippers or lap dances.

    This.
  • HeliumIsNoble
    HeliumIsNoble Posts: 1,213 Member
    There isn't a right or wrong answer. It's personal opinion. It's been said in this thread that you shouldn't try to change him , but that works both ways- equally, he shouldn't try to change you .

    If you think it's cheating, that is just as valid as any other woman saying it isn't.

    For myself, I recognise that some women are fine with it; however, none of those women is married to my husband and it's my opinions on the matter that are relevant within our relationship, not the opinion of anyone else. What my cousin's best friend's workmate thinks is irrelevant!
  • Timbur_Wolf
    Timbur_Wolf Posts: 116 Member
    Please break up with this guy...for his sake.

    Savage lol
  • Timbur_Wolf
    Timbur_Wolf Posts: 116 Member
    its evident we are being trolled but who cares.

    Helps pass the time during a dry period at work!

    I was always taught NOT to feed the trolls :/
  • BedsideTableKangaroo
    BedsideTableKangaroo Posts: 736 Member
    Damn you fat ppl on here are RUDE

    i had to quote and spell it out so you'd know who clicked "awesome"
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member

    There isn't a right or wrong answer. It's personal opinion. It's been said in this thread that you shouldn't try to change him , but that works both ways- equally, he shouldn't try to change you .

    If you think it's cheating, that is just as valid as any other woman saying it isn't.

    For myself, I recognise that some women are fine with it; however, none of those women is married to my husband and it's my opinions on the matter that are relevant within our relationship, not the opinion of anyone else. What my cousin's best friend's workmate thinks is irrelevant!

    well said - to each their own
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    When your man/girlfriend gets a lap dance from a stripper do you think that is considered cheating?

    (my old thread got deleted) :'(

    Not cheating unless he lies about it. However, in my marriage, if I want a lap dance, my wife will be happy to give me one, and does, quite frequently.

    Try giving your man a lap dance.
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  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    if your s/o violated the boundaries of your relationship what you call it doesn't matter. Dip
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    Enough with this, jesus. It's your boyfriend, it's your relationship. If it bothers you, then it's something you need to work out with your BF. If it doesn't then you don't.

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