There's a sentence I never thought I'd have to say

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  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's.

    Well maaaaybe you thought wrong?



    * runs and hides
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    JerSchmare wrote: »
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    Agree. It's all stupid. In fact, the institution of marriage is stupid. Just be with someone. Why is marriage a thing? And why does she take his name? So many questions. It's all stupid religious bullish!t. We made it all up over a very long period of time. So dumb. All of it.

    She took your money, didn't she?
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    edited May 2017
    JerSchmare wrote: »
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    Agree. It's all stupid. In fact, the institution of marriage is stupid. Just be with someone. Why is marriage a thing? And why does she take his name? So many questions. It's all stupid religious bullish!t. We made it all up over a very long period of time. So dumb. All of it.

    I always wonder this too.
    I get that you don't have to, but men don't often take the woman's name.
  • JLAJ81
    JLAJ81 Posts: 2,477 Member
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    Excuse me you don't speak unless spoken to
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    JLAJ81 wrote: »
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    Excuse me you don't speak unless spoken to

    Da man!
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    I think it's mostly because they want any children produced from the marriage to carry on their last name. That's why my first husband wanted me to take his name. We were only 19 but he'd been raised very strictly religious and his parents were completely old fashioned. At 19, I just thought, whatever, that's just what you do when you get married.
  • dutchandkiwi
    dutchandkiwi Posts: 1,389 Member
    JeepHair77 wrote: »
    My husband doesn't know my name.

    My maiden name is not terribly uncommon, but it's spelled differently than the way most people would spell it. Then I went and hyphenated it when my husband and I got married, so most of the world is confused by my name. Understandable.

    Today, my husband is filling out some paperwork, and called me for help. I had to walk him through my name, the fact that my last name is hyphenated, and the spelling and punctuation of it. And his questions indicated that perhaps he doesn't actually know what a "hypen" is, so I finally gave up and e-mailed it to him to cut and paste.

    We've been married four years.

    You've got to be kidding me.

    My husband of 8 years still has to double check my official first name every time. It is a slightly unusual name but still. I forgive him as I know he want to be sure because it may incur unnecessary charges when it is an official document or plane booking
  • Tallawah_
    Tallawah_ Posts: 2,475 Member
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    ...'cos the mothers of those men believe in tradition too.
  • kenzienal
    kenzienal Posts: 205 Member
    I have no objections to taking my mans last name and getting married. Anything to end the lineage of the current last name I am holding and let that disaster shrivel away into nothing.
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    Well that took a turn for the worst...
  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
    evilokc wrote: »
    I hate hyphenated names. either marry the dude or don't. I wouldn't get married if she wanted to hyphenate. there are a few exceptions that would make it understandable but they are few and far between.

    LOL! Really, I shouldn't even bother...

    I've been working in an industry for some years where I have to market myself. I like to think I've made a name for myself. My clients know my name. They know how to find me. If I change firms (which I did) they can STILL find me. My name is part of my business. What I've done before is part of what I do now, and changing my name would, in large part, make it more difficult for me to "own" my experience. And frankly, I love my name. I see no reason in the world why getting married should require me to give up something that's been mine for 36 years.

    But I also wanted his last name. It was important to him, and I like that we share it, and I hyphenated, legally, for the purposes of bridging the personal and professional gap. It works for me. I can use our shared last name in our personal life. Professionally, I made no change at all and I still work using my maiden name.

    And really, why would you even care? And even if it qualifies as an "exception" to your mind, why should it? People choose to change or keep their names based on whatever reasons they have, and those reasons are good enough. Why should anyone have to justify their "exception"?
  • sssynnamon
    sssynnamon Posts: 14 Member
    Lol I have an ex-husband who, two years into the marriage thought I was 5'7". I'm 5'3". He didn't believe me so, being a carpenter, got out a tape measure and measured twice. When he realized the truth he said "You might only be 5'3", but you have 5'7" worth of attitude."

  • BedsideTableKangaroo
    BedsideTableKangaroo Posts: 736 Member
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Wait. What?

    right? this isn't the "there's a question i never thought i'd have to ask" thread
  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
    sssynnamon wrote: »
    Lol I have an ex-husband who, two years into the marriage thought I was 5'7". I'm 5'3". He didn't believe me so, being a carpenter, got out a tape measure and measured twice. When he realized the truth he said "You might only be 5'3", but you have 5'7" worth of attitude."

    This is my favorite thing ever!
  • bigmuneymfp
    bigmuneymfp Posts: 2,235 Member
    I called my wife my ex fiancés name once

    There is only a one letter difference
  • bigmuneymfp
    bigmuneymfp Posts: 2,235 Member
    Um not really
  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    JLAJ81 wrote: »
    dwrightlaw wrote: »
    Why is it necessary for a woman to change her name just because she gets married? I thought we had progressed from the 1950's. I mean if she chooses to good for her, but to make hyphenation or keeping her maiden name a deal breaker is just kinda pathetic.
    I am curious about this antiquated convention. Why do men place so much importance on it?

    Excuse me you don't speak unless spoken to

    Oh my bad...let me close my mourh while putting on my pearls and apron
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