feeling ganged up on

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  • boopsiegrl
    boopsiegrl Posts: 105 Member
    jeremylandon wrote: »
    A strategy that I've been trying to implement is reminding myself that eating doesn't make anything more special. More food does not equal more special.

  • amtyrell
    amtyrell Posts: 1,447 Member
    Ok I know this is silly but in cocktail situations if alcohol is an issue and you need to avoid looking like you are not drinking try soda water in a champagne glass or diet coke and a cherry on ice in a rocks glass. Tip your bartender for it an you can sit the whole party for no calories and everyone thinks you are drinking.

    Also "no thank you right now maybe in a little bit" some people take later as a better answer then no.
  • Verity1111
    Verity1111 Posts: 3,309 Member
    Theo166 wrote: »
    Suck it up, Buttercup. Tracking and saying 'no' is hard for everyone.

    If you are just starting, maybe goal maintenance or a slight deficit while you get into a rhythm of eating to plan. Then you'll have some cushion to say yes.

    They specifically asked to not have ignorant answers like this. Rude. You can push people to quit by being rude that way and inconsiderate of how they're feeling. We are supposed to be here to support one another.
  • yoherbs421
    yoherbs421 Posts: 160 Member
    I love telling my family that I'm trying to lose weight because when I do lose a few pds here and there I rub it in their face...honestly. Keeps me accountable and lets them know I'm serious. They don't take advice well do I'll just show them!

    You need to learn how to lie lol. Next time someone offers you food tell them you just finished eating and you aren't hungry. You may even trick yourself into not wanting to actually eat.
  • sqwelchy_2007
    sqwelchy_2007 Posts: 12 Member
    If you're really ready to lose weight then you can say no.
    I'm a chef and there's always food wanting to be eaten, you just need to dig deep.
  • LZMiner
    LZMiner Posts: 300 Member
    When they first try to push food on you, you say "Thanks, but I'm good. I've had enough." If they keep being persistent you say loudly, "As I just said, I've had enough...why would you keep asking me to eat more when I told you I'm fine? "
  • affirmed365
    affirmed365 Posts: 4 Member
    Maybe overwhelmed is a better word than ganged up on? Dealing with cravings and pressure to eat is hard, no question, particularly when you're faced with both at the same time (like a piece of the umpteeninth work birthday cake). However, with practice, it does get easier. You have every right to say "no, thank you" and offer zero explanation. Your business is your business. It will get easier, hang in there!
  • Nixi3Knox
    Nixi3Knox Posts: 182 Member
    "No thanks" is NOT always sufficient. Some people will stop just short of shoving the stuff down someone's throat. You have to just be firm. If someone knocks on your door and you peek out and see food in tow, just do not open the door. Then later when they mention that they popped in and brought treats tell them to please refrain from bringing food.

    As far as food making something more special I guess it's a matter of perspective. There are certain dishes that are only served on holidays. It's not about "more" food but rather "which" food. You then must decide if you want to just relax and enjoy the day and then get back to your regular plan the day after, or do you want to be faced with all the things you love and try really hard not to eat them only to cave and stuff your face more than you would have if you had just set a reasonable limit for yourself in the first place. There is nothing wrong with taking time to enjoy a holiday and relax.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    You don't have to say "No". But you will probably need to learn when to say "enough".

    If this is your lifestyle and you don't want to change it, then you need to learn how to live that lifestyle without overeating. Enjoying food doesn't have to mean stuffing yourself. Just eat normal portions and savor them. When you've had enough, stop eating.
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