I need help

Robafet wrote: »

I am now at my heaviest I have ever been. I blame everything else. It is never my fault. I now am going to be responsibe for my actions and accountable to myself. My first step is to ask for help and get some friends to join my journey. Where do I go from here?

• Log your normal intake for a couple of days
• Review where you are taking in too many calories
• Make small changes gradually to hit your calorie goal
• Find some exercise you enjoy
• Do it

Welcome to a brand new start, heres my 2 cents.

1. buy a food scale (the most important tool u'll need.)
2. set up a profile with an easy goal at first (start with .5 or 1lbs a week for the first 2 weeks to ease ur body into it). MFP will give u a daily allowance so u dont need to figure it out yourself.
3. log EVERYTHING u eat EVERYDAY
4. join an online challenge (optional)
5. ditch any non supportive friends
6. donate all junk foods (ASAP)
7. dont tell people that u r trying to lose weight coz most will tell u to EAT MORE (smile n ignore them if they do but do not give in coz u have a goal n they dont)
8. google search for recipes if needed


GOOD LUCK!!!

You've made a step forward in realizing that you look outward for the justification/blame for your eating habits. Not falling back into your old mental patterns is going to be a large part of the challenge.

I don't agree with the idea that weight loss is a simple calories in/calories out calculation. It may be true from a physiological perspective but my observation is that people lose weight and gain it back not because they lack an understanding of what they should be doing. They regain because the psychological aspect of weight/food/body image is so knotty and personal and emotionally charged.

I agree with others that the first step to personal accountability is a food scale and brutally honest logging of food and exercise. Resist all short cuts. Also, don't shy away from the mental work of figuring out how you got to where you are with your weight. Figuring that out will help you see your patterns so you can change them. Best of luck.