Relationships = Fat Gain?

lol i got fat in my last relationship cuz I had another baby and a sick toddler so i wasnt able to do much for quite a long time.he lost 60lb and gained it all back.im just focusing on me and my kids now and losing

I agree with you 100%. I'm not sure I would say less activity but poor eating. I know that when I recently was with someone, we'd go to the movies and he'd insist on getting popcorn and candy. I NEVER order that crap. I'd have some popcorn but skip the candy. Then we'd go to dinner. He'd order appetizers which again, I never do. When people get comfortable, it seems they tend to not car about their appearance as much. That's what I think anyway.

It happens for me when i'm with my boyfriend on the weekends we eat a lot more than usually but during the week we both get back on track

I tend to gain weight in my relationships because I'm happy:) I lose it all when we break up. I'm attempting to break my cycle by losing before (hopefully not) we break up, haha

I gained a lot of weight when I moved in with my boyfriend and his family. They never had family dinner and everything was microwave. We tended to go out to eat a lot as well. When it really came down to it I lost my routine. I was so use to how I did everything and it was really tough to be together all the time. We then got our own place and I was convinced it would just fall off because I would being buying the food. It is now two years later and I am just figuring it all out.

I think on some level this is true. For my husband and I it was more that we just got very comfortable with each other and I guess we got lazy. We're trying to motivate each other now and make a lifestyle change. I guess it took two to get fat and now it'll take two to get healthy!

There is a definite correlation!! I gained 40 lbs when I started dating a guy in my past!! I figured out that it was because he took me out to eat all the time and I stopped working out! After we broke up I lost 20lbs and am fighting to get the last 20 off lol! If your girl is complaining about you working out just show her a pic of an older dude with a beer belly and say..."you wanna be lovin' up on this or me when I am in shape?" Maybe she will see the importance of exercise! Also if she is that needy or clingy make it a point to go something active together or just ask if she wants to go with ya! All I know is don't let someone else determine your fate and fat..cause it is much harder to lose than to gain

I think the problem here that everyone seems to be having is the reporting of feeling 'comfortable' with a partner. The whole mentality of looking good is important to attract a mate and once you have found one you can relax. The whole caring about appearance and using fitness and nutrition to look good is the problem in general. If your goal is consistent strength and fitness related achievements then regardless of whether others tihnk you are attractive or not does not matter and you never have an excuse to jump off the bandwagon. As a result you will never put on weight in relationships

I would agree with this also. I think that as my level of comfort with my boyfriend got higher and higher (we've been together almost 4 years now), I wasn't embarrassed to pig out in front of him and to be lazy haha. But we're getting healthy and losing weight together now, so relationships have their benefits on health too

Honestly I think it totally depends on the people involved and the nature of the relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for years now and I'm inspired now more than ever to exercise and work out thanks to him. He's an athlete and has to stay fit so I've just joined him in some of his workouts, and by doing his he has helped me improve my form and generally has taught me a lot. Also, exercising is just something else that we can do together! We often try to think of activities that involve moving around, like playing sports or going on a hike or something.

I gained quite a bit when I met my husband 11 years ago. I moved in with him and his (now mine too=)) five year old daughter and I 'treated' us too much. Garlic bread or yummy buns, lots of cheesy dishes and baking and desserts almost every night. We spent a lot of non-active time together too - watching movies and playing card games. Our outings were going to Tims or DQ and then a 'drive'. My husband gained some but mostly he just lost quite a bit of muscle tone because before meeting me and having 2 more children with me, he worked out a lot on his own. Now we are 'clean eating' - low or no preservatives as much as possible. Treats are a lot less frequent. We aren't really active but I try to get us all out for walks and hikes when I can. It was definitely a conscious decision to change to a healthier lifestyle.

I definitely agree. I was in pretty good shape and had decent eating habits before i started dating my boyfriend. I'm not saying he's the reason i started eating bad and not exercising which led to weight gain because i didn't really exercise too much before we started dating and my eating habits were alright but there are some bad habits that i picked up from him. For example, going to fast food places he would get 2 sandwiches, a large fry, and large drink- i would have never done that before i met him, i barely ate fast food and when i did it was always 1 sandwich, a small fry, and if i got a drink it would be small. So yeah i would say i started eating bigger portions since we started dating & more fast food. It was hard because we both lived with our parents and we couldn't always cook meals plus he worked 2nd shift so by the time we hung out it was late and fast food was just convenient. We've been living together for about 2 years now and in the beginning we were still eating bad but now we've realized that we have both gained a lot of weight and have a very unhealthy lifestyle and decided together that we wanted to change that. Now we make a lot of food at home and try to make better choices and barely eat any fast food. We weren't really paying attention to what we were eating before because at the time it didn't seem like a big deal and we were happy, but after 3 years and about 40 lbs of gained weight for each of us we realized we gotta do something now before it gets worse. I think being in a relationship you kind of let yourself go because 1. you're happy and going out to eat and getting food is fun to do when you're with someone and 2. you've found someone so you aren't really looking anymore and don't need to impress anyone. It's just sometimes it can get out of hand and it's just going to have a negative impact if you keep going down that road.

I was curious as to what the opinions of the MFP community might be, but personally I think there is a direct correlation between being in a relationship (short term, long term, committed - doesn't matter) and a decrease in Physical Fitness.

I only say this because the last girl I was with was in constant need of attention, advocated that I "didn't need to work out" and encouraged eating of obviously unhealthy foods on a frequent basis.

I don't doubt that being in a relationship obviously has its advantages as well but once again im just curious as to some of your opinions.

found this interesting because I was thin and very active until I hit about 30...then spent 4 years in a relationship with a guy who was just like the girl you mentioned above I don't "blame" the relationship for my weight gain, exactly, but I stopped spending time on my own doing things I loved (like working out) and that ultimately hurt my physical fitness...

My last bf was seriously limited physically and I gained about 30 lbs. in 9 months mimicking his lifestyle.

this sounds much like my last serious relationship (a LONG time ago)--I gained about 60 pounds over a couple of years...

I refuse to compromise my activity/nutrition goals for a man ever again. Lesson learned.

AMEN SISTAH

I think it completely depends on the people. My boyfriend now thinks health is very important and eats well and exercises and we try to make healthy decisions when together too always. Obviously there are times we treat ourselves, but I think I eat better with him than I would on my own and vice versa because our individual desires to be healthy and fit feed off of each other's and are stronger than before.