Relationships = Fat Gain?

I succombed to Happy Fat Syndrome when we moved in together. I had too much fun cooking for my new little family to the exclusion of almost all exercise. Then BAM! 50 pounds on in a year.

Oopsie!

Thankfully he's also not happy with the pudge and we've taken up running together.

It's not just relaxing, it's having a partner in crime. Walk by an ice cream shop on a Saturday afternoon by yourself and you probably won't head inside to eat a sundae. But with a partner, there is a certain shared naughtiness involved. Not to mention, many romantic activities involve food. Food is lovely, really.

I gained 20 lbs in the first 6 months of my marriage. But now (7 years after that dreadful weigh-in), I weigh less than I have since puberty, so that's something.

It happens for me when i'm with my boyfriend on the weekends we eat a lot more than usually but during the week we both get back on track

This, but also on the other hand now that i am in a happy and respectful relationship, overall my weight loss and fitness has improved. Along with my confidence

Yup...when my husband is around we eat out a lot and I have a lot more "ah **** it" moments. But when he's deployed or at drill or work it's much easier for me to stay focused.

I know when I moved to another town and started dating a certain someone, between the lack of home cooked meals and her lack of social motivation, I gained about 60 pounds. After we broke up and I moved back to my hometown... I kept the poor eating habits and gained another 40.

No way am I doing that again. I will be active and I will be fit (eventually) and I will be with someone who takes care of herself and cares about what she puts in her body, or I will be single. Just the way it's gotta be. I don't want to look back 20 years from now in poor health and have regrets about the way I took care of myself.

Dropped 57 pounds so far, 72 to go. Then I'll weight train until I'm in the 260 range, and maintain after that.

Yeah, I don't blame my boyfriend or relationship but I started dating my partner a year and a half ago - I used to eat quite healthily and I'd walk everywhere because I don't have a car. Since being with him I gained 8 kilos because he eats a LOT of take out and he drives me everywhere yay!! Haha he is as skinny as a stick. I am obviously changing it all now though

nope never been a problem for me but it is hard at like the family cookouts , lol

I think it is pretty common, and not because you are dating the wrong kind of lazy *kitten* person. I think it is simply you have less time. If you are in love, you want to spend time , a lot of time, with that person. The time , you used to spend on workouts, cooking ,2 hrs grocery shopping etc. Unless your beau is sharing at the exact same type of workout interest, you going to do less workout, pay less attention to what you eat etc. I used to love very high impact step aerobic classes and my husband used to love to swim, which is not exactly social sport. When we started to date , we steal the time from those activities, which resulted fat gain.
I find that the worst come when kids enter the picture. With small kids , you often do not have enough time for the most basic: sleep.

I know, I could go to the gym every day and spend 2 hrs, but then I barely could ever see my kid or my husband. So what was easy no brainer before , it became a big challenge . Now I have consiously think about activities that all 3 of us can enjoy, which is so darn hard.

I gained a LOT of weight in my current relationship because I picked up a LOT of his eating habits and he didn't pick up any of mine (he hated mine in fact). And we had different habits when eating out or getting takeout which is the big habit I picked up.

For me it was because eating out was a very rare treat for me, we NEVER got sodas or juice at home or when we went out, and we never ordered desserts or appetizers. It was partially health motivated but it was mostly that my family was very money conscious and we didn't spend more than we needed to to get enough food (where one entree per person is always MORE than enough, no need for dessert or appetizers, and drinks at 2-3 dollars are a ripoff). My SO came from a family that spent money like water because at the time they were very wealthy and his mom alwayhs let them order whatever they wanted, spent 400/week in groceries (and I'm talking 15 years ago dollars here) which included a lot of soda, juice, sugary 'kids' snacks, cereal, whatever.

So when I started eating out with him, I was used to eating out being a special treat - like "oooh lets share chili cheese fries" - AND he always ordered a drink if he wanted one so sometimes I would get one too (not always as I'm not big on soda, but a beer with dinner or a barq's if they had it, etc). Except we ate out ALL the time - and I was ordering things like fries ALL the time (Also growing up or with girlfriends I would have shared an order of fries and he HATES sharing food. Hate hate hates it.)

So my story isn't really similar to yours at all but I do think weight gain is pretty common for those who have never been actively engaged in maintaining their weight. I just had never learned to THINK about how often I was eating junk, because I never went places where junk was an option and I didn't stop to think about how much more I was eating portion wise because my family ALWAYS shared meals and my spoiled little someone refuses to share (argh!).

Not all my weight gain is because of THAT relationship though, friendships also play a huge part. Make friends with people who go out drinking 3 times a week (and then share tons of yummy appetizers when they do) and lunch buddies with people who weigh 300 lbs and know where every best place to eat in a 20 mile radius is and you'll gain weight too. But I'd say of the 70 or so pounds I gained it was like 20 pounds to my friends and then 50 more with my friends and SO combined (my friends ruined my lunches and my SO ruined my dinners).

Still in the same relationship but dropping the weight now, and he has dropped a little bit with me mostly through my suggesting places to get dinner that have lighter options (which means sometimes he ALSO gets a lighter option). And it inspired him to ct back on his 4-5 sodas a day although he's tried that before and it never lasts.

I don't really agree with this personally. It's never happened to me. whether with someone or not, I'm going to workout & do what I do. Typically it's been the same for whoever I was with also.