Getting married and have a goal to lose 20lbs in 4 months

I'll be honest... although the wedding is good motivation it's not just for the wedding. I've gained 20lbs since we started dating and I don't feel good. I could give you 100 reasons why butbthe fact is I got caught up in the socializing and finally having a partner that I could entertain with friends with. I'm incredibly busy and have a ton on my plate so I'm looking for some accountability and motivation support.
Anyone interested or even just weekly checkins on here. I'm certainly willing to encourage and stay positive for you too

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  • tinatremblay29
    tinatremblay29 Posts: 2 Member
    Hello. I also need to lose weight. My goal is 30 pounds. We can give each other support.
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    That would be fantastic! What one thing did you do today that helps with you getting to your goal. I went over my food goal but I played 1 1/2 softball and took 10k steps according to my Fitbit. Have a great weekend. Remember at least one positive a day thing that will get you closer to your goal
  • mbloescher
    mbloescher Posts: 15 Member
    If you need any more accountability, I am here! I bet you will get into a routine soon! Plan out fun hikes with your fiancé, and have active dates, and I am sure those 20lbs will melt off.
  • RunYogaLife
    RunYogaLife Posts: 14 Member
    I am also getting married. Augustus 5th, I'd love to share ideas and get some accountability partners! Congrats btw!
  • DietPrada
    DietPrada Posts: 1,171 Member
    Ooooh me too. Getting married in October :D
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Wow look at us all getting married! Congrats to each of you. How's it going for you?
  • motivatedsister
    motivatedsister Posts: 544 Member
    I'm getting married too! It's going slow :'( .

    I just ordered my dress, and my measurements were all over the place in terms of size (I.e. Somewhere between a 10-12 on bottom, a 16 at the bust, and humongous at the waist lol....truly not even mentionable). So of course as you all know they order at the largest measurement size. I was in between sizes at the waist so I ended up ordering the size down...I only need to lose a minimum 1" in the waist for it to fit there. I figured that wouldn't be too much pressure to lose by the time it's time for alterations at the end of the year. I'm hoping I'm down way more than 1" in the waist though by then!

    I started heavy lifting, so I feel like that's making the lbs come off slowly; but I'm finally starting to tell that I'm losing inches. And while yes I would love to see the scale go down, the inches is what I'm really after.

    How is everyone else doing?
  • motivatedsister
    motivatedsister Posts: 544 Member
    The scale finally moved when I weighed in over the weekend! Woohoo....down 2.4 lbs! I checked my waist measurement and dare I say I'm down an inch! I don't trust myself doing my own measurements, so I'll probably need to see at least another 2" to really feel like ok there's no way I'm that far off and can safely say I'm down an inch.

    Finally feel like I'm making some progress! Hope y'all are doing well!
  • salj79
    salj79 Posts: 5 Member
    edited May 2017
    I'm getting married in October, have a long way to go but any that comes off by then is a bonus. So I'm in :)
  • Tamara4Joy
    Tamara4Joy Posts: 1 Member
    Congratulations to all of you! I'm getting married in September. Count me in!!
  • Spartan_Gingi
    Spartan_Gingi Posts: 194 Member
    I know what you mean! Two jobs, two kids, planning a wedding, and such. Best of luck!
  • db121215
    db121215 Posts: 60 Member
    Checking in. Getting married Oct 1. Started Mfp Feb 21. Down 33 pounds. Another 30 to go. Am pleased to say I exchanged my dress from the 18 I had to a 14! Hoping to exchange one more.time if I can banish the last 30. Good luck brides!
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    That's great. You go girl!
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    Knbeet wrote: »
    I'll be honest... although the wedding is good motivation it's not just for the wedding. I've gained 20lbs since we started dating and I don't feel good. I could give you 100 reasons why butbthe fact is I got caught up in the socializing and finally having a partner that I could entertain with friends with. I'm incredibly busy and have a ton on my plate so I'm looking for some accountability and motivation support.
    Anyone interested or even just weekly checkins on here. I'm certainly willing to encourage and stay positive for you too

    if you only have 20lbs to lose you should be aiming to lose a 1/2 lb a week(2lbs a month). anything more than that with so little to lose wont be sustainable(and its not healthy to lose 5lbs a month at a lower weight) and the less weight you have to lose the slower its going to be.aim for half a lb a week and do some resistance/weight training,it will change how your body looks some and you wont be putting your body through heck trying to lose at that rate.
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Thanks for the comment. I weight train 3x per week as well am very active. I feel like I eat pretty healthy but I am definitely a volume eating and have my sweet craving when I'm stressed. Trying to be realistic shooting for a pound a week but will be happy with 1/2lb too. Thanks again for the input.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    edited May 2017
    Knbeet wrote: »
    Thanks for the comment. I weight train 3x per week as well am very active. I feel like I eat pretty healthy but I am definitely a volume eating and have my sweet craving when I'm stressed. Trying to be realistic shooting for a pound a week but will be happy with 1/2lb too. Thanks again for the input.

    healthy eating has nothing to do with it,its all about calories in vs calories out. healthy eating is for health. like everyone else says"calories are king".But keep lifting and eat in a deficit. its all you can do.you can also take measurements as well. sometimes the inches will come off before it registers on the scale. good luck :)
  • CheekieM0nkey
    CheekieM0nkey Posts: 21 Member
    December 2017 bride here! Would love to connect with other brides to be for motivation!
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Congrats! I'm cheering you on!
  • steph81881
    steph81881 Posts: 50 Member
    Weddings are such great motivators!!! I lost so much getting ready for my wedding!! You will all do great!! And congratulations!!!
  • Murdroc
    Murdroc Posts: 6 Member
    edited May 2017
    I'm getting married as well! I need some support and motivation to lose 33lbs. I want to do that by end of September. I'd love weekly check ins and accountability partners so feel free to friend me!
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Ok so first official weigh in with you guys. Starting 179.5. I felt like I was really good this past two week and I gained 2lbs. What the heck!!!!
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    Knbeet wrote: »
    Ok so first official weigh in with you guys. Starting 179.5. I felt like I was really good this past two week and I gained 2lbs. What the heck!!!!

    could be water weight,depending on if you took in more carbs,sodium,that time of the month is close,or if you upped your exercise. weight loss is not linear, sometimes your weight will go up(again depends on whats going on with your body and food intake/waste out),sometimes it will go down and sometimes it will stay the same. weight fluctuates hr to hr,day to day.also with so little to lose if you you have to be meticulous in your logging and intake.
    so if you arent weighing everything on a food scale,and using cups for liquids then it could be you are eating more than you think which is easy to do(you dont say if you weigh or what your calorie goal is). you can either drink more water and wait a few days and see if you lose again,you could up exercise(but that will cause more water retention),weigh everything and use correct entries and give it a week or two and see if it goes back down to where you started(or less). or eat less calories(not advised if it puts you under 1200 calories net)
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Have a great week peeps!!!
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    Weigh in tomorrow ... fingers crossed!
  • Knbeet
    Knbeet Posts: 19 Member
    177.5. Down 2lbs. Good luck to all of you this weekend.
  • cqbkaju
    cqbkaju Posts: 1,011 Member
    If you are disciplined then this is completely attainable.
    Anyone can lose an average of 1 to 2 lbs per week if you actually do what is necessary instead of making excuses.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    cqbkaju wrote: »
    If you are disciplined then this is completely attainable.
    Anyone can lose an average of 1 to 2 lbs per week if you actually do what is necessary instead of making excuses.

    yeah they can if they have the weight to lose at those rates. 1-2 lbs for someone with less than 25 lbs is not attainable and not healthy to do.
  • cqbkaju
    cqbkaju Posts: 1,011 Member
    edited May 2017
    yeah they can if they have the weight to lose at those rates. 1-2 lbs for someone with less than 25 lbs is not attainable and not healthy to do.
    I do not agree that someone losing what averages to 1.5lbs a week is "not attainable and not healthy to do".

    I know people who have lost much more weight in less time and they are in better health and more physically "fit" than probably 90% of the people on here who respond like they are experts, but I am not going to debate this with you.
    It is not uncommon for wrestlers to cut a pound or two in a matter of HOURS, but they are used to hard work.

    I will say I don't ever recommend trying to cut on diet alone, and especially at a rate of more than 1lb per week.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    cqbkaju wrote: »
    yeah they can if they have the weight to lose at those rates. 1-2 lbs for someone with less than 25 lbs is not attainable and not healthy to do.
    I do not agree that someone losing what averages to 1.5lbs a week is "not attainable and not healthy to do".

    I know people who have lost much more weight in less time and they are in better health and more physically "fit" than probably 90% of the people on here who respond like they are experts, but I am not going to debate this with you.
    It is not uncommon for wrestlers to cut a pound or two in a matter of HOURS, but they are used to hard work.

    I will say I don't ever recommend trying to cut on diet alone, and especially at a rate of more than 1lb per week.

    them cutting weight in hours is water weight, its not fat loss. not the same thing at all.the less weight/fat you have to lose the harder it is to lose in a healthy manner.we are tying to help people do things in a healthy way not in an unhealthy manner. you dont have to debate anything with me.1.5 lbs a week is fine for someone with more than 50 lbs to lose. not 20 or less. losing weight too quickly results in loss of lean mass,That has been proven. But if you want to believe that its healthy then thats your choice.
  • motivatedsister
    motivatedsister Posts: 544 Member
    WTG! @Knbeet

    I'm down another 2 lbs too! Finally feel like things are moving for me!