I need help with motivation

irisgrey47
irisgrey47 Posts: 14 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hey guys,

I hurt my spine over a year ago and had to stop working out because it would cause me so much pain. I haven't worked out properly since may 2016 and I gained 15 kg (30 pounds- I think).
This obviously upsets me but the worst part is that my family KEEPS making fun of me. Especially my siblings( who are both over 30 years old) and my sisters kids and her husband. This hurts me and it makes me dislike them because of the constant mobbing. What can I do to stop feeling like this because of them?

Thank you!

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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Tell them to eff off.
  • mitchell_maya1705
    mitchell_maya1705 Posts: 25 Member
    It is really hard when your family makes fun of you, as my brothers do sometimes. But use the negative energy to get your butt in gear. You can show them how amazing you can be.
  • 88olds
    88olds Posts: 4,531 Member
    You say you need help with motivation. Then you say you are injured and can't work out. Then you say you have family members making insulting and demeaning remarks about your weight. Motivation? Fight back!

    Motivation doesn't count much in weight loss. Determination is much more important. Also, weight loss is mostly about what you eat, not exercise. You need a modest calorie defiicit and a way to live with it. Can you walk regularly? That's about all the exercise you really need.

    Your family. I'd do my best to avoid them. I might mention to my sister that she's raising her kids to be direspectful little jerks, but that's really up to her. Whatever their issues are, I wouldn't expect them to change. Bet you lose the weight and they just move on to something else.

    You have the right to live the life you want for yourself. You have to go and get it. If your family doesn't support you, learn to move foreword without them. In the end, weight loss is a solitary task. Make a plan, but keep it to yourself. If they notice you losing, deny it, say their eyes have gone bad.

  • irisgrey47
    irisgrey47 Posts: 14 Member
    Thank you!

    Sadly, it's not only the weight they comment about. Literally everything on me is either disgusting or ugly to them.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    edited May 2017
    irisgrey47 wrote: »
    Thank you!

    Sadly, it's not only the weight they comment about. Literally everything on me is either disgusting or ugly to them.

    So, that's their problem... ignore them. Stop spending time with them if they are horrible.
  • clicketykeys
    clicketykeys Posts: 6,575 Member
    Begin working toward building a life away from them, and once you've got it, have as little to do with them as possible. If they ask why you're not around as much, tell them it's because they're unkind and you don't want to put up with their behavior.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    clicketykeys wrote: »
    Begin working toward building a life away from them, and once you've got it, have as little to do with them as possible. If they ask why you're not around as much, tell them it's because they're unkind and you don't want to put up with their behavior.

    Yes, distance yourself from them. That is terrible and I'm sorry you're being treated that way, but I also say SPEAK UP. Make it clear that their comments are unacceptable and you will not tolerate them. You have every right to stand up for yourself. Just because they are related to you or older than you does not give them a pass.
  • irisgrey47
    irisgrey47 Posts: 14 Member
    My parents aren't that judgmental. But my siblings have zero Tact. We don't live together or even close but whenever I visit(like this week) I always have to listen to stupid jokes.
    My sister has a pool and her husband said today(to my niece, in front of me)" well if your aunt gets in the pool and swims, we are going to have a problem." I had to roll my eyes.

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