Calorie BMR for cutting confusion???

This is hard to say. What is your NEAT like?

essentially, how active are you during the day when you *aren't* in the gym purposefully exercising?

If you have an activity tracker that will give you an idea, otherwise you can use the below:
Less than 5,000 steps: sedentary

Example: an office worker, a student, or someone who sits for most of their day. If you do not perform atleast 30 minutes of exercise a day you are sedentary.

5,000 – 7,500 steps: lightly active

Example: Someone who stands for most of their days. For example, a stay at home mom, a bank teller, a customer service representative in a grocery store, etc. The key here is standing, but not walking or heavy lifting.

7,500-10,000 steps: moderately active

Example: Someone who walks a lot of the day (atleast 2 hours continuous), like nurses, teachers, restaurant workers, etc. they spend most of their day walking around but are not performing hard labor.

10,000 steps: active

Example: Someone who walks a lot and also performs manual labor. For example construction workers, athletes, warehouse employees, etc.

michaelgazzard wrote: »

I'm Moderately active, I have a 2 year old son and I don't work in the week so I'm constantly on the move with him, so what does that mean?

That means your estimated: 2914 calorie level is probably right. I think -500 is perfect for someone in your current situation.

Make sure during this time to eat enough protein and perform consistent strength training since your main goal is a change in body composition.

michaelgazzard wrote: »

So stick to weights 4 x week and HIIT 1 x week
I assume I still eat the same on rest days.
I'm currently eating
215 g Carbs 222g Protein 75g Fats

yep, that's more than enough.

stick to it, be consistent and accurate, and you'll see results.