So, I am pretty sad after convo with friend..(long)

So I have this friend that I met in college. We hit it off as friends almost right away and have been friends since then. Perhaps 11ish years now. We had some success together and then went our separate ways come job time. Then about 5 years ago I had the opportunity to work at the same place as him and took it. However that went sour because of the manager we worked for and I left. This is when it starts to get a bit more interesting.

After that, I had the opportunity to try and work on a project myself without actually having a job. Working on a video game essentially. I tried to get him interested in working on the project with me (as well as other friends) but he always had excuses for filling up his weekend free time and was too tired after work. This sucked for me as i was really hoping he would want to get involved, especially after he expressed initial interest. I even tried to include his wife so that he wouldnt be apart from his family during this time.

While working on the project, I continued to try and see if he was interested, however he would always try and push the ideas towards something he wanted to do instead of joining my project. Essentially trying to coop my opportunity into something he wanted instead of joining my project as an opportunity. Its because of this that i just let the idea that he would join in on it go. after that point, 6 months later if he asked about how it was going, I just gave no information and shut him out as he clearly wasnt interested when I previously needed him. Maybe i could have tried more to include him but even at these times when he asked about it, he immediately would turn the conversation towards his idea.

As time went on, it became quite clear in how he was talking with me that he was becoming intensely jealous that I didnt have to work a day job while working on the project. (i was using my savings to work on it full time). I would start to get snide comments from him now and then about what a sweet life it must be. ect ect..

During this period I was trying to also change the way I think about life and dealing with situations. Instead of trying to take and view the downside of everything, the glass is half empty all the time. I started to work on switching my brains way of thinking to be more positive. Focus on the good, learn from the bad but dont focus on it in a way that makes you depressed.

He has always been a VERY depressed person. Always taking the downside view of things.

Now I am at the point where I am going back to work and he sent me a msg and got to talkin a bit this past week. today he brought up that he is depressed about always missing opportunities (like bitcoin, buying stocks ect..). And I was trying to be a friend and motivate him to see the bright side of things. When he sees an opportunity he needs to jump on it and run with it, put effort, conviction and drive into his opportunities, not just mentally (which he has the drive for) but also in putting the work in to make the opportunities a reality. I used the example of the video game project where he seemed to mentally at first be interested but never actually wanted to put the work in. THIS was my mistake.

He then took this as an attack at him instead of me trying to be a helpful, motivating friend. He then spent the next hour trying to argue with me about how things went down. How it was my fault I didnt force him to work on it during the weekends. And then in the next breathe saying that me asking for him to work on the weekends for the project was an unreasonable DEMAND (lol if you are too tired after work each night, when COULD you work on something other than the weekend?). I expressly said to him several times that I am not trying to argue, That its all in the past and unchangeable, that im trying to use it as an example of motivation. He then said I was pinning it all on him why he missed the opportunity. I could see that he was becoming irrational and knew nothing would come out of this but bad news. I told him to have a great day and ended the conversation at which point he threw my words back at me (obviously in an attempt to piss me off/hurt my feelings).

Now, I feel like im losing or even have already lost a friend. I feel like his jealousy of him hating his job and me not having to work for a while has driven a solid wedge through the friendship. I know i cant express everything here, but ..

What do you guys think about this? Even if you think I am wrong, tell me. I wont get mad. I need help with this because I feel like im about to walk away from a friendship, but I am not sure if there is much of a friendship left to be honest.