Please help

livingleanlivingclean wrote: »

No offence, but if you got to 317lbs your view of how to eat is not healthy. Putting on weight means you're eating too much. You need to eat less.

Being in a calorie deficit will get you to lose weight, and this will mostly happen through food. Exercise will help create a bigger deficit, but is not necessary.

Put your stats in to MFP, get a calorie goal for weight loss (I'd start with 2lbs a week), get yourself a food scale and start weighing and measuring everything you put in your mouth.

She never said she has been eating correctly. She just said she knows how to. There's a big difference. I know I shouldn't drink 6 glasses of wine and have water instead but dammit sometimes I want that wine.

Darling you can do it! Believe me! I have SIX kids. Talk about exausted! But i have more energy since working out and eating healthy. I have always been big too and i will never not be plus size but it feels good to feel good ya know? Im here if u ever need to talk.

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Graciegraves1989 wrote: »

Hello!!
I'm not sure if I'm looking for motivation or suggestions or both. I had great success last year using fitness pal and losing 20 pounds in 3 months. I did gain it all back.

My backstory: i weigh 317 pounds and have never been thin. Never been diagnosed with a medical condition but i haven't had a full blood work up since my 2 year old was born.
Started noticing i was big in jr high when i weighed 220 pounds. Graduated HS and gained 20 pounds. Married my husband and gained 20 more. The final 50 was after my son was born and i started birth control again. That weight gain was rapid and ridiculous.

Cut to now. This afternoon i spent half an hour crying while i cropped my stomach out of pictures taken of my son and i, so that i could post them on social media. I've never been this disgusted about myself. I had accepted that i am a big girl and usually have great self confidence. But i can't go on like this.

I know how to eat.
I feel like working out would be the only thing to change me. But i am exhausted ALL THE TIME. I work full time and barely find time for my child.
I feel like i am too far gone sometimes.
Can anyone help me?

Being tired all the time is caused by in activity. The more the move the more energy you have, the less you move the more tired and sluggish you feel.

As for time you have to make time, you have to see yourself as a priority. Your son will thank you for it. I am a parent of 3 children with a stressful 50 hr a week job but I get up at 5.30am to exercise and prep my meals. There are many other parents on here that do the same.

You have to strip away all your excuses.

Don't worry about eating healthy, just start by eating less of what you already have in. What ever you eat make it fit your calories.

I read a success thread last week that warmed my heart. It was by a lady who had lost enough weight to play with her son in the park, she got to go down the slide with him and even went on the monkey bars with him. Her son then went around and told every one that Mum had played with him in the park.

You can do that, you just need to stick to them calories and stop the excuses. Good luck.

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livingleanlivingclean wrote: »

Misskcm wrote: »

livingleanlivingclean wrote: »

No offence, but if you got to 317lbs your view of how to eat is not healthy. Putting on weight means you're eating too much. You need to eat less.

Being in a calorie deficit will get you to lose weight, and this will mostly happen through food. Exercise will help create a bigger deficit, but is not necessary.

Put your stats in to MFP, get a calorie goal for weight loss (I'd start with 2lbs a week), get yourself a food scale and start weighing and measuring everything you put in your mouth.

She never said she has been eating correctly. She just said she knows how to. There's a big difference. I know I shouldn't drink 6 glasses of wine and have water instead but dammit sometimes I want that wine.

OP said she knows how to eat and feels the only thing that will change her is exercise - this suggests to me that she thinks her diet is ok. If her diet was ok, she wouldn't be making a post asking for help to lose weight.

Exercise DOES change you - it changes your perception of food, it changes your attitude towards yourself, it changes your body shape and it changes your fitness levels ... Admittedly, if you're eating a crap diet you may lose pounds, but you won't be getting healthy, but OP was saying she knows how to eat and that exercise will change her and I totally get what she means - my profile picture is living proof that exercise changes you!

Just because OP isn't eating right, doesn't mean she doesn't know how to eat right - some people want to get active and that will instinctively bring about healthier food choices, because you don't want to eat rubbish and ruin all your hard work, but others find it easier to work on their diet first, we're all very different.

I exercise without fail, I was ill between October 2016 and January 2017, but I continued to do what I could to keep active, although my diet was awful at times; I'm a great believer that we all need to find what works for us - just because you find it easy to eat right and exercise, not everyone does - some people find the exercise easier than their diet (that's me) and others find their diet is easier than their exercise.

Hello to mfp. Im so sorry to hear how ur feeling but you have done the first step,where u have regonised you need to do something. Take thin gs slowly.
Start recordibg what u eat. Buy a set of food scales and then whatever u eat just start by having half of it. Ull soon realise u wont need so many calories but still have the foods u usually eat,just less of it. Make sure u have veg or salads with ur meals. Thry are filling and fewer calories.
U have done MFP pal so ull be able to do it again.
Add friends on here. Have a rant or put on ur staus and ull soon find support and motivation.
As for spending time with ur little one. Maybe take him to the park or go feed the duck. Walk where u can instead of taking the car(if thats an option) then u burn calroies and spend tine with ur little boy.
I wish u all the luck.
Ive sent u friends request.

Msg me. Mine isn't working

OP, you don't have to eat "diet" food or "health" food. You don't have to go to the gym and spend an hour on a machine. If you use that sort of thing as an excuse, you have to change the way you think about losing weight.

Set yourself up on mfp and get a calorie goal. Get a food scale. Give yourself a week or two to eat what you normally would, but just weigh it and log it. This will give you a good idea about how much you're eating and where it would be easy to make some changes. Start trying each week to get closer and closer to your calorie goal, tweaking stuff as you go. Cut back on high cal beverages. Eat a smaller portion of something then fill up the rest of the plate with veggies.try baking something in the oven rather than frying. Try using 1 TBL butter instead of 3.

And if you have a bad moment where you say screw it and eat an entire bag of chips, tell yourself it's no big deal because everyone has weak moments, so you're just going to put it behind you and get back on track right now.

Meanwhile, just move more. Pace around the house while you're talking on the phone. Dance around the living room. Walk up and down the driveway. Eventually you'll start to feel more comfortable and you can do 15 minute workouts on fitness blender or take a walk around the block every morning. You don't have to do everything, full power, on day one. That's how most people go wrong. Good luck!