Afraid to weigh myself

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  • rianneonamission
    rianneonamission Posts: 854 Member
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    I'm sorry, I don't understand what 9st7 to 10st mean?

    Between 133-140lbs. 1st = 14lbs.
  • Old_Cat_Lady
    Old_Cat_Lady Posts: 1,193 Member
    Confucious says: You should look at your weight as often as you look at your checking account balance. (joking).
  • oolou
    oolou Posts: 765 Member
    edited June 2017
    Do you have an item of clothing that is now too small for you, but you used to wear easily? I'd use that as your guide for weight loss, try it on every fortnight and when it fits nicely, you're done.

    If you aren't sure what weight to aim for - this links to the NHS calculator for BMI:

    http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/loseweight/Pages/BodyMassIndex.aspx

    If you are 5'5" then around 9 stone is nicely within the healthy range.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    oolou wrote: »
    Do you have an item of clothing that is now too small for you, but you used to wear easily? I'd use that as your guide for weight loss, try it on every fortnight and when it fits nicely, you're done.

    If you aren't sure what weight to aim for - this links to the NHS calculator for BMI:

    http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/loseweight/Pages/BodyMassIndex.aspx

    If you are 5'5" then around 9 stone is nicely within the healthy range.

    So is 10 stone. OP doesn't need to lose weight
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    rianneonamission wrote: »
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    Just don't know how to fix it - I've grown up comparing myself to them, especially my mum and sister and they're both pretty much underweight and most of my friends say I'm skinny, especially at the lower end of where my weight can be - they've told me to gain weight before but I still feel fat a lot cause my family are forever making jokes and seem to have no idea of what normal/healthy actually is :/ I've moved out now but still gets to me sometimes :(

    Until you deal with the issues you have with your family you won't be able to fix anything - because you've lost sight of what is normal. In the nicest possibly way: You need counselling.

    100% agree with this
  • DebLaBounty
    DebLaBounty Posts: 1,169 Member
    edited June 2017
    How will you know when you reach your goal if you don't know where you are starting from? Get on a scale. Write that number down. Do it again every day or once a week, it doesn't matter. It's just a habit to develop. And if this throws you into agony, please do consider going to a counselor to suss out what's really tripping you up. I feel you've done yourself no favors picking a user name that includes the phrase "self loathing". A once a week talk session with a therapist to maintain emotional health can be at least as important as tracking your calories and exercise for physical health. I wish you the best.
  • EloquentSelfLoathing
    EloquentSelfLoathing Posts: 20 Member
    Thanks for advice guys but I gotta get money before I can get counselling- if I want it free on the NHS the wait is months!
  • thewindandthework
    thewindandthework Posts: 531 Member
    edited June 2017
    Oh
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me :(

    Oh, I can relate to this. When I started losing weight I had only a rough idea of what I weighed because I was afraid to weigh myself.

    I forced myself on the scale a while after I started losing weight, and I'M SO GLAD I DID. If I didn't know where I started, I wouldn't know how far I've come! Actually I wish I had weighed myself right when I began, because I'm sure what I consider to be my "starting weight" is lower than my actual starting weight.

    So my advice is to just do it. Weigh yourself. You might not like what you see, but you'll be glad you did once you've started losing.

    And btw, when I did that first weigh-in, my weight was a good 20 pounds lighter than I expected it to be, so nice surprises are possible!

    EDIT: Having read further into the thread, I see you have different needs than I did when I started. I'll leave this post here in case it helps someone else, but I agree that counseling might be a good idea for you.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    Thanks for advice guys but I gotta get money before I can get counselling- if I want it free on the NHS the wait is months!

    Get on the waiting list, if you can afford to go private in the meantime then great, if not at least you know you'll be able to get some support soon.
  • HealthyGoalie1
    HealthyGoalie1 Posts: 74 Member
    It's possible to change the username once on the "change username" page. Choose wisely when choosing a new name. ;)

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/account/change_username
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    thewindandthework wrote: »
    Oh
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me :(

    Oh, I can relate to this. When I started losing weight I had only a rough idea of what I weighed because I was afraid to weigh myself.

    I forced myself on the scale a while after I started losing weight, and I'M SO GLAD I DID. If I didn't know where I started, I wouldn't know how far I've come! Actually I wish I had weighed myself right when I began, because I'm sure what I consider to be my "starting weight" is lower than my actual starting weight.

    So my advice is to just do it. Weigh yourself. You might not like what you see, but you'll be glad you did once you've started losing.

    And btw, when I did that first weigh-in, my weight was a good 20 pounds lighter than I expected it to be, so nice surprises are possible!

    You're missing the point.... OP doesn't need to lose weight.
  • thewindandthework
    thewindandthework Posts: 531 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    thewindandthework wrote: »
    Oh
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me :(

    Oh, I can relate to this. When I started losing weight I had only a rough idea of what I weighed because I was afraid to weigh myself.

    I forced myself on the scale a while after I started losing weight, and I'M SO GLAD I DID. If I didn't know where I started, I wouldn't know how far I've come! Actually I wish I had weighed myself right when I began, because I'm sure what I consider to be my "starting weight" is lower than my actual starting weight.

    So my advice is to just do it. Weigh yourself. You might not like what you see, but you'll be glad you did once you've started losing.

    And btw, when I did that first weigh-in, my weight was a good 20 pounds lighter than I expected it to be, so nice surprises are possible!

    You're missing the point.... OP doesn't need to lose weight.

    Agreed. I edited my post between the time you quoted me and the time you posted.
  • rianneonamission
    rianneonamission Posts: 854 Member
    Yes, absolutely get on that waiting list ASAP. At least then you stand a chance of getting it sooner rather than later. I know mental health support on the NHS is limited but keep pushing for it.

    However, like @TavistockToad says, you are not overweight. You are in the healthy BMI range. And I stick by my earlier comments re your problem being your family, not the scales.

    Whilst you are waiting for counselling, and as long as you do intend to learn about a more positive and healthy way of being in control of your diet, weight, etc, without rubbish diets/pills/potions, I would suggest you have a look at Richie Howey on Facebook. He has a number of videos explaining calories in vs calories out and other basic concepts of nutrition. His aim is basically to teach people how to be in control of their diet and nutrition without going on special diets. He recommends MFP, he promotes normal deficits over crash diets (don't starve yourself), he wants to teach people to have a healthy level of control over their diet. He swears like a trooper but honestly, he's worth a watch.

    But remember this: you pick your friends, not your family. And it sounds like your friends are far more realistic and kind than your family. Hold on to those friends.

    Sending you much strength. And only do this for yourself. No one else should ever dictate your size or your self image.
  • rianneonamission
    rianneonamission Posts: 854 Member
    https://www.facebook.com/richie.howey/posts/10155535669339295
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,026 Member
    EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »
    I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me :(
    Don't live and die by the scale numbers. The scale only tracks weight and IS NOT always an indication of how one looks.

    If you wore the clothes you like, looked the way you like, people comment on how great you look, then why does the scale matter?

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  • rianneonamission
    rianneonamission Posts: 854 Member
    So, @EloquentSelfLoathing , this is me. Pics are the wrong way round: right is before, left is after. This is the result of exercise before I started tracking my calories too. In the after picture I am about 3lbs heavier, but I look leaner. No diet involved, just exercise. I took the after photo because I was getting very down after not seeing the number on the scales move down, despite having spent two months training my *kitten* off with the help of a PT.

    Seeing the difference in my shape totally changed my attitude towards my scales. Now that I do track my calorie intake the scales are simply a guide, though I care more about the body fat and muscle mass % it tells me than the actual weight.

    I thought I'd share this to show that the number on the scale doesn't accurately reflect how you look and feel.

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  • EloquentSelfLoathing
    EloquentSelfLoathing Posts: 20 Member
    Thanks everyone, feeling supported and reassured :)
  • EloquentSelfLoathing
    EloquentSelfLoathing Posts: 20 Member
    rianneonamission wrote: »
    So, @EloquentSelfLoathing , this is me. Pics are the wrong way round: right is before, left is after. This is the result of exercise before I started tracking my calories too. In the after picture I am about 3lbs heavier, but I look leaner. No diet involved, just exercise. I took the after photo because I was getting very down after not seeing the number on the scales move down, despite having spent two months training my *kitten* off with the help of a PT.

    Seeing the difference in my shape totally changed my attitude towards my scales. Now that I do track my calorie intake the scales are simply a guide, though I care more about the body fat and muscle mass % it tells me than the actual weight.

    I thought I'd share this to show that the number on the scale doesn't accurately reflect how you look and feel.

    0fkd7dxpcngn.jpg

    Gorgeous picture :)
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