Never able to stick to anything
Sassybish
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I can never seem to stick to any of my diet or exercise plans but now I'm ready for a change, and ready to get myself ready for summer. I need someone who wont leave me alone. To keep at me about my goals. To help not let me slip. Anyone willing to help would be awesome. 
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Somebody, please help me out!
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Honestly, if you can't "stick to it" either the diet and exercise plan are too extreme for you, or you just don't have it as a priority in your life. If you NEED someone to keep you going, then it sounds like it's more about personal commitment. Till you remedy that, it doesn't matter much how much someone tries to help. Do it on your own for 2 weeks. If you can't get through that, no amount of cheering on will help.
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Yeah i guess that is true but its always good for support and motivation!0
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These issues are usually derived from an all or nothing mentality. Never "slipping up" (I don't really call it that) isn't a realistic expectation. With this kind of mentality, a "slip up" turns into an, "oh well, *kitten* it...I already ruined it" and you're never going to get anywhere with that mentality.
I eat well most of the time and exercise regularly...I also go to pool parties and BBQs, and we like to have pizza on most Friday nights. These things aren't particularly material to what I'm doing on the whole, so I don't really worry about them. Having pizza on Friday doesn't make me suddenly let the rest of my diet go to *kitten*...9 -
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You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes. They say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest.5
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Find something you can both enjoy and fit into your lifestyle. It doesn't need to be drastic and immediate. Small changes and consistent healthy habits are all it really takes. Be good to yourself!4
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KeepRunningFatboy wrote: »Find something you can both enjoy and fit into your lifestyle. It doesn't need to be drastic and immediate. Small changes and consistent healthy habits are all it really takes. Be good to yourself!
Thankyou! I will try
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I can never seem to stick to any of my diet or exercise plans but now I'm ready for a change, and ready to get myself ready for summer. I need someone who wont leave me alone. To keep at me about my goals. To help not let me slip. Anyone willing to help would be awesome.
You have to give yourself "permission" to screw up and then just keep moving forward. No one can change this mindset for you.
"Rather than aiming to be perfect, aim to be better than you were yesterday."
Losing weight isn't about stringing xxx amount of perfect days together. Losing weight is about finding realistic changes. I can eliminate foods I love, temporarily. But that just leaves me with temporary weight loss.6 -
I can never seem to stick to any of my diet or exercise plans but now I'm ready for a change, and ready to get myself ready for summer. I need someone who wont leave me alone. To keep at me about my goals. To help not let me slip. Anyone willing to help would be awesome.
You have to give yourself "permission" to screw up and then just keep moving forward. No one can change this mindset for you.
"Rather than aiming to be perfect, aim to be better than you were yesterday."
Losing weight isn't about stringing xxx amount of perfect days together. Losing weight is about finding realistic changes. I can eliminate foods I love, temporarily. But that just leaves me with temporary weight loss.
Thankyou this is awesome, I always try lose lots of weight fast, rather than doing it the normal way and making realistic goals.
I guess because im not trying to lose that much weight, i always have the mind set that itl be easy to lose, which is not true. Any weight is hard to lose, no matter how much youre trying to work off0 -
What is MFP? I keep seeing this,but have no idea what it means. Thanks.0
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Maybe start with something small, for example I started with simply cutting out Soda, then I started talking walks at night. Then I found MFP and started tracking my calories and i've lost 32 pounds in the past four months. I normally dont stick to anything either, however something was different this time and im not sure what it was.
Edit: Cutting soda is just something I couldnt moderate, not saying no one can handle soda, for me it was just a trigger, there are no good or bad foods.3 -
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laurenebargar wrote: »Maybe start with something small, for example I started with simply cutting out Soda, then I started talking walks at night. Then I found MFP and started tracking my calories and i've lost 32 pounds in the past four months. I normally dont stick to anything either, however something was different this time and im not sure what it was.
Edit: Cutting soda is just something I couldnt moderate, not saying no one can handle soda, for me it was just a trigger, there are no good or bad foods.
Thanyou!0 -
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest.
Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely. 3 -
Everything's possible, never give up.
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kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou0 -
MysticGoalie wrote: »Everything's possible, never give up.
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Agree that maybe you should start working on "all or nothing". When I started this saying helped me, don't know the origin, but it seemed to come up a lot-
Perfect is the enemy of good.4 -
When weighing, look at the trend over time, not the daily number. Make the best choices food / exercise. Body composition will follow.
Be aware that there can be possible temporary 'weight gain', not necessarily 'fat gain', due water retention (eated to much salt, eated lots of carbs), the body holding onto water when repairing muscles.. food remnants still inside the precious body from previous meal(s)..
Which all can come off in a whoosh..
It's possible aside weighing, to take measurements, add pictures to weigh-ins (phone app myfitnesspal), to see if there's changes in how you look, and from where your precious body takes body fat first for extra energy (your tummy could be the first, or the last place where your body takes energy from when not getting enough from food)..
It's not possible to target where fat loss comes from first, your precious body decides..
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Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
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alwaysbloated wrote: »Set up a system and follow it everyday. Set yourself up for success and you'll be less likely to fail. That is what I've done. I've been unsuccessful 99% of the times I've tried to lose weight, but this time I think I'll get to my goal. If you do something like this, you will too, unless you have an underlying medical condition (or 7) that need to be addressed first.alwaysbloated wrote: »This is my system. It's not perfect or complete yet, I still need some strategies for when I'm in a bad mood, don't feel like doing anything, or get injured. Today it was raining, and my feet were too sore to wear running shoes, so I walked around the mall for a few hours. If I had a gym membership, I would have gone for a swim or hopped on the bike for half an hour.
1. Get up early
2. Drink a cup of coffee and have a piece of toast with some peanut butter
3. Walk 10,000 steps
4. Have lunch and snacks outside for vitamin D
5. Drink heaps of liquids (I usually drink up to 8 cups of decaf tea a day)
6. Make lunch and snacks for the next day in the evening
7. Try not to eat ridiculous portions
8. Try to stop eating by 8pm
9. Charge my fitbit
10. Go to sleep in my workout clothes
Binging
2. Load up on photographs or go somewhere and sing along with spotify (in the bath, or on the treadmill) instead of loading up on food (looking at photos gives me so much happiness and I love singing).
3. Meditate until the feelings pass
4. Have a bath
5. Use money I would usually spend on fast food for things like make-up
6. Get space from the food, visit a friend or something, or even have a nap
7. Understand that part of my craving is from a lack of dopamine, try to get it some other way (music/photos/pokemon go etc)
Lack of motivation
-Check my pinterest boards for inspiration and to refocus
Exercise
1. Get it out of the way so I don't have to think about it
2. Go trampolining and swimming once a week
3. Have set exercise commitments with people that I can't break, because I don't want to let them down
Fun Stuff
1. Set challenges and goals- etc do "*" for 30 days
2. Inspire others
Know myself
1. Keep track of binges (old or current), with nutritional information so I'm better informed about the decisions I make
Treat myself
1. Wear clothing I like
2. Buy whatever I can afford that will help my progress in losing weight (currently waiting til I get down to 100kg to get a step up bench because that is the weight limit). Do not use tools as rewards.
3. Do not reward myself with things or experiances, but have them anyway. Accept that the real reward is progress. Reward effort. For example, I got my hair dyed purple yesterday, and to pay for it, I went a few weeks without buying fast food.
Make a list of things that are stopping you from losing weight (triggers, barriers or things you get in the way), and then problem solve how you can fix each of those things. For example here are some of mine:
Are super lazy and hate exercise: do things that are fun. Get help from a professional (PT). Exercise with friends. Walk between places. Do 10-20,000 steps first thing in the morning to get it out of the way.
Want to eat all the time: Get busy and find distractions
Obsessed with salt and vinegar chips: eat salt and vinegar rice crackers instead, or pickles in vinegar
Always hungry: Drink more water, tea and vegetable based soups
Feel like I can't reach my goals: Try. Reward effort rather than results.
This is awesome defiantly screen shotting for later, thankyou so much! This is great, i hope you do well in your weight loss adventure!1 -
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MysticGoalie wrote: »When weighing, look at the trend over time, not the daily number. Make the best choices food / exercise. Body composition will follow.
Be aware that there can be possible temporary 'weight gain', not necessarily 'fat gain', due water retention (eated to much salt, eated lots of carbs), the body holding onto water when repairing muscles.. food remnants still inside the precious body from previous meal(s)..
Which all can come off in a whoosh..
It's possible aside weighing, to take measurements, add pictures to weigh-ins (phone app myfitnesspal), to see if there's changes in how you look, and from where your precious body takes body fat first for extra energy (your tummy could be the first, or the last place where your body takes energy from when not getting enough from food)..
It's not possible to target where fat loss comes from first, your precious body decides..
Already started on that, wrote out and drew the places i wanted to change, measured. Not sure how often i should "weigh in" though, some say the more you weigh in, the more likely you aren't going to loose weight? Does anyone know if this is true?
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Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
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IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body0 -
Not true. When you eat at a calorie deficit, you lose weight. Your (water, waste) weight fluctuates from day to day, independently from (fat) weight gain or loss. You will need a few weeks if sticking to your plan in order to see a true loss. How often you should weigh in, is up to preference, as in, how you prefer to get the data. Weighing every day gives you all the ups and downs, weighing weekly gives you one in seven data points. There is no guarantee your weight will be at the same spot in your wave/cycle every time if you weigh weekly. The most consistent results come from daily weigh-ins, in my opinion. But no matter which frequency you choose, you need to understand (at least superficially) and accept (deeply) the fluctuations, and not not act on them. You should only act on your weight trend, and act sensibly.MysticGoalie wrote: »When weighing, look at the trend over time, not the daily number. Make the best choices food / exercise. Body composition will follow.
Be aware that there can be possible temporary 'weight gain', not necessarily 'fat gain', due water retention (eated to much salt, eated lots of carbs), the body holding onto water when repairing muscles.. food remnants still inside the precious body from previous meal(s)..
Which all can come off in a whoosh..
It's possible aside weighing, to take measurements, add pictures to weigh-ins (phone app myfitnesspal), to see if there's changes in how you look, and from where your precious body takes body fat first for extra energy (your tummy could be the first, or the last place where your body takes energy from when not getting enough from food)..
It's not possible to target where fat loss comes from first, your precious body decides..
Already started on that, wrote out and drew the places i wanted to change, measured. Not sure how often i should "weigh in" though, some say the more you weigh in, the more likely you aren't going to loose weight? Does anyone know if this is true?2 -
Please try to change your mindset from on/off a program or that all/nothing thinking mentioned before. You need to allow yourself permission to have/eat/do anything but CHOOSE what is the best option for your goals and health. It's a commitment to making better choices FOREVER that will help you succeed. I will go to any event or restaurant knowing I can make a good choice ...or not. That is 100% in my control. I can choose lean protein and fresh vegetables or I can choose fried food and bread. I "don't" eat worms, just like I "don't" eat french fries (or whatever!)...poor example maybe, but trying to make a point! It's not that I can't have french fries (and do on occassion, btw) or X,Y and Z... but I choose not to (most of the time) because those choices don't help me reach my goals.
Like anything in life, there are consequences for our actions and we need to be responsible with the options we pick. I think alot of us struggle with this. Keep at it and go for progress, not perfection!3
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