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  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    Nobody is judging you here.

    Then what is the rationale behind wanting to know my weight?

    I believe the initial question was asked because there are a lot of people who come on saying they are starving themselves and are overweight when in fact they are underweight so it's to see if this was one of those cases. Those people often refuse to post their weights so they won't be found out.

    Just fyi "normal" weight people are not more judgemental than obese or underweight people. Not sure where you got the idea that we are all nasty mean judgers

    Life experiences have shown me enough.

    I can tell you as a slightly underweight/ normal weight person that I have had many many comments from overweight people about my body. Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Plus the attitude that all normal weight people judge others but obese people don't is ironically very judgemental.
  • angel5392
    angel5392 Posts: 39 Member
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    Nobody is judging you here.

    Then what is the rationale behind wanting to know my weight?

    I believe the initial question was asked because there are a lot of people who come on saying they are starving themselves and are overweight when in fact they are underweight so it's to see if this was one of those cases. Those people often refuse to post their weights so they won't be found out.

    Just fyi "normal" weight people are not more judgemental than obese or underweight people. Not sure where you got the idea that we are all nasty mean judgers

    Life experiences have shown me enough.

    I can tell you as a slightly underweight/ normal weight person that I have had many many comments from overweight people about my body. Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Plus the attitude that all normal weight people judge others but obese people don't is ironically very judgemental.

    Okay maybe I should have clarified. A lot of people at a normal weight judge but all the drs I have come across have.
  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    edited July 2017
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    Nobody is judging you here.

    Then what is the rationale behind wanting to know my weight?

    I believe the initial question was asked because there are a lot of people who come on saying they are starving themselves and are overweight when in fact they are underweight so it's to see if this was one of those cases. Those people often refuse to post their weights so they won't be found out.

    Just fyi "normal" weight people are not more judgemental than obese or underweight people. Not sure where you got the idea that we are all nasty mean judgers

    Life experiences have shown me enough.

    I can tell you as a slightly underweight/ normal weight person that I have had many many comments from overweight people about my body. Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Plus the attitude that all normal weight people judge others but obese people don't is ironically very judgemental.

    Okay maybe I should have clarified. A lot of people at a normal weight judge but all the drs I have come across have.

    Some normal weight people judge, some overweight people judge and some underweight people judge. Yes I get medical people take EDNOS claims less seriously if you are not considerably underweight (you'd be surprised that they don't believe you if your bmi is above 19) but actual eating disorder specialists and treatment centers are more educated. I underwent inpatient and intensive day hospital with a few overweight people. I get binging and purging, I get EDNOS and how it's hard to get treatment with that diagnosis (I was EDNOS and am now EDNOS but when I was in active treatment I was changed to anorexia binge/purge. I couldn't get a referral until my bmi dropped below 16 because I never lost my period until than and at that time it was part of the criteria)
  • angel5392
    angel5392 Posts: 39 Member
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    singingflutelady wrote: »
    Nobody is judging you here.

    Then what is the rationale behind wanting to know my weight?

    I believe the initial question was asked because there are a lot of people who come on saying they are starving themselves and are overweight when in fact they are underweight so it's to see if this was one of those cases. Those people often refuse to post their weights so they won't be found out.

    Just fyi "normal" weight people are not more judgemental than obese or underweight people. Not sure where you got the idea that we are all nasty mean judgers

    Life experiences have shown me enough.

    I can tell you as a slightly underweight/ normal weight person that I have had many many comments from overweight people about my body. Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Plus the attitude that all normal weight people judge others but obese people don't is ironically very judgemental.

    Okay maybe I should have clarified. A lot of people at a normal weight judge but all the drs I have come across have.

    Some normal weight people judge, some overweight people judge and some underweight people judge. Yes I get medical people take EDNOS claims less seriously if you are not considerably underweight (you'd be surprised that they don't believe you if your bmi is above 19) but actual eating disorder specialists and treatment centers are more educated. I underwent inpatient and intensive day hospital with a few overweight people. I get binging and purging, I get EDNOS and how it's hard to get treatment with that diagnosis (I was EDNOS and am now EDNOS but when I was in active treatment I was changed to anorexia binge/purge. I couldn't get a referral until my bmi dropped below 16 because I never lost my period until than and at that time it was part of the criteria)

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I know all too well they don't believe you with a bmi of over 19, mine is much higher than that. Sorry to hear your experience was bad as well. I wish I could afford a specialist :/
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    angel5392 wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    I'm actually overweight because I used to be morbidly obese due to bingeing not that that's anybody's business. You can have an ED at any weight

    Is there a reason you wont post actual numbers?

    Yeah there is actually. 1. Cos all you're gonna do is judge me. 2. The only person who knows my weight is me, even my fiancé doesn't know me, it brings me anxiety to tell other people.

    So i post in your thread trying to help, but you know better that its just to judge you? Ok then.
  • angel5392
    angel5392 Posts: 39 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    angel5392 wrote: »
    I'm actually overweight because I used to be morbidly obese due to bingeing not that that's anybody's business. You can have an ED at any weight

    Is there a reason you wont post actual numbers?

    Yeah there is actually. 1. Cos all you're gonna do is judge me. 2. The only person who knows my weight is me, even my fiancé doesn't know me, it brings me anxiety to tell other people.

    So i post in your thread trying to help, but you know better that its just to judge you? Ok then.

    I'm sorry.. I get paranoid sometimes..

    If you want to help I may pm you my weight but kinda feel threatened saying it here..
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