I keep sabotaging myself!

CB8504 wrote: »

I guess what I'm also saying is I'm not moderating my intake as well. It's like "hey you've had your sweets today and take out, that's enough" but then I get take out again for supper and eat a candy bar. Why, why, why? I have very little self control.
Thanks for responding by the way. It's nice to feel heard. I appreciate your encouragement!

Focus on feeling full, that helped me tremendously curb down the snacking on days when I wanted to go for the easy stuff. Trust me the last thing you want to do is eat when your stomach feels full. Focus on meals and snacks that are a little more dense but not necessarily calorie dense, or just drink water. The latter works great in a pinch, and I have gone from "I REALLY want to go get chips" to "yeah no way no how now" a few times thanks to it. For some it's carbs, for some it's fats, for me it's proteins.

CB8504 wrote: »

Every night before I go to bed I tell myself tomorrow will be different. All my food decisions will be healthy! But then I always end up eating bad foods because I'm hungry or I just can't stop thinking about what ever it is I'm craving. I read all these success stories of people who seem to all say they had something click inside them that said enough, I'm making a change and they quit eating processed foods, sugar, etc and just started eating fruits and vegetables. I need that "click" to happen to me that gives me that strength and willpower to say no fried foods and sweets even if hubby is eating it. Even if it's just a gradual start.

Right now I just sabotage myself every day. Today I went over by 1,000. So I tell myself "if you quit eating what you know is bad for you then you won't feel bad about yourself and have regrets" Of course I tell myself this at night but then everything resets the next morning. So I'm just venting here. I know what I need to do to reach my goals, I just need to make myself be stronger against these cravings.

Ur words echo my exact situation! Were u active or normal weight in the past tho? I mean ive always struggled with food and yoyoed with weight but i used to like sports....still do but little willpower as u say. I currently eat more than double my calories daily. Im addicted to sugar especially in coffee and soda. I dont drink water at all. And even tho the thougt of losing weight sounds heavenly, i dont seem to be able to say no to myself. My habits are so strong now. Bad food choices, Eating or drinking throughout the day, eating at night, sitting a lot, no water, etc. Even exercise only works if i pay a trainer for motivation. And yet i wnt it so bad....i look awful. ....cant look at myself in the mirror....will need to buy clothes soon for another year and totally dreading it....will need to travel soon and totally dreading it....need to go to a wedding and just cringing inside at the thought....but still....the struggle seems so hard. And yet, i know if i just do 2 weeks of normal eating/drinking, i will b on a roll nd feeling a whole lot better. Wht shld we do?? How can we help eachother?

How about logging your meals ahead of time. Decide what you will eat for each meal and log it that morning or the day before? That might help you if you know you need to stick to only what you logged. Once you get in to a good routine for about 2-3 weeks it will get a little easier. I have been back at it for a week and noticed a couple days I would get a bored feeling and want food but had to busy myself with something else til it goes away. I was bored eating and probably didn't even realize it half the time so that's why I was gaining weight.

Do you drink diet soda or use artificial sweeteners? They can drastically change your appetite. I've always struggled with weight and had a problem sticking to a plan. I recently cut out artificial sweeteners and it has made a HUGE difference for me. I used to feel like I was compulsively eating and had no control, but now I feel like my relationship with food has completely changed. Best wishes on your journey!

I've read this a million times on MFP: think of this as a lifestyle, not a diet. Think of it as a permanent lifestyle.

Include foods you enjoy -- just make them fit into your calorie goal for the day. Plan a small sweet for dessert. You can also have treats that aren't calorie bombs -- yogurt with fruit, for example.

If you are just trying to lose weight, it's all about calories, not the type of food.

If you have a medical problem, or want to overhail your diet to have better nutrition, then the type of food would matter more.

If your husband is eating trigger food in front of you, can the two of you work something out? The people we live with are not on a diet, so they have the right to eat whatever they want, but maybe he could eat it at work and not at home?

Meal prep!!! Seriously. One day a week, make 21 meals. That's what I do (well, I make 42 - 6 meals a day is my nutrition plan). If I'm hungry I just grab one and pop it in the microwave. Each one of my meals has 4-5oz lean protien, 1/2 cup complex carbs, 1 cup veggies. That way, I never sabotage my nutrition when I get hungry (which is all the time!)

Just read your post this morning Miss and thought that is a brilliant idea. I will make myself go and look in the mirror when tempted to eat off plan, even if it is just one or two extra pecans. Thanks for your inspiring idea.

No. No click. Well, no one big click. Lots of little click. As reflected in the other responses, expecting one day to do a 180 into "healthy" eating is unrealistic.

There is no one answer. Have you calculated a calorie target? Maybe figure out your maintenance calories and aim at that first.

Do you keep a food diary?

I've lost 100 lbs and kept it off 10 years. I don't count calories, but my food scale, I've been through about 6 of them, never left my kitchen counter. It's the only way I can control my portions. Eating to full is something I never got.

Go somewhere and get a good look at a deep fryer. They're disgusting. If you can get away from fried food for a while, it loses its appeal.

I don't eat candy bars. But sometimes I eat half a candy bar. I buy them 1 at a time. Cut them in half and put them in the freezer. Takes longer to eat.

Weight loss is a skill set, a set of things to do. You won't lose without doing at least some of them.

eat the "bad" foods /// eat all of the "bad" foods //just eat them in moderation

I eat at an avg of 1600 calories, I eat sweets, I drink alcohol, I eat crisps/pastries etc etc ... I am losing at 1lb a week (on average) not allowing your self certain foods makes you want them more ... so tell yourself that you shall have all of the foods at certain times / certain days

just make the rest of your calories fit around your cravings!!

find what works for you .. clearly cutting out foods from your normal diet doesn't work!