I keep falling off the weight loss wagon

day17
day17 Posts: 47 Member
edited November 20 in Health and Weight Loss
I can't seem to stick to a diet. Ever since I had my baby I lose some weight then go back to eating a bunch of food. Something happened this last week that made me fall of the wagon again, how do I just stick to it? I'm so disappointed in myself.

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  • Destiny242
    Destiny242 Posts: 1 Member
    I have always been small/petite my entire life. 5"1 110lbs. I had a baby in 2006 and lost almost all the weight (although your body is never the same) However about 3 years ago I quit smoking and have slowly put on weight. Here I am at 140lbs and not happy with myself and need to make a change.
    I agree don't go on a diet. I find when I deprive myself I fall off the wagon. I am trying to change the way I eat in general, but I am watching calorie intake. "So I had a candy bar at lunch... ok so maybe not have bread at dinner."
    I have myself a daily calorie intake goal that I stay with in and if I give into a craving, I can lower my calorie intake at another meal. Try not to sweat it too much as long as I stay within my goal.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    edited August 2017
    Why do you think you can only stick to your diet (anyone eating in an attempt to lose weight is on a diet, call it what you want) for a few days? Are you being too strict or aggressive? Try cutting back just a little. Don't give up every food you like just because it might not be a "healthy food". A slow weight loss is better than no weight loss.
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    Make your goals easier. If you think MFP and calorie counting is the way to go, make your first goal just tracking all your calories for X days/weeks (months, in my case, because I was so scared of "dieting"). Then make your second goal changing one - and only one - thing with your diet, and sustaining that for X days/weeks. Then make your third goal changing another thing, and so on, and so forth. It sounds slow, because it is slow, but there won't be a wagon to fall off of if you give yourself time to adapt!
  • day17
    day17 Posts: 47 Member
    I understand, thanks for the input guys. I just feel so useless, like I'm just gonna keep gaining and gaining until I'm on an episode of "My 600 pound life"
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    day17 wrote: »
    I understand, thanks for the input guys. I just feel so useless, like I'm just gonna keep gaining and gaining until I'm on an episode of "My 600 pound life"

    Hey, I get it - I'd been gradually (and sometimes not so gradually) gaining for years before I started actually paying attention to what I was putting in my mouth. It felt like a huge victory to realize that I can control whether I gain, maintain, or lose - before it just felt like a thing that was happening to me. You're not useless!
  • kimny72
    kimny72 Posts: 16,011 Member
    Do you have one bad day and think "Oh well, I failed. I guess I can't do this."?

    Because EVERYBODY has bad days where they eat too much. The difference between people who reach their goal weight and people who don't is the successful people don't feel guilty and give up when they go over their calories one day. One or two days is NOTHING. You will succeed or not based on what you do on most days.

    So try to find a way to eat that you can enjoy and feel good with for the rest of your life at the right calorie level. Include treats in moderation. And if you have one of those days where you drive a little (or a lot!) off course - log it, figure out why it happened and how you can do better next time, shrug it off, and hit your calorie goal tomorrow like a boss. :drinker:
  • day17
    day17 Posts: 47 Member
    MegaMooseEsq wrote: »
    day17 wrote: »
    I understand, thanks for the input guys. I just feel so useless, like I'm just gonna keep gaining and gaining until I'm on an episode of "My 600 pound life"

    Hey, I get it - I'd been gradually (and sometimes not so gradually) gaining for years before I started actually paying attention to what I was putting in my mouth. It felt like a huge victory to realize that I can control whether I gain, maintain, or lose - before it just felt like a thing that was happening to me. You're not useless!
    kimny72 wrote: »
    Do you have one bad day and think "Oh well, I failed. I guess I can't do this."?

    Because EVERYBODY has bad days where they eat too much. The difference between people who reach their goal weight and people who don't is the successful people don't feel guilty and give up when they go over their calories one day. One or two days is NOTHING. You will succeed or not based on what you do on most days.

    So try to find a way to eat that you can enjoy and feel good with for the rest of your life at the right calorie level. Include treats in moderation. And if you have one of those days where you drive a little (or a lot!) off course - log it, figure out why it happened and how you can do better next time, shrug it off, and hit your calorie goal tomorrow like a boss. :drinker:

    Yes I do have bad days which turn into bad weeks which turn to months and so forth. I've been trying to lose weight since February. I succeeded at losing 20 lbs then gained it back. Idk if it's because I have an infant and a toddler so I stress eat. Or I eat because I'm bored from being at home all day. I don't like going out much cause it's too much of a hassle with them. I wanna lose weight for them, I wanna look good for my husband but most importantly, I wanna feel good for myself. I've been overweight my whole life. I'm only 23 so I should feel confident but I don't. At all. Sorry if I'm babbling it's just one of those days.
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    You are creating too much drama with "falling off the wagon." Just make small adjustments and keep going. If your baby poops their pants, you don't take them back to the hospital and start over. You clean up and keep going!
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    lorrpb wrote: »
    You are creating too much drama with "falling off the wagon." Just make small adjustments and keep going. If your baby poops their pants, you don't take them back to the hospital and start over. You clean up and keep going!

    But I specifically asked for the "no messes" model!
  • kokonani
    kokonani Posts: 507 Member
    No one is perfect when it comes to eating. All of these successful weight losses had it's ups and downs. The less you are restricting yourself and not making it feel like a temporary "diet", the less you will stress out about it. Keep using mfp, log everything, and you will do just fine!
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