Why did you have a baby????!!!!!!

One word describes my first....oops!

I was 33 when I had my daughter. I was also in a position (lucky me) to decide if and when I wanted to have children. My husband (at the time) and I just wanted kids - a ton of them. We were going to have one naturally, then adopt. We had one naturally after years of trying, and then just stopped.

But I had a hard time with other people's children, and went through a time period where I thought I wouldn't be a good mom because kids drive me nuts. Well, they still do. Except mine. For me, it was worth every moment. I wanted to experience the joy of pregnancy, which I ADORED, and I wanted to experience the wonder of holding a little bitty creation in my arms from the moment of her birth. I was bowled over by the love I felt, and to this day, I wouldn't trade anything in the entire world for my daughter and the experiences we've had together.

I would like more kids. But they won't happen naturally, so I've considered adoption. Problem is, I'm now a single mom, my daughter is 8, and I've probably gotten to a point where it's not going to happen.

BUT - if one of your issues is that you don't want to bring a child into this world (something I've thought about over and over again, both before, but alot since, having my daughter), why not look into loving and caring for a child someone else brought into the world but doesn't want. There are, unfortunately, tons of kiddos out there who want nothing more than the love of a parent(s).

Anyway - having my daughter changed my life, for the better, I think. But it IS an individual choice...and there is a lot of headache that comes with it. But the joy outweighs it...SOOOOO much!

Well, there has always been "bad" things. Not making fun of you, but look at the holocaust. People still had families back then (obviously), the wars, crime, etc. Yes, it's sick but crime has always been around so that has never stopped me from wanting a family.

And why? I've always felt the need to reproduce. Always had the motherly instinct. I grew up in and out of foster care and when I met my husband we knew we'd have a big family. I never had a "family" so it was never a question NOT to have children. We wanted 4, but after our third we both had permanent birth control done because financially it was all we can afford.

Honestly it is scary thinking of bringing a child into this world the way things are now, but I had my son almost 5 1/2 years ago (just before the crazy dive in the economy) and if you really want to find out what it feels like to give and receive unconditional love...have a child. I learn amazing things from him daily and he's been a HUGE motivation in this fitness process for me too!

Well I had my three because I wanted to be a mom and I love being pregnant. I cant imagine life without them. The are my strength when I dont think I can do something. My daughter is soooo much like me its not even funny. She is such a beautiful young woman and I am honored to be her mom. My boys are so caring and sweet as well and when they found out I was trying to lose weight they were like ok mamma we will help. every evening they say ok mamma lets go walk they look forward to and now so do I. They are growing up so fast my liz is a senior, alex is in 8th grade and james is in 4 th grade . Im so proud to be their mamma. But having kids needs to be something you and your partner decide to do together. If the decision is to have kids get ready for a lot of sleepless nights and a lot of crying because its not always fun, its not always glamoruous but it is one of the most wonderful experiences I have ever had the pleasure of having and would do it all agian in a heartbeat. But as others have said its a personal decision and it needs to be made for the right reasons ; Good luck with your decision what ever it is .

There is no greater love, than the love between a Mother and child. I love my two beyond words. I was blessed with a daughter, then my son was born 4 1/2 yrs later. My daughter is now 29 yrs old and she has two children of her own. It may sound sappy, but I have always told my two that I loved them even before I could hold them in my arms. When my daughter was born, I thought something was wrong with her because she never cried. She let out little noises as they cleaned her up, weighed her, dressed and blanketed her. I asked if she was OK...the nurse laughed and said she was perfect. Then she put her in my arms...and as I spoke to her Daddy about how beautiful she was...she tilted her head back to look at me and blinked her eyes several times and our eyes met...for the first time. I have never felt so much love for, and such a connection to someone. She and I are still so very close. I wouldn't trade being a Mom for anything.

I have 2 daughters. Kids are awesome...until they become teenagers. ugh. :grumble: :huh: You still love them of course, but they break your heart. :brokenheart: I hope I survive my oldest daughter's teen years. She is quite a handful to deal with.

Father told me it was because he didn't like mowing.

I think it was really because he liked replacing broken things and yelling.

Because I'm irresponsible. True story. I was 18, it happens.

because he didn't want to stay in for more than 9 months! LOL.

if you want a baby, even at 34, it's okay. i would suggest getting with your doctor or a specialist to make sure it's okay for you, personally...all women are different. some may be healthy enough for a pregnancy and childbirth, others may not. there are certain risks you take when you're an older woman having a baby, but that's why you should talk with a pro! BEST WISHES!

I been debating this idea,being Im 34 now.I have no children and havent tried.I wonder if its even a good thing to bring one into this world with all the problems and fighting and all the worries I would have and the kid/kids.I have been watching 2 babies the last 4 days and its been rough Im thinking I want ONE if that lol I just was curious why people have them? I know it sounds stupid but Im serious. What do you think???

Im 40 and I ask the same question.
Become a nanny. Then you get all the benefits with none of the pain/life change/hassle...
At least take care of children/infants (under 2) for 1 year. If you still want them after that have at it...
Sorry to be so sarcastic.
I have many other reasons why I havent had kids but thats not pertinent to your questions...

I don't have children yet as I'm broke and going to school to get a degree, some accomplishments and do something I want to do. I am married and have been for over two years and we both aren't ready.

The big thing for us is finances, we barely make enough for two people to be happy let alone 3 or more. I guess also being 23 I feel like I still have some years to be irresponsible! (Not the devastating kind lol) I really want children because I want little kids to play with and enrich their lives. I want to see people that look like me and that were given a chance to live thanks to myself.

I'd love to be there to watch a person succeed from the start and I bet it is so fulfilling to see what work you put into a child make a independent person. I also think its part of a well rounded life to have children and your own family.

Hopefully they will want to be around when they grow up, have their own kids and lives, and give me company when I'm old. Plus I've never felt unconditional love before, maybe with my husband, but not mother kind of love and I'd like to know what that's like.

'Cause I couldn't convince anyone else to have mine for me.

Condoms don't work all the time. That's an annoying lesson to learn the hard way.

Decided to go ahead with the pregnancy and have her because there wasn't really very concrete reason not to, even with the more challenging circumstances for her father and me. And despite trepidations or tough circumstances, you'll be hard-pressed to every regret the decision to have kids. Once they're in your life, it's impossible to imagine them not being there, and you love them unconditionally. You can still not like other people's kids, but man, you will love the crap out of yours, no matter what.

With that being said, we're not having another one. I never wanted kids in the first place, and neither did he, and she is plenty of child-rearing experience for the both of us. It's nice knowing I won't have to go through those annoying stages more than once.