Anyone try to lose weight in secret?

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  • drgnfyre
    drgnfyre Posts: 45 Member
    I don't tell anyone. I made that mistake once. While not everyone is judgmental or negative, a lot of people are even when they mean well. I was surrounded by many negative people that were not supportive of my new eating habits at all. I even had a bf once that would sabotage my food to keep me from loosing. Now, i don't tell anyone and if i don't want to eat something, I just say i am full or ate already on the way over.
  • rainbow198
    rainbow198 Posts: 2,245 Member
    edited August 2017
    When I started to lose weight back in 2012 I only told my guy since I was changing my eating habits.

    I'm really private and I keep to myself so I wasn't intentionally keeping my weight loss a secret. It was great though. I was able to try different things and see what worked for me without people breathing down my back and "monitoring" my progress.

    As time went on and I got into a groove, the weight started to come off and inches began to melt off my body. I could no longer stay quiet and my worst fears came true.

    "OMG Rainbow, you look great - are you losing weight?" "What diet are you on?" "Don't lose too much weight now!" etc.

    I'm good at deflecting and changing the subject back around to the other person and that worked for a while...

    Then people started watching me - what and how much I ate, judged me for becoming more active, some started pushing foods they know I love on me and others policed what I ate. So very annoying. I just kept on. "No, thank you" became a very repetitive phrase I had to use.

    Now 4+ years into maintenance people seem to wonder how am I keeping my weight off and amazed with my transformation, but I don't get the food police etc. as much anymore.

    I'm so glad I kept quiet while I was losing weight in the beginning. Not everyone has their best intentions for you even though they are smiling in your face.
  • ccruz985
    ccruz985 Posts: 646 Member
    I don't tell anyone because it's nobody's business. And everyone loves to hold someone else accountable for anything that makes them feel better about not reaching their own goals, whatever they may be.
  • GottaluvFood
    GottaluvFood Posts: 65 Member
    I restrained when I started, too. 1) Didn't want advice. 2) It can actually be rude in social situations. If I'm offered food, they simply want to hear a 'yes' or 'no thank you'. They don't want to hear about my limitations.

    I've lost 30 pounds & no one has noticed (commented). But that's not a motivator for me.
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