Why does everyone tell you what to do?

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  • DebLaBounty
    DebLaBounty Posts: 1,169 Member
    edited August 2017
    I think eggs are a perfect food, to be honest. I'm having a couple scrambled eggs with grated cheese for dinner. What a rebel I am!
  • nycstems
    nycstems Posts: 25 Member
    daisyfields79 wrote: »
    It's really starting to driving me crazy, I've lost 15 pounds in just shy 3 weeks and people are starting to notice. They ask what I'm doing and I say I'm using this app and staying within the calories and stuff that it tells me to. Then they always have to put their 2 cents in, like oh you need to join a gym to do it properly, you not do that, it's bad for you, go on Atkins, way more protein, blah blah blah. Or oh 1 piece of cake will not hurt you, just have an ice cream cone. A few of these people telling me how to diet are not small themselves. Like 400 pounds so why am I going to listen to them or the ones telling me to eat junk are like a size 3. Seriously this is my life style change and I'm doing it the way that works for me, I mean 15 pounds in just under 3 weeks and I'm not feeling deprived. I eat 3 meals a day and snacks so I'm not starving myself, I'm walking everyday which I have not done on 20+ years. I can't eat ice cream because I'm not ready to yet, I'm a junk food addict and my life style change to kick my addiction to the curb has only just begun. They don't tell a crack head who's trying to quit, hey just do 1 line, it will not hurt, or the alcoholic trying to quit drinking, come on 1 beer will not hurt you because they know it will. Sorry rant over. I just need to vent.

    They're noticing the weight loss. Yay, for you!
  • VeronicaA76
    VeronicaA76 Posts: 1,116 Member
    Because that's what people do. If something is working for you keep doing it. When someone gives you advice, listen to it: if it's helpful - keep it, not helpful, toss it. Don't worry about ranting, it's perfectly understandable. Also, fair warning, dropping a lot of weight causes negative ninnies (my personal nickname for them) to try to tell you how you can't do something, because they can't do it.
  • CiaIgle
    CiaIgle Posts: 72 Member
    My 2 cents :smile:

    My case was really for Monty Python: I was losing around 10 kilos, my gym registration included a Nutritionist appointment. I took it and visited the specialist during my 3rd month (already 10 kilos down). Explain my process and the output: all I was doing was a waste of time, she prescribed the typical diet and handed it to me.

    I waste one hour of my time and nature all the wood paste used to create those two sheets of paper. At least I disposed 'em in the recycle bin :smiley:
  • elinordashed
    elinordashed Posts: 9 Member
    First of all.. 15 lbs is a lot in 3 weeks, however, most people lose a lot in their first few weeks (then slow going) so enjoy It! Don't get down when you lose slower, OP!

    Secondly, I am currently overweight BUT when I had lost weight the first time, lots of ppl had advice, were concerned, had things to say... like backward comments which hurt my feelings at the time. People think they are helping but a lot of time, it is not helpful or can hurt you on your journey. Accept the compliments when you get them. Tell the well meaners that you appreciate the advice or whatever, but drop it like its hot. Family is harder (isn't it always...). It depends on your fam. If your mom or whoever gives you grief, and that person is a deterrent say emotionally for your eating, please draw a line in the sand with them now. It will only get harder as you stick to your goals, lose more weight, and start feeling empowered. Say thank you, Mom/blah, but this is working for me. I promise I am being healthy. I talked to a dr. I am meeting my nutritional goals. Thanks for supporting me. This is hard. I need you. ETC!!

    I hope it gets easier but imo, it only gets harder. Don't let them get ya down. Stay strong.
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    edited August 2017
    Most people ask me for advice because it's hard to advise somebody who is sucessful without looking silly at the same time.

    The only way for people to stop telling what to do is by correctly training specific to your goal/sport or for you to stop paying attention to the unsolicited advice.
  • Sp1tfire
    Sp1tfire Posts: 1,120 Member
    Keep it going you ROCK!!!

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