Dead people walking, possibly in yoga pants or underpants
beingmore1
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Many of us struggle with depression. Some of you may have it more severe than others, where every day is a battle just to get out of bed and put on your underpants, let alone those yoga pants for working out. Others possibly deal with depression here and there and maybe only occasionally have flare ups where they feel like a dead man or woman walking. Other people are fortunate not to deal with depression at all. I think it's hard for those people to understand those of us that wage war with this unseen enemy, some of us every day. Some of us have to fight harder than others, but depression is an evil opponent....sometimes always there, sometimes hiding....and waiting.
This is a thread for anyone struggling, whether with depression or perhaps in understanding a loved one who has to fight the battle. Maybe you just need a place to pop in and say...."I'm here. I exist". Or maybe you need to let us know that yes....you passed up that donut but then cried for no reason while driving to work. Maybe you want to just post a hello so you don't feel alone. Perhaps someone might post a successful battle story to help motivate an unknown soul. Who knows, maybe this thread might motivate someone who is weighed down from depression and actually help them to put on their underpants and get out of bed. Maybe even help them take a walk in yoga pants. Be supportive. Be kind. Let it out. You aren't alone.
This is a thread for anyone struggling, whether with depression or perhaps in understanding a loved one who has to fight the battle. Maybe you just need a place to pop in and say...."I'm here. I exist". Or maybe you need to let us know that yes....you passed up that donut but then cried for no reason while driving to work. Maybe you want to just post a hello so you don't feel alone. Perhaps someone might post a successful battle story to help motivate an unknown soul. Who knows, maybe this thread might motivate someone who is weighed down from depression and actually help them to put on their underpants and get out of bed. Maybe even help them take a walk in yoga pants. Be supportive. Be kind. Let it out. You aren't alone.
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beingmore1 wrote: »The hard part for me is when my life is going great, good things are happening and then I have what I call a flare up of depression and I am miserable....AND GUILTY feeling because of it. How dare I feel so dead inside when other people have life so much worse than I do. This is one part of the struggle.
I can relate a bit with this. I have so many blessings and so much to be thankful for how DARE I feel down and lonely and depressed. I beat myself up daily.
Also in before this thread turns into a huge Woe is Me Pity Party Extravaganza.
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beingmore1 wrote: »I am not going for the woe is me pity party. But people do struggle, and sometimes it feels like there is no reason behind that struggle. And you know what? Yes, sometimes you exist for awhile in a woe is me state. Sometimes you get trapped and your brain isn't thinking logically about this stuff because you ARE suffering from depression. And it is a shame that sometimes that is viewed as "woe is me blah blah complainer" when in some cases it is legit. So maybe people need to be more patient before judging? I get irritated all the damn time...another struggle.
I get the struggle is real. Trust me I do. I don't mean to sound harsh by any stretch. That whole "get over it" thing is something I say to myself regularly. "Suck it up, J. There's always someone going through much worse". I hate it, but I'm probably harsher on myself than on anyone else.0 -
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beingmore1 wrote: »_har_T_Swallow wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »Also, how many of you have been told to "just get over it?"
How does that make you feel? For me kinda like just another thing I'm failing at. I can't even get over it. Yet with depression the body works against you. I hate when people say that.
personally, that's mostly why i just don't tell anybody how or when i really feel anymore. everybody has their own issues sure, and its not worth it for most people to stop and listen when its easier to just either shut up and keep it inside; or just turn it around and be a jerk towards everyone else in return.
in the end, every single person is still just a little soul carrying about a corpse. i figure the clock is just counting down until you can't carry it anymore. until then, not worth it to care about what most other people think. they aren't carrying the weight for you.
I don't care what anyone thinks. I'm not ashamed to say I'm struggling with depression, but it's not something I talk about to people in real life on a daily basis. Actually I think most people who struggle with it don't talk about it. They retreat within, lose motivation, will, desire. Life gets really hard, like just getting dressed. And they don't explain to everyone all the time..."hey, I feel like it would be great if I died in my sleep so I don't have to wake up tomorrow" (please know that these are not my thoughts but an example). I just thought of we had a thread somebody might read it and become a little more enlightened, and maybe think twice before calling someone a fat lazy slob. I don't know. I just thought it might be a useful topic of discussion.
It's easier to talk to people who already experience it because usually they can just tell anyway but even then everybody deals in different ways. Most of the time I need humour to dull it down, other times I just need to be away from people completely.
Some days I feel like the north star, others I feel like an explosion in a fireworks factory.
Do whatever you can to make it better.
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The “woe is me pity party” comment is what people like us struggle with from people who don’t understand the disease. No one wants to feel this way and I promise in most cases it is not a matter of wanting to feel that way.
I battled with my depression this weekend, and it won, as it always does. Yesterday was my baby nephew’s first birthday party and I could not bring myself to go and it broke my heart, along with dealing with my family being angry with me. It is a hard place to be. A lot of time my family chalks it up to me being a *kitten* or just lazy or a flake or just uncaring. Obviously 2 weeks ago when my sister made the plans I had no idea I was going to have a bout of unbearable anxiety and depression, so I agreed to go and said I wouldn’t miss it for the world. So when the world came crashing down on me for no apparent reason and I couldn’t bring myself to even get out of bed to eat all day, I had no excuse but “I don’t feel good.” The guilt I feel today for missing such a special event is almost as horrible as a I felt yesterday….but that’s depression.
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My mom loves to ask me "Why are you so down, things seem to be going so well. Just smile" People that don't get it, just do not get it.2
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I hate it when people tell me to smile more.
*kitten* off.9 -
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I hate it when people tell me to smile more.
*kitten* off.
I just tell those people, that I dislike crow's feet & thus not smiling; prevents them!1 -
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My 1st bout with depression, began near the end; of April 2016! I hadn't had children & began going through premature menopause, at 36; years of age. My 2nd was Valentine's Day 2017, I thought that I was over my situational depression, concerning premature menopause but obviously wasn't since being single, was also why I didn't have children; prior to it & thus I became depressed again.
Currently I am okay but believe that it's only because of my relief that I don't have to put as much pressure upon myself any longer, concerning getting rid of my excess weight; since I'll no longer be an organ donor when I die because of Canada's & Australia's decision to ban people with CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)/a history of, via donating blood due to a potential viral link being found; among those that've it. While I am an American, my politics align, mostly with Canada & Australia so I agree, with their decision! Unfortunately being an organ donor, was my only purpose; remaining to live but now, I've to find a new 1.0 -
beingmore1 wrote: »CaloricCountess wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I hate it when people tell me to smile more.
*kitten* off.
I just tell those people, that I dislike crow's feet & thus not smiling; prevents them!
Honestly, someone who is struggling could care less what you think and is probably pretty irritated by you if you tell them that. They can barely get through the day and here someone is saying "just smile!". So do not be offended if you get a *kitten* off in real life if you say this. Just an educational tidbit
I believe that you misunderstood my comment, as being something; that I'd tell a depressed person but it was instead something that I'd say, to someone whom criticizes a depressed person; for not smiling!2
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