Those with Significant Others...suggestions??

I can empathize. I've found it's helpful to only worry about myself. I have my goals, my opinions, my lifestyle. If he wants to join in - great. If not - I can't make him. He needs to realize it's important on his own and change for himself, not for me. (Just like we need to change for OURselves, not for anyone else).

I do share with him what's on my mind and heart. If he's interested or we're having conversation, or I find something new, I'll share with him about the importance of lean muscle making strong joints, bone density, fighting diseases, the importance of having a strong heart, and treating our body well so to improve our health for longer.

He gets it. It sinks in, over time. His personality is more laid-back, casual, "whatever" approach, he doesn't count what goes in his mouth, where I'm more competitive and controlling (and obsessive compulsive lol). So what's important for me, won't be important for him necessarily.

I just suggest that you continue doing what makes you feel good and strong and vibrant. Share with him WHY you do it. Share with him that you believe it's important for him to partner with you on your journey - for support and encouragement, and because you love him and care about him!

Eventually, though, don't get frustrated if he doesn't change (or if change is slow), ultimately, that will put pressure on him that he might resent.

Patience and perseverance!

It's very hard. My husband is a thin guy who has always been a "fast food" eater. He's always been encouraging, but would still call me and ask me to pick him something up knowing that I couldn't eat it, or something like that. It was hard at first, but I just kept telling myself that I had to do this for ME and I found that as I stuck to eating healthy, he started to do the same...not all the time, but sometimes.

I don't have an answer for you, but just know that you are not alone...I battle it everyday, too!! Like today, we will go visit his dad in the hospital and he will stop by Wendy's to eat...I've already eaten and I will just have to have the will power not to get anything.

Good luck, friend me if you want, maybe we can find the answer together!

I say move on and find someone else that is

Every couple has problems and disagreements, my boyfriend used to do the same thing he is a bodybuilder and in really good shape so he eats a lot of not so good food. He loves to eat out and I would eat out with him and that was when I started gaining weight again. Now, during the week we cook all our meals healthy and at home and Fri, Sat nights we either go out to eat or grill out which is still pretty healthy. One cheat meal a week doesn't hurt and as for when we are home I always portion out my meals and put a plate in the fridge as leftovers. He really likes that because then when he is hungry there are leftovers.I t always helps that he eats a lot faster than I do so we end up finishing at the same time. It took a little bit of time and work but the reason eh started eating healthy is because he noticed a huge change in how he felt and that was very important to him. You guys can work through it just know that he loves you no matter what you look like so he probably doesn't think it is necessary for you to be on a "diet" but we have personal goals and I am sure he will understand.

So...I know people have to decide to lose weight on their own...and I respect that, however how can you handle the frustration when your significant other is not on the same page with you regarding fitness and nutrition? It frustrates me when my fiance eats not so healthy food, eats more food at dinner when I have everything portioned out so we have leftovers, or tells me he wishes I would lighten up so he can enjoy "good" food again (since I do not like to eat out as often as I usually did). How do you handle feelings with this? It is getting very frustrating and causing tension in the relationship at the moment. :frown:

I've never had a boyfriend be supportive of my eating healthy and working out, with the exception of one but he was a body builder...) so I can honestly empathize with you. They eat craptastic food, never work out, keep horrible hours, and don't think to ever say anything constructive, encouraging, or nice about what we're trying to do to better ourselves.

Basically I had to just let them do what they wanted to do and I did what I had to. Funnily enough a few months ago I had an ex take credit for my regaining my health while he and I were together (4 years ago!) I almost choked on my drink and had to fight not to laugh at him.
"Yea and I made sure you took every one of those pills and never let you slack off what you were supposed to be doing!"
That couldn't have been further from the truth.

Sounds like you make enough time to go out with him on occasion, so to me it seems like he's just afraid of the changes you've made to you and how they are going to affect him. Sit down with him and have a heart to heart about how much you love him, how much he means to you, and how much your health matters. Let him know it's not going to come to never having treats, or obsession.
As for the left overs? It always helps to mention budgeting. :devil:

Its very hard to diet when your significant other doesnt help support your choices. My husband was very disrespectful of my choices at first, but now he respects it. When i first started my diet he would get the biggest piece of chocolate cake and just hold it right in front of my face :noway: :grumble: , he knew i couldnt/ wouldnt eat any of that. But now he's starting to eat what i eat. Just bare with him... he might change once he sees what your diet is doing for you.

my husband tries and generally does a good job. however, he needs to GAIN weight, not lose it. and sometimes i don't think he understands why he can't just "go get some ice cream for the house"....cause your wife will eat it all! have you tried sitting down and talking with him about your goals? i sorta had to hammer it into my husband but in general i think he gets it. sorta.

This is not my first go-round with losing weight & trying to get healthy. I've been on & off again for the past 4 years or so, mostly on a losing trend. Up until about 2 months ago, my husband was not really on board. It was more difficult without him, but it was my journey and not his. I made the decision to lose weight for me and could only hold myself responsible. We've been married for 24 years now, so "moving on" was not an option. Were together for life, so i had to make it work. And IMO that's what you have to do, find a way to make it work for you. Because truth be told he might never decide to join you.