UGH FRUSTRATING!!! VENT HERE

erinlindsay
erinlindsay Posts: 65
edited September 30 in Food and Nutrition
k first of all i love this site i think its great but so many people on here need a WAKE UP CALL!!

1. if you think going 30 calories over your limit is failing..
2. if you think you can walk for 20 mins a day and lose weight..
3. if you obsess over this site and forget to live..
4. if you think youre going to reach your goal weight this week...
5. if you weigh yourself every day..
6. if you judge your success by the scale and not what youre capable of doing..
7. if you think you can eat those brownies once you've reached your goal weight..
8. if you call yourself disgusting and fat when you look in the mirror..
9. if you bought all the dvds and books and equipment but never use them..
10. if you dont challenge yourself and leave your comfort zone..

REALITY CHECKKKKKKK

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  • jessimacar
    jessimacar Posts: 291
    I agree with most of this, except I've lost almost 40lbs and have barely exercised.. It can be done..

    Great post though!
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    Mostly a valid rant. Way to let it out! I will disagree on the walking. You can lose weight doing ZERO exercise if you're eating less than you burn. But it's not a good idea for the long haul. I also weigh myself everyday. It doesn't impact weight loss to do it. You just have to have the right attitude about the daily ups and downs.
  • gretchen0824
    gretchen0824 Posts: 82 Member
    i agree with most of what you said
  • fastbelly
    fastbelly Posts: 727 Member
    That is so true. Don't take this wrong but I'm actually surprised this comes from a 19 year old!!!

    Great post!! Some people really need to wake up.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    Hm. I disagree with:

    Weighing yourself every single day - I do this and you know what? I'm calmer because I've learned what is a normal range for my body, I've learned what foods affect my weight negatively and what foods affect it positively. I have learned that it takes up to 3 days for my body to catch up to something I've changed. Yep. Learned all that from weighing in daily. I am in maintenance and I still weigh in everyday. It keeps my head on straight and eliminates freak outs when I see it go up.

    You can lose weight and not exercise. Will it be harder? Yes. But you can surely do it.

    I'm in maintenance and you know what? I sometimes eat brownies. and cookies. and even pieces of cake on special occasions. This isn't a diet - it is a lifestyle change. If you truly think you can go the rest of your life not eating some of the foods you once enjoyed ... you are setting yourself up for FAILURE. The key is moderation. Learning that its okay to eat a brownie, but for the love of goodness - don't eat the entire pan. It's okay to have a small piece of cake, but don't make it equal to your daily caloric needs.

    And I think this site is great for people who NEED accountability. There are MANY people who have tried and tried to lose weight without the tools this site offers and they failed. Now they are successful because this site offers them the help they need. Obsession? Maybe. But, if it working - who are we to judge?

    Some of your points are valid I will say that - but, what works for some won't work for others. Don't judge.
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    Chill!!

    Everybody has their own strategy to lose weight and get healthier.
    Just because it isn't exactly the same as yours, doesn't mean its wrong.

    Walking every day is a great way to get moving and lose weight. If 20 minutes is what someone is able to do - great, they should be congratulated not belittled.
    Sometimes I weigh myself every day. Sometimes I don't.
    I eat brownies while I'm losing weight and I will eat them when I'm maintaining them.

    If you don't want to do these things, that's fine, but don't knock what others do. You aren't the MFP police.
  • SarahofTwins
    SarahofTwins Posts: 1,169 Member
    Why even let little things like this bother you about others? WHO CARES. If anyone needs to get a life its you.

    It's frustrating for everyone who has to deal with losing weight, we all have our ups and downs. We don't need others to bash us if we are doing something wrong, instead we need to hear them support and encourage us to TRY BETTER. Not someone to rant on why they hate things.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I appreciate this rant...although I get a little tired of people judging everyone else on this site. What works for you, may not work for everyone. Who are we to judge what someone else does?

    re: 2. So if someone is for whatever reason unable to exercise (disability, medical) they couldn't lose weight? not quite accurate. While it's great for your body, it aids in weight loss/maintenance and I personally love to work out, my 66 year old mother is unable to exercise strenously due to medical issues and has been able to lose and then maintain a healthy weight for the past 10 years...through a healthy eating plan.

    5. I weigh myself almost daily...it helps me judge fluctuations based on sodium intake, water intake, exercise, hormones, etc. Then I look at the overall picture for the week and that determines how I might change things up or continue doing what works.

    and 7. why couldn't someone treat themself if they really wanted a brownie (or insert other desired food here) I cut out some (but not all) of the less healthy foods that I was eating when I decided to get healthy again...I just eat those foods in smaller portions and less often...and I've lost 40 pounds without starving myself or cutting out whole food groups. Balance is the key.
  • JoanWill
    JoanWill Posts: 217
    Good way to vent out.

    But yes, I do weigh myself everyday. Even twice a day. My scale is right outside my shower so I step on it and weigh myself as much as I want to. I think it is more of the attitude on what you see on the scale. To me it is a motivation.

    You will lose weight for walking if you also watch what you take in. It may take a while or maybe not but it is better than nothing.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    Why even let little things like this bother you about others? WHO CARES. If anyone needs to get a life its you.

    It's frustrating for everyone who has to deal with losing weight, we all have our ups and downs. We don't need others to bash us if we are doing something wrong, instead we need to hear them support and encourage us to TRY BETTER. Not someone to rant on why they hate things.

    agree...and I just had to say that your ticker cartoon made me laugh hysterically...
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    What's wrong with weighing yourself daily?

    At least then you can keep track of your progress, and fix it if you have a bad day.
  • ANeWcRe8N
    ANeWcRe8N Posts: 1,180 Member
    k first of all i love this site i think its great but so many people on here need a WAKE UP CALL!!

    1. if you think going 30 calories over your limit is failing..
    2. if you think you can walk for 20 mins a day and lose weight..
    3. if you obsess over this site and forget to live..
    4. if you think youre going to reach your goal weight this week...
    5. if you weigh yourself every day..
    6. if you judge your success by the scale and not what youre capable of doing..
    7. if you think you can eat those brownies once you've reached your goal weight..
    8. if you call yourself disgusting and fat when you look in the mirror..
    9. if you bought all the dvds and books and equipment but never use them..
    10. if you dont challenge yourself and leave your comfort zone..

    REALITY CHECKKKKKKK

    I agree with some of it... like the others mentioned, you can lose weight without exercise. I weigh myself every day just because I like to see where I'm at.. I only record it once a week though. Once I reach my goal weight and even now I still have brownies, cookies, or junk, but I dont make it a habit. This is a lifestyle change for me and I don't plan to cut the things I love to eat out completely.
  • nickscutie
    nickscutie Posts: 303 Member
    um, i eat brownies because I am at a happy weight. Talk about forgetting to live...
  • crazymama2two
    crazymama2two Posts: 867
    *eyeroll*
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I agree except with 7. Now, I'm not really a brownie person... but I don't think you have to cut out sweets just 'cause you're trying to be healthy. Everything in moderation!
  • Lyadeia
    Lyadeia Posts: 4,603 Member
    I wholeheartedly DISAGREE with your issue with walking.

    My mom weighed over 300 pounds right after I was born and didn't start losing the weight until I was around 6 years old. At that point, the ONLY exercise she did was walking. I would ride my little kiddie bike beside her, but we would go around the neighborhood for like 30-60 minutes.

    And she got down to like 160 pounds the very next year. She's nearly 6 feet tall, and that weight on her is like a size 12 which looks amazing.

    I'm still wondering why rants like this pollutes the boards instead of people's personal blogs? :grumble:
  • spaingirl2011
    spaingirl2011 Posts: 763 Member
    k first of all i love this site i think its great but so many people on here need a WAKE UP CALL!!

    1. if you think going 30 calories over your limit is failing..
    2. if you think you can walk for 20 mins a day and lose weight..
    3. if you obsess over this site and forget to live..
    4. if you think youre going to reach your goal weight this week...
    5. if you weigh yourself every day..
    6. if you judge your success by the scale and not what youre capable of doing..
    7. if you think you can eat those brownies once you've reached your goal weight..
    8. if you call yourself disgusting and fat when you look in the mirror..
    9. if you bought all the dvds and books and equipment but never use them..




    You know, while I can appreciate that these things bother you, you might benefit from Minding Your Own Weight Loss Journey. YOU might think of 30 calories as being no big deal, but some might see if as the beginning of slipping into old habits. What works for you will work for you, but don't assume that other people are being trivial when they may very well have a good reason for being concerned.
    10. if you dont challenge yourself and leave your comfort zone..

    REALITY CHECKKKKKKK
  • EricInArlington
    EricInArlington Posts: 531 Member
    I like 10
  • amberlineilene
    amberlineilene Posts: 153
    Holy crap.. RELAX!

    Not everyone lives the same way you do..GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!



    You should have a brownie, I think you are too obsessed with this site ~ you are forgetting to live.
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
    I ear those brownies, and am maintaining my goal weight, thank you very much. Remember that comment about forgetting to live? Enjoying myself, certain foods and drinks is part of living.

    I just run my *kitten* off to burn off the calories. Nothing is forbidden.
  • spaztastic13
    spaztastic13 Posts: 229
    *disagree* you cant just jump down peoples throats cuz you think they need to be like you...so you might want to rethink what you said!!!!!
  • Sweetcheeks278
    Sweetcheeks278 Posts: 356
    Holy crap.. RELAX!

    Not everyone lives the same way you do..GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!



    You should have a brownie, I think you are too obsessed with this site ~ you are forgetting to live.


    HAHAHAHA!! Yes!! I can understand and appreciate a vent but you are being critical of others and this site is for support. Not everyone is the same(thank goodness). I have the EXACT same goals as you so I know where you are coming from bc I have to work my booty off to loose as well but not everyone is where we are so relax and try telling them what a great job they are doing instead. :)
  • littlemili
    littlemili Posts: 625 Member
    If skinny people can't eat brownies who the hell can?
  • sftblmama
    sftblmama Posts: 12 Member
    I am losing just fine and I walk. I also just ate a brownie the other day. And, I am kind of obsessed about this website because it makes me accoutable and offers tons of support. I weigh myself everyday in the morning because if I don't I don't feel accountable for the things I have ate or done. And, I am loving my new life. REALITY CHECK! What may not work for you, may still work for others so just be open minded and supportive.
  • erinlindsay
    erinlindsay Posts: 65
    ok CLEARLYYYYY some people get it... its like you read what you wanted to hear .. so let me be more SPECIFIC jeez..

    FOR ALL THE PEOPLE who are complaining about NOTTT losing weight...

    1. if you think going 30 calories over your limit is failing.. ITS NOT OVER, YOU DONT NEED TO BEAT YOURSELF UP JUST GET BACK ON THE WAGON

    2. if you think you can walk for 20 mins a day and lose weight.. THE REALITY IS YOU NEED TO BE DOING 30 MINS OF VIGOROUS EXCERCISE A DAY..maybe not just to lose weight, but for overall health and longevity... if you are handicapped in a wheelchair obviously this doesnt apply to you..

    3. if you obsess over this site and forget to live.. SOME PEOPLE SPEND HOURS ON HERE STARTING POSTS ABOUT HOW THEY FAILED.. the reality is YOU DIDNT FAIL, and your not fat and ugly!!! youre YOU and you are here for a reason.. instead of going on and on about how much you hate yourself for failing on here.. why not go for a walk outside and enjoy yourself??!! dont ever tell yourself that you hate yourself or your ugly.. odds are itll just make you feel worse!!

    4. if you think youre going to reach your goal weight this week... WEIGHTLOSS IS A PROCESS, ITS GRADUAL.. so dont starve yourself for a week and then go back to your old ways once you see that the scale didnt reflect your starvation! ... if you dont hit the goal weight by the goal date WHO CARES just keep going till you hit it!! and think long term lifestyle changes.. there should be no FINAL DATE .. being healthy is for the rest of your life!!!

    5. if you weigh yourself every day.. DONT! weigh yourself once a week MAX.. why?? BECAUSE YOUR WEIGHT FLUCTUATES!! the most youll lose in a day is a pound, then the next day maybe youll stand different on the scale and itll say you gained a pound.. and youll a) be sad and frustrated cause you did good the day before .. or b) youll think youre doing something wrong when youre not!!!!

    6. if you judge your success by the scale and not what youre capable of doing.. self explainitory.. i care more about how much longer i can run without losing my breath than losing 3 pounds..

    7. if you think you can eat those brownies once you've reached your goal weight.. THE TRUTH IS.. you have to indulge once n a while WHILE you're losing your weight.. you cant bottle up your cravings until you hit your goal weight and think your done so you can unleash all your cravings and binge!! when you crave - satisfy that before it grows worse!

    8. if you call yourself disgusting and fat when you look in the mirror.. no brainer.. LOVE YOURSELF

    9. if you bought all the dvds and books and equipment but never use them.. only YOU can lose the weight! jillian micheals cant lose it for you packaged up in that DVD!

    10. if you dont challenge yourself and leave your comfort zone.. self explanitory



    I HOPE THIS GIVES PEOPLE SOME PEACE OF MIND.. AND IF YOURE LOSING WEIGHT DOING WHAT YOURE DOING IT PROBABLY DOESNT APPLY TO YOU... NEXT TIME MAYBE DONT SELECTIVELY READ POSTS.. THE HATE ISNT APPRECIATED WHEN IM TRYING TO HELP THE ABUNDANCE OF PEOPLE WHO ARE DISCOURAGED REGULARLY ON HERE...
  • Lyadeia
    Lyadeia Posts: 4,603 Member
    Sweetie, people wouldn't come off sounding hateful to you if you didn't come off sounding hateful to them.

    :flowerforyou:
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    I only ever do #5... Although i don't cry into my pillow if I gain. I already know weight fluctuates. I'm just so curious as to what happens everyday as the process continues on.
  • Whatareherthings711
    Whatareherthings711 Posts: 316
    I agree with most of what you said, but not everyone always stays in check with realistic weight loss and management goals. Just enjoy your own success!
  • SarahofTwins
    SarahofTwins Posts: 1,169 Member
    Sweetie, people wouldn't come off sounding hateful to you if you didn't come off sounding hateful to them.

    :flowerforyou:

    Amen
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