When will people recognise my weight loss

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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    umamageswary52 wrote: »
    collectingblues wrote: »
    umamageswary52 wrote: »
    How many kilos will it take for the world to see that I'm losing weight? The scale is showing yea I myself know but people are not noticing any difference. Even when I ask "did I lose weight" They reply with "No you look the same" . That's so annoying. Bruhh

    So why are you asking people if you get annoyed at the answers?

    Frankly, asking people just makes you look like an attention hog.

    I just wanted to know if the person thinks I'm losing cause personally I don't trust scale. I have a feeling that I'm gaining

    so check your scale?
  • mcmoff
    mcmoff Posts: 64 Member
    I think people notice, but don't say anything. My older friends, those that have struggled with their own weight for years said something to me at about 30 pounds loss. A few of the younger people I work with mentioned it when I was at 40 lbs gone. But I can tell if someone notices by the look I get - I can see it in their eyes - that started to happen when I had lost about 25 lbs.
  • katsheare
    katsheare Posts: 1,025 Member
    mcmoff wrote: »
    I think people notice, but don't say anything. My older friends, those that have struggled with their own weight for years said something to me at about 30 pounds loss. A few of the younger people I work with mentioned it when I was at 40 lbs gone. But I can tell if someone notices by the look I get - I can see it in their eyes - that started to happen when I had lost about 25 lbs.

    This has been my experience. When I'd lost about 12 kilos (about half my goal), a colleague asked very cautiously if I'd been losing weight, was it on purpose, etc. Sometimes people don't like to say anything because they REALLY don't want to be wrong (either about weight loss/gain or about the reason why), many people won't notice what happens slowly right in front of them, all the things other posters have said in this.

    It could also be that whomever you're asking is just taking the mickey or is a genuinely unobservant person (an ex-colleague of mine didn't notice when I was 6 months pregnant. Seriously. I had never known how oblivious he was until that moment.) Go with the impartial judge (your scale, measurements), tally up your NSVs (are the steps easier to take? Do your jeans fit a little bit better?) and trust yourself. You can absolutely do this, whether anyone sees it or not. You are doing this.
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  • Mouse_Potato
    Mouse_Potato Posts: 1,512 Member
    In addition to what everyone else has said, it depends on how you carry your weight. If you are one of those people who "carries her weight well," it will take longer to see a difference. If you are like me and any extra donuts go straight to your waistline, the difference will be apparent sooner. I dropped 30 pounds and went down 5 dress sizes. I was getting comments before I was even 10 pounds down!
  • mitch16
    mitch16 Posts: 2,113 Member
    umamageswary52 wrote: »
    collectingblues wrote: »
    umamageswary52 wrote: »
    How many kilos will it take for the world to see that I'm losing weight? The scale is showing yea I myself know but people are not noticing any difference. Even when I ask "did I lose weight" They reply with "No you look the same" . That's so annoying. Bruhh

    So why are you asking people if you get annoyed at the answers?

    Frankly, asking people just makes you look like an attention hog.

    I just wanted to know if the person thinks I'm losing cause personally I don't trust scale. I have a feeling that I'm gaining

    In that case, I would suggest also taking measurements--you might see movement in your weight and/or the scale, and if both are moving in the right direction you know you are on track.

    And if you still need outside validation--select a single confidant--someone you know you can be brutally honest with, and who will be brutally honest with you (best friend, sister, husband...) and talk about it.
  • sosteach
    sosteach Posts: 260 Member
    I lost fifty before anyone noticed. You really need to not care about that and care about how YOU feel and look to yourself.
  • H_Ock12
    H_Ock12 Posts: 1,152 Member
    I just wanted to know if the person thinks I'm losing cause personally I don't trust scale. I have a feeling that I'm gaining
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    How your clothing fits and measurements of waist, hips, thighs, etc... can be good non-scale indicators.
  • gabriellejayde
    gabriellejayde Posts: 607 Member
    It depends on a TON of things. How heavy you were/are. how closely are these people looking at you. How you hold your weight. How you dress. how quickly you lost it. how comfortable are they with talking to you about it.
  • Purplebunnysarah
    Purplebunnysarah Posts: 3,252 Member
    I get comments whenever I get new clothes in a smaller size. Or when I get a haircut. Basically anything that causes people to step back and reassess their mental image of me.
  • ZhivagosGirl
    ZhivagosGirl Posts: 161 Member
    It took 40 lbs before someone said anything to me. Since then only a couple other people have said anything (I'm down 66 now). I'm still big overall and I think people are awkward bring up weight in general.
  • PaulaWallaDingDong
    PaulaWallaDingDong Posts: 4,641 Member
    dutchandkiwi wrote: »
    For me they did not start noticing until I bought new better fitting clothes They had noticed my clothes hanging around me but not quite seen the loss as I still wore what they'd seen me wear for years.

    This was true for me. I couldn't afford new clothes for at least the first 30 lbs, but once I stopped wearing my old dumpy stuff, people started to comment.
  • sarahrosheen
    sarahrosheen Posts: 82 Member
    in my experience it takes about 20 lbs of weight loss before people notice.
  • Akijade
    Akijade Posts: 210 Member
    I've found it takes about 30lbs before anyone will really notice AND say something. Also because your clothes start not fitting right anymore. :3
  • jaymijones
    jaymijones Posts: 171 Member
    I could see a difference around 8lbs down. But those few I asked for validation admitted that they didn't see much difference with the caveat that they see me every day. Others started commenting around 15 lbs down. The "you look AMAZING comments started coming in around 20-25 lbs down. The awkward comments began rolling in around 30lbs down, along with the "don't lose anymore, you're already too thin." And the weirdos catcalling, ogling and hitting on me at random (I may have been unhappy with my weight at the beginning, but at least my extra fluff spared me from that), started when I hit my goal of 35lbs down.
  • boredloser
    boredloser Posts: 119 Member
    The first time I lost weight it took around 30lbs I think before my coworkers started commenting on it. Some of them commented on how they noticed it around the back of my neck. It depends really on where you're losing it and how much of it is fat I guess too. My mum and I noticed it in my face first I think.

    I'd suggest taking measurements too because as much as I never saw a difference in my waistline, I went down a size or two in my jeans which was awesome. Might also just depend on what kind of clothes you're wearing too that they might not be able to notice it.
  • GemstoneofHeart
    GemstoneofHeart Posts: 865 Member
    People started noticing around 25 pounds.
  • Momepro
    Momepro Posts: 1,509 Member
    My neurologist was very excited about my 13 lbs, lol. And my husband is a sweetie, so mentions it, even though he's fibbing. But otherwise, no one else, lol.
  • Hungry_Shopgirl
    Hungry_Shopgirl Posts: 329 Member
    alondrakayy wrote: »
    I don't have much to lose so people haven't notice my weight loss lately. Not even my husband. I had to show him a progress picture so he could see that I am in fact losing.


    ... oh but let me gain 5lbs and all of a sudden everyone notices a change lol

    Ugh, so true.
  • Wiggymommy
    Wiggymommy Posts: 106 Member
    From my experience, most people never commented how BIG I got. I think in their mind, if they verbally said how much I'd lost, they'd be admitting they noticed how big I got. I think in general, people are too nervous to offend. I do have a before picture when I started a new job last May where I was like 40 pounds heavier. I bring it up and show people and then they feel more comfortable saying something.
  • RedSierra
    RedSierra Posts: 253 Member
    LiminalAscendance wrote: »
    RedSierra wrote: »
    kdonnelly78 wrote: »
    I started at 125 kg. About the time I lost 10 kg, I didn't notice any loss myself when looking in the mirror but I had 2 people at work notice my face looked thinner (less bloated I suppose). One of my coworkers asked if I was losing weight and I responded yes. Then he said "on purpose?", oh well I suppose he was concerned I was ill or something. Was still odd.

    Someone I haven't seen in a while did that to me. I've been so happy about my weight loss. This person mentioned I'd lost a lot of weight and asked with a concerned face if it was "for health reasons." She was asking if I was seriously ill or dying.

    Yes, I lost it for health reasons -- because I was fat and didn't want to drop dead from a heart attack.

    To the OP, they'll say something eventually, and besides saying you look great you might get some really weird remarks.

    I don't know how "weird" it would be to question that someone's dramatic weight loss isn't a result of serious illness (especially given that it's probably more statistically significant than an obese individual actually losing weight).

    I would be much more concerned with offending someone dealing with a grave health issue by "congratulating" them on their weight reduction, than whether I made someone feel better about noticing a barely perceptible vanity loss.

    "Weird" was a polite way of putting it. Nosy hits the mark. The woman was hinting around to find out if I was seriously ill and offended me. She doesn't know me well.

    I lost about 40 pounds. I don't know how dramatic that was over 6 months. I was technically obese before I lost the weight, but not morbidly obese.

    I would never in a million years dig around to find out if somebody I didn't know well was seriously ill because they were thinner.
  • PaulaWallaDingDong
    PaulaWallaDingDong Posts: 4,641 Member
    RedSierra wrote: »
    LiminalAscendance wrote: »
    RedSierra wrote: »
    kdonnelly78 wrote: »
    I started at 125 kg. About the time I lost 10 kg, I didn't notice any loss myself when looking in the mirror but I had 2 people at work notice my face looked thinner (less bloated I suppose). One of my coworkers asked if I was losing weight and I responded yes. Then he said "on purpose?", oh well I suppose he was concerned I was ill or something. Was still odd.

    Someone I haven't seen in a while did that to me. I've been so happy about my weight loss. This person mentioned I'd lost a lot of weight and asked with a concerned face if it was "for health reasons." She was asking if I was seriously ill or dying.

    Yes, I lost it for health reasons -- because I was fat and didn't want to drop dead from a heart attack.

    To the OP, they'll say something eventually, and besides saying you look great you might get some really weird remarks.

    I don't know how "weird" it would be to question that someone's dramatic weight loss isn't a result of serious illness (especially given that it's probably more statistically significant than an obese individual actually losing weight).

    I would be much more concerned with offending someone dealing with a grave health issue by "congratulating" them on their weight reduction, than whether I made someone feel better about noticing a barely perceptible vanity loss.

    "Weird" was a polite way of putting it. Nosy hits the mark. The woman was hinting around to find out if I was seriously ill and offended me. She doesn't know me well.

    I lost about 40 pounds. I don't know how dramatic that was over 6 months. I was technically obese before I lost the weight, but not morbidly obese.

    I would never in a million years dig around to find out if somebody I didn't know well was seriously ill because they were thinner.

    It's probably the fishing and probing that's problematic. I work in a fitness center, so weight is a common topic. I ran into a member in the hallway and they said they lost x lbs. I said "On purpose?" and they said "Yeah!" so I said "Awesome!" Sometimes you just have to come out and say what you mean.

    I seldom bring up someone else's weight with them, though. I just find it so uncomfortable when they do with me, but a lot of people want to accomplish what I have so it comes with the territory, unfortunately.
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