Crying in the changing rooms

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  • wonrob
    wonrob Posts: 66 Member
    That hasn't happened to me, but I've had days where I don't want to look at my body (especially those days post-binge).
    Those days just serve as motivation to spur me on to stop bingeing and try to exercise more.
  • GemmieNoWobbles
    GemmieNoWobbles Posts: 398 Member
    YES!!! All the time! I have really really low self esteem and I'm often in a soggy heap! Just set yourself small realistic goals and you will get there!! Hang on in there! Rome wasnt built in a day I guess, but I absolutely know how you feel. :flowerforyou:
  • autumnridge
    autumnridge Posts: 97 Member
    Oh, yes! Even though I am 90 lbs. lighter than at my worst, I am having a hard time finding an appropriate dress to wear to a September wedding. Due to a pinched nerve several years ago, I went for a year told not to lift more than 5 lbs. and my arms never recovered so I have LOTS of fat wings. All the dresses I have seen in my current size are above the knee which does not look great on an overweight 70 Year Old, or they are flowery or sleeveless. Like me, you will just have to keep on trying. Good luck!
  • autumnridge
    autumnridge Posts: 97 Member
    Oh, yes! Even though I am 90 lbs. lighter than at my worst, I am having a hard time finding an appropriate dress to wear to a September wedding. Due to a pinched nerve several years ago, I went for a year told not to lift more than 5 lbs. and my arms never recovered so I have LOTS of fat wings. All the dresses I have seen in my current size are above the knee which does not look great on an overweight 70 Year Old, or they are flowery or sleeveless. Like me, you will just have to keep on trying. Good luck!
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    Been there done that for the past 10 years!!!
    :( Sorry you feel like this like others said translate that feeling into motivation! If it makes you feel better, I've been wearing the same clothes to work week after week for the past year ( that bad) because I have a closet full of clothes that do not fit me :/
    but I am doing something about it now and so can you! Keep your chin up!
  • NeedANewFocus
    NeedANewFocus Posts: 898 Member
    "It takes time, love, and support to find peace with the restless one." -- Deidra Sarault

    Remind yourself of your successes and harbor your will for on going worthwhile goals. You're beautiful. Don't let the "mirror mirrow on the wall" fool you. See what's really there A gorgeous woman with life and vitality. You're on a road for great things! :flowerforyou:
  • cydonian
    cydonian Posts: 361 Member
    Oh god, yes, dear. You're not alone! I've sobbed in many a fitting room. I have the problem of a small waist but very large hips and rear, and I am forever not able to find pants that go up over my bum without the front looking like a pack of hot dogs. I don't know what to tell you, but you're going to London so cheer up! I love it there. My husband is from England and I get so excited anytime we visit. You will have a gorgeous time and you won't be thinking about your figure, trust me! Also: do some shopping over there -- I find the clothing more flattering at times.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I even cried while on my walk yesterday
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    Ladies and Gentlemen,

    As a forum moderator, I try to take the least invasive route to solving MFP forum problems. In this case, I have edited and deleted a few posts that were clearly attacks (some unprovoked, some retaliatory). For reference I am going to cite the specific forum rule that gives me this option. Please make sure to read over all the rules. I have also linked the forum rules to the bottom of this post.

    "4) Do not attack/slam/insult other users. The forums are here so that members can help support one another. Attacks or insults against each other takes away from the supportive atmosphere and will not be tolerated. You can discuss the message or topic, but not the messenger - NO EXCEPTIONS. If you are attacked by another user, and you reciprocate, YOU will also be subject to the same consequences. Defending yourself, defending a friend, etc. are NOT excuses. Violations of this rule are taken very seriously and may result in being banned without warning! If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."



    Please remember, if you find a post in violation of the rules, please report it, DO NOT RESPOND to that violation.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/14924-forum-rules-please-read-before-posting


    what kind of *kitten* would attack someone that obviously had a meltdown yesterday? don't you think that person should get more than just a deleted post? how about kicking some serious @ssholes off the site for a change? there's one dude, that has a rude comment or vicious come-backs in every post, how many times are you going to let him do that? time to step up and start giving 2 warnings and then the boot...
  • mlh612
    mlh612 Posts: 311 Member
    absolutely has happened...plus those damn mirrors from every angle...ugh...stay strong..lord knows its not easy but you are not alone! :)

    Agree, those mirrors do not help matters!!

    Yes, I have been there... Definitely use it as motivation!!! Hang in there :flowerforyou:
  • kalebsmama07
    kalebsmama07 Posts: 503
    :flowerforyou: ur not the only one!!! i have too ...cheer up friend
  • msiamjan
    msiamjan Posts: 326 Member
    Totally, totally get it. Been there, done that countless times. If I really can't find anything that I feel halfway decent in, sometimes I'll shop secondhand. At least then I'm not spending a fortune on something I don't even really like. There are some amazing deals in the secondhand shops in general.
  • CookieGem
    CookieGem Posts: 197 Member
    Hey guys, little update...

    I am actually really glad i had my little meltdown last week as it spurred me on to get a personal trainer. I was up this morning at 6.00am to get the bus into town for my first session. It was HARD, my legs were shaking afterwards and i feel like a zombee at the moment but feel a hell of a lot more positive now Im doing something about it.

    Thanks again for all your lovely words. You guys are awesome!!!
  • candikane65
    candikane65 Posts: 5
    Don't cry hun. Life is full of ups and downs. I used to be in the Army and was a fitness studdette! I never wore anything larger than an 8; which I was pretty happy with. I weighed more than Army Regulation allowed, but my body fat was very low, so it was never an issue. I ate what I wanted when I wanted and never gave it a thought. Now here it is 4 years after retirement and I have gained almost 40 lbs. I had a break down in the dressing room when I went to shop for a wedding dress and had to settle on my dream dress in a size 14! I had my best friend there who assured me I didn't look like a cow in my dress...but I still sat there and bawled. But that was 6 mths ago...I finally got tired of doing nuthing and have decided to so something! Joining this was my first step, as you have joined. I saw a lot of support and I am sure you will be looking fabulous soon. Just keep looking at this blog and all the encouragement the people here have to offer...you will do great! Wish me luck as my journey begins...as I will be wishing you luck too. :-)
  • juscallmeb
    juscallmeb Posts: 369 Member
    Hey guys, little update...

    I am actually really glad i had my little meltdown last week as it spurred me on to get a personal trainer. I was up this morning at 6.00am to get the bus into town for my first session. It was HARD, my legs were shaking afterwards and i feel like a zombee at the moment but feel a hell of a lot more positive now Im doing something about it.

    Thanks again for all your lovely words. You guys are awesome!!!

    awesome! good for you.
    keep up your hard work.
  • campbellcjdm
    campbellcjdm Posts: 97
    Glad to see someone is keeing it clean !! Thanks moderator !!
  • Daffydilly
    Daffydilly Posts: 29 Member
    Hi,

    It seems you've had a lot of good advice here and i'd like to add something on a practical level which might put your mind at rest.

    My hubby and I have been to a few West End shows in London over the last few years and it's lovely to dress up but you'll be just fine in whatever you are comfortable in.

    I've seen men and women at the shows wearing jeans and t-shirts so you'll look great whatever you wear. remember even the simplest outfits can look amazing if you hold your head up and stand tall. You could accessorise with a fabulous scarf or jewellery.
  • Healthy_Hannah483
    Healthy_Hannah483 Posts: 151 Member
    Oh yeah....just make it an incentive, don't make it hold you back from you weight loss, make it a motivator! You don't ever want to be that person again and you don't deserve it either. You can do it!!!
  • almaliora
    almaliora Posts: 8
    CookieGem...I am the QUEEN of crying in the dressing room! I am also pretty sure that I hold the title for most cries getting dressed for work. You should try finding a dress at TJMaxx or something like that. That way if you have to buy a size up you won't feel too bad about the price. I then suggest that you hold onto that dress until you have reached your goal weight, have party and destroy the sucker!!! :-)
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