CoWorkers Not Supportive & Give Negativity
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lizalmp1234
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Hi everyone,
I've been losing weight so far but I'm just frustrated because the people I'm around most (coworkers) are either non supportive or are very negative regarding my weight loss. Any advice on how to deal with that? Thanks
I've been losing weight so far but I'm just frustrated because the people I'm around most (coworkers) are either non supportive or are very negative regarding my weight loss. Any advice on how to deal with that? Thanks
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Ignore them. It's crazy to me how other people decided it's perfectly okay to weigh in on your health. I weigh out my meals at work with co workers watching. The most they've done is ask what I am doing and once I explain, they say cool and move on. I'm sure they think plenty more but know it's best to keep their mouth shut. Trust me, if you ignore any comment regarding your health they'll see that it's not something you care to talk to them about.13
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Why are you telling them that you're on a diet/trying to lose weight?17
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Why do you expect support from your co-workers? Why are they even involved in your weight loss? I would never involve my coworkers in my weight loss efforts. Stop engaging with them about it, stop talking to them about it, stop trying to involve them. Leave the weight loss talk and such for places like MFP and keep it out of the workplace unless you work at somewhere that is weight loss related.32
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Please don't expect anyone to "support" you in this. Even your friends and family. It's no one's business but yours. You have to do you. If that means avoiding the 3 large boxes of donuts some kind soul brought in, then do it (there may have been various donuts laying around today and I may have fought like helll to make myself not have one...!).19
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I didn't talk about losing weight with my co-workers...and my co-workers are pretty much the last people on earth that I would even expect support from. I didn't really look for support anywhere...I just did what I needed to do.24
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Smile, nod and then you do you. You don't NEED their support.13
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Most people don't like to see others improving themselves. It makes them look in the metaphorical mirror and realize they probably 'should' but are too lazy/uncaring/unhealthy to do anything other than what they are comfortable with.16
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I'm sorry, I'm just not sure why anyone would ever need support from their coworkers. It's not something you would ever need to tell them. If they try to share food with you, just so no thank you, I'm not hungry, and when they ask you if you are on a diet, just say no. Or if you were me, say "do you think I'm fat?"13
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Why are they even commenting? Are they especially nosy or are you volunteering information (potentially more than they care to know)?
My co-workers didn't really care and if they did they kept it to themselves. The only comments I got were 'good job' or 'you look great, keep it up' after I lost a good amount of weight.5 -
Support from coworkers is unnecessary. This is your project, not theirs.11
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collectingblues wrote: »Why are you telling them that you're on a diet/trying to lose weight?
I'm not telling them, they have noticed4 -
alondrakayy wrote: »Ignore them. It's crazy to me how other people decided it's perfectly okay to weigh in on your health. I weigh out my meals at work with co workers watching. The most they've done is ask what I am doing and once I explain, they say cool and move on. I'm sure they think plenty more but know it's best to keep their mouth shut. Trust me, if you ignore any comment regarding your health they'll see that it's not something you care to talk to them about.
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Is there any chance that their concerns are warranted? Most of the time, when people are critical of another person's weight loss, it's unnecessary or unfounded. Occasionally, though, other people will notice red flags that the person in question may be missing. If there are people who see you regularly who are negative about your weight loss, it's a good plan to take a step back and ask yourself if they have a point.15
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Best way to deal is check yourself out on break and laugh at their 52 oz sodas and pizza hut.. I work in a call center where everyone eats like *kitten* but I frequently hear phrases like "I don't eat enough to justify how much I weigh"... Well, Yes you do! The best method is just keep your head forward and not complain about the food you eat, they may call it rabbit food or healthy or gross looking, but you know you're helping yourself and deep down they are just jealous of that5
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I guess let me clarify, I am not looking for support from my coworkers, however, when I try to eat a healthy lunch or just anything, they will make a negative comment or for example, "why don't you have a burger instead" stuff like that.2
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lizalmp1234 wrote: »I guess let me clarify, I am not looking for support from my coworkers, however, when I try to eat a healthy lunch or just anything, they will make a negative comment or for example, "why don't you have a burger instead" stuff like that.
Maybe you're reading too much into people's comments.
I used to ride at lunch most days and people would comment, "hey...there goes Wolf again trying to live forever." It's just banter...guys joking around. And even if they were serious, why would I care? I'm not fat, they are. I'm fit, they aren't. I enjoy what I do...they don't understand how someone could enjoy "exercise" everyday...etc, etc, etc.
ETA: I'm also 43...I stopped caring about comments from the peanut gallery a loooonnngggg time ago...34 -
lizalmp1234 wrote: »I guess let me clarify, I am not looking for support from my coworkers, however, when I try to eat a healthy lunch or just anything, they will make a negative comment or for example, "why don't you have a burger instead" stuff like that.
Just tell them that you are choosing to FUEL your body with proper nutrition vs just eating poor foods. Your body is an energy buring (glucose) machine. Machines need FUEL, plain and simple. You dont put crappy gas in your car and expect it to perform optimally, right? Why should your body be any different.
Like another said, just ignore the nay sayers, Jealousy is an evil lil thing, sounds like they are just jealous of your hard work and dedication to yourself.13 -
lizalmp1234 wrote: »I guess let me clarify, I am not looking for support from my coworkers, however, when I try to eat a healthy lunch or just anything, they will make a negative comment or for example, "why don't you have a burger instead" stuff like that.
Not sure how that is negative but you could just tell them you're not hungry for a burger and were looking forward to eating whatever it is you're eating. No need to turn it into a big diet discussion.9 -
thanks everyone2
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Most people don't like to see others improving themselves. It makes them look in the metaphorical mirror and realize they probably 'should' but are too lazy/uncaring/unhealthy to do anything other than what they are comfortable with.
OP, I think the post I quoted says it all. Some people really get bothered by seeing others be very disciplined in their eating. You probably would not get those remarks from people who are conscientious of their diets. Most people who make remarks like that probably feel that nagging in their heads telling them they should be doing the same.8
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