Am I the only one?

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  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I don't aim for a really low weight b/c the maintenance required would kill me. I want to enjoy life. And eating is part of that, for me. I've gotten close to my goal weight before. While I wasn't thin, I think I could be happy at that weight. I'd be around a size 12. And at the top end of the healthy weight range.
  • fitnfun1
    fitnfun1 Posts: 234 Member
    This thread rocks! :happy:

    I have been looking at articles about how distorted our thoughts have been due to the fashion/beauty industry dictating we all need to be thin, thin, thin to be beautiful. Pffft! to that! So great to hear from regular women that are not sucked into this way of thinking.

    Sizes do differ even today. I once tried on 4 different size 6 jeans and only one fit right. I found out that they have given smaller size numbers to bigger sizes so that picture of the size 8 pants years ago would be smaller than a size 8 now. The industry is appealing to our vanity. This translates into size doesn't mean much anymore, except that we think we are a size 8, but we might be a size 10/12 from old standards.

    I have been looking at the "plus size" models lately and seeing that these are the models that look like regular women. Shouldn't these models be the "regular" models? So weird! The Marilyn Monroe(s) of yesterday would be considered plus size models today.

    Anyway, you all are amazing for listening to your own bodies to find out what naturally works best for you. One size does not fit all. :wink:
  • kklindsey
    kklindsey Posts: 382 Member
    totally the sizes now are bigger than back when. I weighed 120 in jr. high and wore a 9 that same 9 now would be way bigger. I just got back from Maurice's trying on shorts. 7/8's were too big, 3/4's fit just right. A. I can't fit into Jrs. clothes anywhere else, Maurices has to run big. B. I weigh 148 right now and the shorts I walked into the store in say 8/10(they aren't, they run small). C. take a look at my profile pic. I am 5'3" and 148 right now, size 6 in most things and I am NOT tiny or skinny. When I get back to 140 and my 4's fit I still won't be. My husband loves me at any weight but he said that I definitely could(if I wanted to) get down to 120 and not be unhealthy or too skinny and he is right, I have the extra meat on me at 140, it is all in my thighs and upper arms at that point but it is still there and I am going to try to lose it.

    Don't worry about sizes because they are all across the board, just go by if you are happy with the way you look AND feel when you reach your goal
  • MrsBrit2007
    MrsBrit2007 Posts: 161
    You're not the only one, I'm with you Haley! I think we have a similar starting and goal weight too. I'm happy with my new found healthy BMI but don't want to lose any curves along the way!
    (can you hear my husband yelling "too right!" in the background?)

    Haha, my husband is yelling the same thing! I'm a size 12 right now and still have 16lbs to go until my goal weight, (150lbs) and I expect to be a 8/10 then.

    My husband made me promise that I wouldn't lose my curves when I started working out. :laugh:
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    My goal is a 10/12, its when I hit that size I will fully evaluate my weight goal. The 10 would be the "primary size" but allow fluctuations for different designers
  • breyn2004
    breyn2004 Posts: 162 Member
    You are definitely NOT weird! I think that's awesome! Who wants to look like a 2 x 4? :tongue: I've finally found myself in a 10 and I'm happy about it! I have a few more pounds to shed and a WHOLE LOTTA toning, but I don't want to be any smaller than an 8. We're real women!
  • jamie78
    jamie78 Posts: 514 Member
    I agree with you about being comfortable. In my profile pic I put up today I am wearing a 6 which is a little baggy I could easily get a 4, But I am only 5'3 and weight 131. SO I am not stick thin. It really just depends on your frame and how you carry your weight. I am more concerned with toning now then I am losing anymore weight. I really dont want to be under a 4.
  • tlcAK
    tlcAK Posts: 671 Member
    No not weird at all. I am only going for an 8-10. 8 would be fantastic but I'd be happy as a 10 as long as I am toned and healthy! I kinda wanna keep some of my butt...not all of it :)
  • jamie78
    jamie78 Posts: 514 Member
    I want to share this picture - and THIS is why I don't go by sizes - The shorts in the back are a size 8 old navy bought last year - the top tan pants are a size 8 - probably bought (don't judge me!) in 1990 same size - different decade - sizes have changed so much. I just want to be a healthy weight and feel good about myself. Size does not matter

    difference.jpg

    WOW! That is revealing! I knew sizes were pretty unreliable, but I thought they would at least be more similar than THAT! I was just talking generally, like what the average size you usually fit in is: the "range," I guess you could say. But perhaps even THAT is unreliable...
    http://crossfitmommeghanphilpot.blogspot.com/2011/05/do-you-see-what-i-see.html
    I love this blog post.^^

    OMG so much of what she said hit home for me, especially thinking she's "too much" this and "too much" that... Thank you! I needed that today!

    Alot of why people say sizes have changed is more the fit has changed some sit high on the waist and some sit on your hips so that lower they sit the bigger they will appear.
  • NikkiTaber
    NikkiTaber Posts: 190
    I'm aiming for size 8-10 but if I like the way I look at size 12 I wouldn't mind staying there at all. Basically I just want to look in the mirror and be happy.
  • jwhit31
    jwhit31 Posts: 450 Member
    8/10 is perfect for me (jeans) dress pants 6/8 because I like those a little tighter. I've been smaller than that but I like my curves at the larger weight. :o)
  • Trixtabella
    Trixtabella Posts: 471 Member
    I would like to be a UK size 12-10 which would be an American 8-6 but you need to do what you find comfortable :)
  • Matiara
    Matiara Posts: 377 Member
    It totally depends on body type and frame. I am 5'10 or thereabouts and my goal is a size 6. I didn't pick the number arbitrarily just because it's small, but I have been there before and that's where my body looks its best. It's also where my body naturally settles when I exercise consistently and I hit that size when my weight is in the mid 150s, which is right on target as a healthy weight for someone my height. I have a small frame and don't look super skinny or anorexic at that weight and I keep all my curves with the exception of my belly, a curve I do not want. :)

    Currently, I'm 170 and a size 10. Since I do have a small frame, that is overweight for me and almost all of the extra weight is around my middle. My tummy looks like I'm about 4 months pregnant. I have back fat and a lot of visceral (under the stomach muscle) fat, which is the worst kind to have healthwise. So I need to lose my excess weight for far more than the sake of vanity.

    BTW, why do so many think that if a woman goes into single digit sizes that she will automatically lose her curves? That really depends on the individual. Even when I was a 125 pound teenager, I had an hourglass shape. It's disheartening to read posts likening smaller sized women to being stick figures and not being "real" women. Not being confrontational, just getting my thoughts out. I'll probably regret even saying anything as soon as I hit send. :)
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    not just you - i'm 5'11" and i have a massive bone structure. i know, we all say we have big bones - but i really do... too. LOL. with my body type a size 6 would be giving me a telethon! i'm looking for a 14/16, i doubt even a 12 would look right on me... but i hope to find out!
  • cmkocher
    cmkocher Posts: 8
    I agree, I know if I lose to much more pounds I will be to small for my liking. I will still be considered overweight from my height but I am ok with that. I want to feel good in my size 8 that I just bought today. I little tight but I did not have to lay on the bed to zip up :smile:
  • HaleyAlli
    HaleyAlli Posts: 911 Member


    BTW, why do so many think that if a woman goes into single digit sizes that she will automatically lose her curves? That really depends on the individual. Even when I was a 125 pound teenager, I had an hourglass shape. It's disheartening to read posts likening smaller sized women to being stick figures and not being "real" women. Not being confrontational, just getting my thoughts out. I'll probably regret even saying anything as soon as I hit send. :)

    Well, frankly, many people DO take it too far. Not saying you or anyone else on this board will necessarily, but a lot of people do actually sacrifice their curves to be "skinny" and it ain't pretty. And when I say hips and butt, I mean, well, BIG hips and butt, haha :laugh:

    I have nothing against small-framed people and I think they're beautiful. I just don't happen to be one of them :smile:

    I am so blown away by the response to this post! Thank you all for sharing your goals, I feel encouraged even though most people on here with the same goal as me are WAY taller than me, lol! But I'll do what makes ME happy :smile:
  • nali72
    nali72 Posts: 2
    I will back you up on that. When I got married in 1995 I was a 22, and 210 pounds. I am now a 16 and 260 pounds. People always ask what my goal size is and my response is "I have no clue" because sizes have changed so much! At nearly 6', I am sure I won't be a size 6, but sheesh, I have lost 75 pounds since I was in a 24, so losing another 75 (ish) pounds would put me where? Only the dressing room will know for sure when I get there!!!
  • cbmcphillips
    cbmcphillips Posts: 801 Member
    Hi - I'm from NJ (you can add me as a friend if you want to)
    I got married in 1992 - size 10 155 lbs
    For me, getting back to being 160 is comfortable - I am currently 214 and in the women's dept (at the lower end)
    I would not mind being there for pants / but back in the misses dept for tops:smile:
  • lori8431
    lori8431 Posts: 68
    I am just aiming for a size 8. have no desire to be smaller. I am a woman and want to look like one.
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