Need advice, can't post on facebook
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Is your husband gonna be this concerned if he was at a bachelor party with strippers0
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Thanks for the invite to the bachelorette party! Woo hoo! We're going to have a great time! But when the stripper(s) start the show, I'll be going back to my room for the night. It's nothing personal.
No, no, I'm not offended. Watching strippers just isn't my thing and me and my husband are both on the same page with that. Absolutely! You ladies have a great time and I'll be happy too, ordering room service and watching pay per view.
No, I'm not a prude. No, no, my husband doesn't keep me on tight leash silly! You'll see after you're married. Keeping each other happy by respecting each other's wishes is the way to go. Trust me, it's better to do it that way. You'll be happier! My husband walks the straight and narrow and I love that. That's why I married him and I do too. Oh, you didn't know? Sorry. Yeah.
Like I said, I'll be having all the funsies, but stripper time for the rest of you is bedtime for me. No. I'm sure the stripper won't be offended. No. I don't want to lick whipped cream off his balls, ha ha ha! Oh you wicked little minx! But you go ahead, please! No, of course I won't tell. I won't even be there so I don't even need to know the particulars. Bon appetit!
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You say 'if' they get a stripper. Have you asked? This may be much ado about nothing. And if they do, I like @newmeadow 's approach.2
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sturgeonml2017 wrote: »To ypur point rugratz, your right it ia a big if question, I'm a crazy person who stresses too much and can't sleep because I'm stressed about being away from my little one. If there happens to be one, I just need to remember Its for her, not me and like I said if something gives me that uncomfprtable feel then I will excuse myself.
If you're really that uncomfortable being in the room If a stripper turns up then pretend you've just got a call from your hubby and step outside and give him a call.
Don't be stressing about being away from your little one, as long as they have someone to look after them then they'll be fine, and it will do you good to have some time away, I always feel rejuvenated after a bit of time to myself.
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Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!6
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Give him a big ole slap on the *kitten*! Oh, and make sure you bring plenty of one dollar bills! (I've been married 15 yrs and have 2 kids. I would take selfies with the stripper giving me a lap-dance and send them to my husband because he'd get a good chuckle out of it.)0
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If your husband thinks you're disrespecting him by being at a friend's bachelorette party where there will be another man dancing in his undies, then yeah, I think that qualifies as insecurity or at least controlling behavior on his part. If he thinks this is somehow disrespect to him or a threat to your marriage, hell yeah, that's insecure. How are you disrespecting him by being present? I think you're really feeling guilty about having a good time and about being away from him and your child while doing it.0
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If you are uncomfortable leave. True friends understand these things and won't get butthurt over it.0
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I don't see this any different than seeing half nude guys in a movie.0
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sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »sturgeonml2017 wrote: »I hear all your saying! I wouldn't want to do anything to damper her party. But to be honest, you dont know my husband like I do. Sometimes i think he is from another planet...lol
So are you saying that your husband would have a problem with you being around a stripper?
No, I'm saying he wouldn't ogle girls and lie to me about it like the others suggested.
I don't think anyone mentioned lying. You can say, hey, this might happen, or this happened. It wasn't my idea, but the person showed up. I didn't touch them or interact with them, but I was there.0 -
sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!
Glad you had a great time and it turned out fine
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sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!
Picking up and straddling every girl there?? I would not be okay with that. Not at all.0 -
Need2Exerc1se wrote: »sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!
Picking up and straddling every girl there?? I would not be okay with that. Not at all.
I did not mean anything by it........straddling is just my thang.0 -
To answer your question of how you escape the stripping without seeming like a Debbie Downer i see a couple options. 1. If the stripper arrives at a home there is bound to be a lot of activity when he arrives, like girls standing up screaming throwing up their arms and loud music. If that is the case it may be the perfect opportunity to slip into another room without being noticed. Once the music stops you come out of said room like nothing ever happened. Option 2. if you are going to a club or are caught off guard and can't make a silent get away I suggest just saying I'm going to call and check on the baby real quick, Babies usually get you off the hook for most things. Don't worry so much about what the others will think of you this is your life and marriage a good friend won't judge you based on one decision regarding one situation that will consist of about 20mins of your entire weekend. Friends should be able to respect that everyone lives their lives differently we can not like the same things and not want to participate in the same things and still be friends. And she'll probably be distracted by the hunky guy on top of her anyways
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!
Picking up and straddling every girl there?? I would not be okay with that. Not at all.
I did not mean anything by it........straddling is just my thang.
Your thang might not like the result of unwelcome straddling. 0 -
Ok first if you are not a strippers fan likely none will show up. No bachelorette party I have ever been to has had one.
Who is the organization person why not chat with her and see if she is planning one. Also best best friend why aren't you organizing and thus in control of event?0 -
Need2Exerc1se wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »sturgeonml2017 wrote: »Thank you for all your responses! Had a great time, and it just so happened that the timing was perfect...stripper walked in as I was walking out back anyways and so I took it as a sign and stayed outside. Noone even really noticed until afterward and I'm so glad I did because apparently he was a very hands on guy, even picking up and straddling each and every girl there. Noone cared, I felt like I did the right thing for what I'm comfortable with in myself and my marriage and a great time was had by all! Worried for nothing!
Picking up and straddling every girl there?? I would not be okay with that. Not at all.
I did not mean anything by it........straddling is just my thang.
Your thang might not like the result of unwelcome straddling.
I've never had a complaint......renowned for the party lapdancer.0 -
Spill your drink on yourself, and then say " Aww Damn!", and excuse yourself to the bathroom, change clothes, etc. If it is over by the time you get out, be like "Aww man, I missed all the fun!,, dang! Well I hope you had fun with that!"
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