Weight loss not noticed?

CryingBlue wrote: »

So I know this is a fickle thing, but I'm down nearly 30 pounds and no one has said anything to me about it. I'm an apple body shape so maybe it's not as noticeable on me as other body types. But I have lost 6 inches off my waist.

Anyone else in the same boat as me?

No one said a word to me until I had lost 33 lbs ... and then they were really hesitant about saying anything because there's always a chance the person has lost weight because of a health issue.

fiona4879 wrote: »

Don’t take it personally! Hey it is nice to get positive feedback but the reasons you don’t hear it are nothing to do with you.
1. Your success highlights their lack of progress or poor body image.
2. They are not focused on how you look. They are thinking about other things.
3. Jealously / envy.
4. People are not observant.
5. They are concerned that a compliment on ‘how much better you look’ could be taken the wrong way.

I’m sure there are more.

^^ This... Plus loads of people lose a few pounds and promptly give up, then they put it back on, plus more. If every time I noticed someone lost a pound and commented, I wouldn't have time for my day job.

For me at least, I focus less on what people say and focus more on achieving my goals. I couldn't care less what people think about my weight, thats not why I started to get in shape.

Nobody congratulated me on weight loss for awhile, either. My sister took me shopping and she got me into properly fitting smaller clothes. Now people notice and say things. My floppy frumpy fat clothes were hiding all my progress.

I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, actually beginning to get sick of people commenting on my weight loss. I'm doing this for me and what others think is not really relevant. It was nice in beginning but now it's just the same comments over and over. I'm at the point where will just politely smile and change the subject.

Nowadays unless it's a close friend or family member, they will not comment on weight. Last week I had two people look at me for a few minutes and then say I looked adorable. I'm pretty sure they noticed the weight loss but did not want to say it since in the USA at least, it's considered rude or offensive now to do so. 20 years ago this was not an issue.

I am on my second time around shedding weight. The first time having lost 30lb I mentioned it to a co-worker that I needed to get a new uniform jacket. She said "I had noticed you were loosing weight but hadn't wanted to mention it in case you were unwell and it was intrusive and personal, or upsetting."

People may notice but not feel they have the right to comment.

People might notice but not say anything. I saw a work colleague I only see once a year on a project we do in autumn. To me she looked way skinnier than before, but I've put on a lot of weight, so I wondered if I'd just adjusted my vision of thin meaning thinner than me. I nearly said something but wondered if it would sound like I was saying she used to look fat. Then she mentioned she'd lost forty pounds this year so we could have the congratulations conversation. Maybe you could start the conversation with a couple of people you like and see what they say.

I watched several co-workers lose weight due to cancer and chemotherapy, also held their hands while they cried because someone complimented them on the weight loss. I would never comment on anyone's weight loss unless I knew for certain it was a positive thing.