Seriouls have no self control with anything!
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CassieR6
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So as I have stated/complained about before I have a huge problem with control and motivation. So I say on a daily basis that I want to loose weight and get in shape for myself, my family, my husband, and my health. But what do I do, I sit here and eat candy at work or donuts if they have them. I swear I am going to have diabetes before I am 40. Lets put it this way, its only 9:19am and I have already had my coffee with creamer, a 3 Musketeer bar, a donut and a fun size Twix. That is so horrible! I mean I attempt to eat healthy. Like I brought for breakfast a Chobani Flip Yogurt, a turkey sandwich for lunch, and for snacks I have cauliflower with home made ranch, string cheese, and a fruit snack. But no I choose to eat the crap instead. I just for once want to find my damn self control and motivation again. I know its possible. Sorry for the rant everyone just wanted to say and maybe get some comments. Thank you!!
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Where did the candy come from? Is there a way to get rid of it and not get more? Can you at least arrange so the doughnuts are out of your personal space?7
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The candy is at different desks in the office, we had the daycare on the reservation come around and trick or treat so its all the offices extra. As far as the donuts the guy who sits next door is out and they are from his sister who was bringing them to him so she gave them to me.0
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Log it. Be truthful about your intake. Watch what it does to your daily totals. Collect data. Learn what keeps you full. Learn what makes you happy. Find a good balance of both.
Honestly, with a light dinner I could make a candy bar, a doughnut, and coffee with creamer fit in my day.
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I have to make it a personal "rule" to not eat what other people bring in to work. Only the food I bring myself is allowed. Otherwise every little treat that shows up I give myself permission to have.
When it comes to work-food, I am all or nothing.12 -
Do you eat more at work than you do at home? If so, just have a smaller portion for dinner. Also, when you want the junk food, try drinking water. When I was coming off of sweets, I just went cold turkey and when I was really craving it, I had a small size of it. After a while, I stopped craving it and now I am completely done with it. It is doable.6
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The candy is at different desks in the office, we had the daycare on the reservation come around and trick or treat so its all the offices extra. As far as the donuts the guy who sits next door is out and they are from his sister who was bringing them to him so she gave them to me.
Ugh, my sympathies. Log it and move on. In the future though, you gotta say, "Not for me, thanks!" to stuff you don't want.
The problem with too much junk is that yes, you can make it fit, but only by leaving out other foods with actual nutritional value. And then you're still unsatisfied so you eat more. That's the case with me, anyway.11 -
I struggle with the same thing. I've been on MFP for at least 5 or 6 years, and I'm only down maybe 10 pounds. I tend to do great in the mornings, but when I get tired in the afternoon and/or evening, I start eating anything and everything. Some days are better than others, of course. I do have a couple of suggestions that might be useful for you. One is to figure out how to avoid walking past the desks with candy, even if you have to go out of your way. The extra steps can only do you good. The other is to imagine that whatever is tempting you is filled with something you hate. Mine is black licorice. Even the thought of accidentally eating some is enough to ruin my appetite. I see a doughnut, and I think black licorice filling, imagine getting some of that in my mouth, and if my imagination is intense enough, I completely lose interest in the doughnut.
I came back to add that diabetes is no joke. It seemed that you tossed that "diabetes by the time I'm 40" out very loosely, but diabetes is serious. People lose body parts to amputation because of it, also their eyesight. Think about how serious that is. I've been thinking about that a lot because I recently was diagnosed with a prediabetes condition. All of a sudden it's not just vanity, it's my health. I don't want to play around with this anymore; must change my habits.9 -
So it's 9 am and you've had coffee with creamer, a 3 Musketeer bar, a donut and a fun size Twix, and you want to replace that with cauliflower and a string cheese? I'm not surprised that you're struggling! Give yourself a break and start small. I spent several months logging everything I ate without making a real effort to change anything, and it gave me some amazing insights into my eating habits. If you want to lose 40 pounds in two months, you're going to have to make major changes overnight. But if you want to lose 40 pounds in a year (which is around where I'm headed right now) you don't have to dramatically overhaul your diet. Just figure out your maintenance calories and start making changes that brings your calorie intake down to something comfortably below that number. It takes a lot of willpower to completely stop eating things that you love, but it takes surprisingly little willpower to eat a bit less of the things you love, while adding in things you like that are healthier or more filling.18
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There's food at my office all the time too. I used to eat it often reflexively just because it's there, and for me it's easier when I just don't snack. I eat my food at lunch time, eat breakfast and dinner at home (occasionally I am here super late and do bring dinner), and ignore the treats that show up, most of which aren't special and which I could easily buy myself if I really really wanted it.
There are rare exceptions (more often around the holidays) when the things that show up are worth eating, but I know when doing it that it will make it harder for me to ignore it than a hard-and-fast no snacking rule does.
The donuts are pretty easy as they are at breakfast and I just think to myself "you already ate breakfast!"
I think having a plan is good (and sounds like you have it, although I agree you need to be able to look forward to your meals and not feel deprived, so make sure you've considered that). I also think having it fit into a broader plan so that you can think about WHY you are doing what you are doing and remember why one day DOES matter (unless you decide in advance it's a splurge day, because it will be really worth the calories). For me, willpower was hard in part when I kept thinking "what's one more day" every single day.3 -
I bet you have more self control than you think. If someone had one doughnut on their desk and walked away for awhile would you go over and eat it? You stop yourself because it belongs to someone else and they would be mad at you for stealing their food.
Are you changing your diet a lot? I mean would you have ordinarily have brought yogurt, a turkey sandwich, cauliflower, cheese and fruit to work? Do you like that food or just feel you should eat that type of food?
I would start with logging your normal eating without changing type of food so much. The start adding in lower calorie options and reducing portion sizes of higher calorie stuff more slowly.
Don't make sweets into something that is a big deal. Candy and donuts are not rare. You can eat one a day every single day. If it is not worth the use of your calories then think of it that way and save them for something you really like not just things that are there.
You don't have to be perfect every day to lose weight. You had a higher calorie day. Learn from it, log it and move on.10 -
I'm with @MegaMooseEsq and @YepItsKriss, this "Like I brought for breakfast a Chobani Flip Yogurt, a turkey sandwich for lunch, and for snacks I have cauliflower with home made ranch, string cheese, and a fruit snack." sounds awful. I'd never succeed that way. You have enough to lose that you can just focus on CICO vs. food quality for now. Find your deficit and shoot for that for now instead trying to switch out types of food too, so soon.2
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Firstly, log it.
Second: calculate how much you have to exercise to burn off your sugary treat and do it! When I started my weight loss journey, exercise made me appreciate calories. The thought that you just worked so hard to burn off that fun sized chocolate stops you from having it next time (at least that's how I looked at it. I didn't want to waste my hour in the gym on just candy)
Thirdly: learn to say no. I know it can be hard to say no to friends and family when they bring you food but just do it once!1 -
A chobani flip has quite a bit of sugar. I would try to start my day off with something that has less sugar and more protein and fiber for breakfast. Some turkey bacon or sausage and eggs or oatmeal maybe. That sugar so early may be causing you to crave it more. Then for snacks mix fat with carbs. An apple with almond butter... and so forth.8
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Your post has inspired me to go home and throw away all my kids' Halloween candy tonight. I have no self control and it just stares at me from their trick or treat bags. I figure they would rather have a mom who is healthy in the long run rather than Halloween candy and a mom that's way over weight!6
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I just wanted to say I hear you. I have always found that if I don't have a bite of what I want I will end up angry, desperate and face-down in a bucket of Doritos by nightfall so I figure candy into my diet practically every day. I'm not ashamed to admit that, either. I am currently going through a hella hungry phase but that's after 18 months of dieting and a 60-lb. loss. All during that year and a half I was losing steadily and keeping things under control but I HAD to have my treats.
The thing is, though, if you do this...you have to log it. Don't say "I know if I don't have a bite, I'll overeat later," then have a (probably big...if you're anything like me) bite and mosey along. You MUST log your treat. It's food, after all...like any other food. No magical property, positive or negative, makes it un-log-worthy. It's still calories (and whatever macros you like to count). So work it into your day.
That's the best I can do right now...I see a lot of good advice above, though!
I do feel for you. I worked outside the home for 20 years. All year round it was a struggle of donuts in the lunchroom staring at me and releasing their scent as I walked by (I swear those things farted fresh-baked sugaryfreshdoughyicing when they sensed me on their radar...and they were grinning...THEY WERE GRINNING), then the holidays were...yeah. Never mind. I feel you, dawg. Hang in there.7 -
Today at work, I turned down free muffins and stopped after two slices of veggie pizza for lunch. A few months ago, I would have eaten the extra 1500 calories without thinking about it. Saying no gets easier everytime you do it.
Prelogging my entire day the night before helps me stay on track.11 -
Establish control over what goes in your mouth.
Stick with your own food.
Don't take anyone else's food.
If someone else offers their food, turn it down.
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Establish control over what goes in your mouth.
Stick with your own food.
Don't take anyone else's food.
If someone else offers their food, turn it down.
I hear similar things about men.
OP, self-control isn't easy. It's like a muscle you need to flex regularly to develop it. In the meantime, out of sight, out of mind.10 -
It seems like this thread addresses this topic, too.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10613774/the-importance-of-willpower-for-weight-loss0
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