Coming home from work is the worst...

I was always ravenous when I got home from work and I had to modify my "routine" for work days so that I ate a mini-meal around 4 PM. Of course I was hungry - it had been several hours since my modest lunch, and still a few hours before supper. You'll figure out what works for you, too.

How about a slightly lighter lunch and substantial snack late in the afternoon, so you aren't as hungry while preparing dinner?

It's also possible to prepare your dinner at some other time, such as on weekends, so dinner time is mostly a matter of selecting from what's already made. Or at least prep for dinner - you mentioned chopping. If you have a fridge full of chopped veggies with the date and time on them ready to go, you will be less likely to waste them and go for something else. You could also cook simpler meals for dinner.

At my house, I prep things that take a lot of time to cook in advance, such as a pork tenderloin, roasted vegetables, and whole grains. We often cook for two days and eat leftovers the next day. And at least one day is a planned day when I don't have to cook - we order in healthy food from a nearby restaurant for lunch and dinner, and my husband makes breakfast.

last_jennifer wrote: »

Breakfast calories.....perfect

Lunch calories......awesome

Dinner.....diseaster

Snacks.....never feel the urge to eat anything before bed

I am tired of losing will power on the way home to work and while I am making supper for my family. If I can find the strength during that block of time, the scale would be actually moving down and I would not feel like such a loser for not having better self control.

Is dinner time tricky for you?

Are you hungry while cooking? Maybe have a small planned snack in the afternoon before you get home.
Chew some gum or suck on a mint while cooking.
Use things like feed the freezer/once a month cooking, slow cooker, breakfast for dinner (generally fast cooking) or convenience foods. As long as you stick to your calorie goal it is fine to eat spaghetti or a frozen pizza and a salad.
You mention in this thread having your kids help more. I started cooking dinner for my family when I was 13 or so and my mom was working. Cooking is a great life skill.

This is totally me! I am working towards ending this though. I started planning dinners for the week this week. Just started yesterday. I have a feeling that this is going to help a lot. I went to the grocery last night and spent less than normal, too. My plan is to get home and start cooking right away so I don't have time to snack.

last_jennifer wrote: »

I am so glad , you all have strength and will power , good for you guys. I shouldn't have posted this post . Now I feel beyond stupid.

awww dont feel stupid. i can be pretty blunt too, and im sure, like me, they dont mean to hurt feelings or make someone feel bad.

i plan all my meals. i know what im having for dinner every day. that is what mostly helps. I plan snacks, that sometimes i eat and sometimes i dont. have a piece of fruit or something small before you leave the office so you dont feel like a starved lioness when you walk in the door. i also plan for some chocolate after dinner

planning and pre logging helps

Sorry if any responses hit you hard. Just take the meat and leave the bones is what I say! Meaning take the good advice and leave the bad or what doesn't motivate you. Sometimes what we type doesn't come out the right way.

So. Yes, dinner is hard for me, too. Actually all meals are unless I plan, plan, plan! If I don't plan, it would be all pizza, burgers, fries forever! I make a weekly menu for all of my family's meals and I save them monthly so I can go back and get ideas if I space out or am uninspired.

I need that afternoon snack to help me curb the urge to overdo it at dinner. Almonds or a rice cake with pb helps me.

I try to plan in at least two meals a week that will provide enough leftovers for those busy nights or the ones that I just can't even bother. And I will sometimes change them up, like taco meat one night can turn into spaghetti sauce ( i promise you can't even taste the taco seasoning once you put it in skedi sauce!)

And if I don't use leftovers, I freeze a lot or make double portions of things like soup and sauces.

I try to keep salad stuff on hand always so if all else fails, I can just make a big salad. I'll throw in some chicken breasts in the oven while I help kids with homework or whatever. Then add that to salad for density so I'm not hungry an hour later.

But I think I rambled about cooking when you really wanted to talk about bingeing at night! I just try to make dinner my big meal so I can feed the beast!

And YES! Get that 14 working!!! I have a 13 year old and a 10 year old. I don't ask them to help with dinner often because it usually takes longer with them helping! But I do ask them to help with clean up, laundry, trash and other things that take up my time.

As far as my calories, I try to input all of my meals first thing in the AM, so I know what I'm up against...if I need to push for a hard workout or I can take it a bit easier if I'm not feeling great or I know a particular meal is going to be high cals. I can manipulate my meals if I want to stay under my calories for the day.

Hope this helps some!

Not sure how you feel about coffee but usually that is how I manage in the afternoon. I try not to snack because that leads me to overindulge in the snacks.

Honestly, I agree. Do you remember coming home from school as a kid and starving!? That's how I feel after work lol. The struggle is real!!!

I'm so with you on this! It's my worst time. I come home and I have to fix dinner. I'm ravenous. I'm getting out snacks for the kids and they straight into my mouth as well. Everything I cook goes straight in my mouth, as well. It's bad. I snack on carrots on the drive home. Then when I get home I chew some gum while I'm cooking so I don't eat everything in sight. That helps me, but only when I remember car snacks and gum.

This is my struggle as well, only I don't have a job. Around 3 PM the munchie monster rises up inside of me and demands that I go to the kitchen again and again for a bite of this, a sip of that, a small slice of cheese, on and on and on until it's time to cook dinner. I'm not hungry by that time but I keep eating.

Or at least I did. I'm scared straight right now because my doctor has diagnosed me with prediabetes and borderline blood pressure. I want to back out of those conditions, not continue on to diabetes 2 and high blood pressure. So right now it's easy for to ignore MM. I'm definitely going to remember some of these strategies for when I start to lose focus.

Years ago when I was doing the old Weight Watchers exchange program to lose the pregnancy weight gain, I noticed that I walked in the front door every evening around 11:30 PM after work and went straight to the kitchen to snack. I decided that I was going to have to change that habit if I wanted to succeed, so I started by going in the back door instead of the front door. It was my first signal to myself that "we are changing the old habit". I'd go in the back door and up the stairs to my bedroom. Then I'd watch an episode of MASH as I got ready for bed. Sometimes when you want to change a bad habit, you have to change up the things you do around the habit as well.

I used to struggle with this. What I find works for me is this; I don't like eating breakfast on work days so I don't eat until lunch, just coffee before then, and I eat lunch between 12-2PM (sometimes earlier sometimes later just depends on when I feel hungry). I get home from work at 4 but my SO doesn't get home until almost 6. So I take my mind off of the slight hunger by exercising a little. I take my dogs for a walk for 30 minutes or do a home workout video for 30 minutes. Make sure I drink a glass of water and if I'm hungry truly hungry I go grab a bowl or cottage cheese with fruit or a bowl of greek yogurt with granola. Protein is filling to me so cottage cheese and greek yogurt are perfect macros to fill me up for a while until dinner.

I also pre-log all of my food for the entire week on Sunday. Including my cottage cheese or yogurt snacks. And I eat those things only. Might slightly adjust an amount up or down based on desire or hunger level but make sure to stay in my goal.

I have also done it where I make all of our dinners on Sunday. That way when it's dinner time I don't have to wait for my food to cook. I just warm it up for a couple of minutes and dig in. Have you considered trying something like that?

I have the most issues with hunger and cravings in the evening too and since I tend not to get hungry in the daytime much, I just save all or most of my calories for evening. You can try the suggested afternoon snack solution, or you can look into IF (Intermittent Fasting) and see if that could work for you. Also, having a healthy snack ready for when you get through the door is always a good option, like some Greek Yoghurt or a protein shake or a bit of chicken, a hard boiled egg, a little cheese with an apple or somesuch.

Just try each method, switch things around and eventually you will find what works. Enjoy the experience of experimenting and remember, no-one is perfect and no-one has infinite willpower. It doesn't make you a bad person or a loser, although I can totally relate to those feelings when experiencing a loss of control.

Another thing to consider . . . . are you truly very hungry or is eating as soon as you walk in the door a habit?

Eat a small snack before you leave work, then try doing something different or out of the ordinary when you get home that keeps you out of the kitchen for a short time. Take a 10-15 minute walk, read two or three chapters of a book, or pick a room (not the kitchen) and do a quick cleaning. Doing this for a few weeks can help you focus on something else and break the association of Home From Work = FOOD. Kind of a cognitive behavioral therapy exercise. I figured out that I wasn't actually ravenous walking in the door when I got dogs - I changed my routine to walking them as soon as I got home instead of heading to the kitchen to make dinner right away and my before dinner/dinner prep snacking became much less frequent.

last_jennifer wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

I'm not sure I understand how dinner is any different than any other meal. We pretty much know in advance what we're having for dinner throughout the week which is how we plan our grocery shopping...we make dinner...we eat dinner...just like we make breakfast and lunch and eat those.

I guess I don't get it...

Your insight just validated how much of a loser that I feel.

Don't feel stupid about what other people think. You are just sharing your weakness in search for the strength to fight it. That's actually kinda cool. I'm not so open about my weaknesses.

It's hard for me too, to control myself sometimes. I guess there's no secret, you just need to say "no" to yourself more often.

Hope you find the strength you need! Cheers!

Crock pots rock. My wife and I have been working opposite schedules lately, and even though the kids are raised and out of the house it's hard not to give in to fast food when she's not there when I get home. I cook as often as she does, maybe more so that's not the problem, the problem is cooking a meal for two when I just have to cool hers and put it away until she gets home. So we learn more and more to toss something in the slow cooker in the morning, that way I can have a plate when I get home for dinner, and can put it on warm to keep it ready for her when she gets home. We didn't start using it all that much because we had such a large crock pot (used to have 3 kids at home). So we went out and bought smaller ones for different occasions. Anyway, food for thought.. a pork roast, beef roast, or even chicken can be slow cooked in them while you work.