Those who have lost a significant amount of weight, how did you stay motivated for the long haul?
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Love this thread. 14.5kg lost so far. For me it's laziness not lack of motivation. Motivation is fleeting I get lazy. I have had a few weeks recently where I've not been honest logging and that's ok. I won't put on all those kg lost. No way. I've worked to hard. I no I can do it, I'm committed to doing it and all the small things are so worth the journey. Painting my toenails and shaving my legs with ease, seeing collar bones, having the towel actually wrap around me! I chose not to be lazy any more. It's about choices for me too. I chose not to be fat anymore and do something about it. Good luck2
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For me I was tired of feeling bad both physically and mentally. I was not comfortable going out with the family, missed kids school events because I didn't want them to be teased for having a fat dad. The list of why's can go on an on...
Now that I have lost over 100 still have more to go. But it isn't a race anymore for me. It is coming off and will continue to. I no longer allow a burger or a chocolate to throw me into a spiral of "all is lost" I just log it and move on. Thinking I will never indulge in fast/unhealthy food is a joke.
I have a completely different outlook on life/eating then I did during my yo-yo dieting days. I am much happier eating everything I want just not as often or as much. The health benefits are great, but I am a happier person on the inside that is what counts the most. I have sagging skin on my stomach, maybe one day I will address that but who knows if not I am and will be a happier person with some sagging skin then a person embarrassed to leave the house. I am not going to let food control me, watch ideally by as my children's lives go by with me in the shadows.5 -
60 lbs. down here and I am taking a diet break (maintenance) because yes, my motivation is dwindling. We need to remind our psyches and our bodies that life is not all looooong march of months and months of eating below maintenance. Just a suggestion.2
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Its not motivation at all, its a lifestyle and habit change. Its not easy, but once you retrain your brain that eating a certain is "normal", it becomes much easier.1
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breefoshee wrote: »So what were the things that helped you to keep going? How did you set your short-term goals?
I don't manage weight to hit a number - I hit a weight number so I can do something I otherwise wouldn't.
IE - weight loss isn't the goal - weight loss is what I need to do to reach the *actual* goal.
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Taking care of my body used to be my very last priority. Faith. Family. Work. Community... these things all were far, far ahead of spending time or energy on myself. And then I had a major reality check. Its impossible to take care of all these responsibilities if my body falls apart.
My mom reached 525+ lbs. She had four strokes. She suffers from charcot fractures in both her feet. She has lymphedema that makes her feet and legs swell up so much like water balloons the skin bursts. She gets constant infections; yeast and bacterial. She can't toilet herself. She can't sit or lay comfortably at all, and she can't stand unassisted, and forget walking entirely. She suffers from heart palpitations that leave her gasping for air as her heart is enlarged to more than 4x the size of a human heart. Her blood sugar being out of control has destroyed her kidneys. She has a prolapsed bladder, and she's almost entirely blind. She's 61.
Not all of her problems are caused by weight. Many of her problems have roots into bad genetics, bad health care, and just plain bad luck. But ALL of them are made more challenging because she got so heavy.
I don't want to be my mom. You don't want to be my mom. Nobody wants to be my mom, not even my mom.
So one day I stood on a scale, and honestly looked at the number and said "wow. This is really getting out of control. I'm headed down the same awful path. I can't do this. I can't let this be me." And I realized that yes, my weight was affecting my health and my stamina and my ability to be the person I want to be and do the things I want to do. My weight was officially A PROBLEM, and I finally recognized it.
And that was that. 3 years and 115 lbs later I'm no less aware of just what a terrible toll having a lot of excess weight did to me, or does to my mom and anyone else. If anything, I'm more aware. I'm aware of how much easier it is for me to move and to do things and live and just be. Walking and eating with a conscious maintenance goal is the price of life being much, much easier, and my odds of being miserable and making others miserable are so much lower. Even if I do become completely disabled, my care will be tremendously easier that it would've been and that alone makes it important.
Taking care of my body is important, because it is my responsibility that must be fulfilled to meet my other responsibilities and desires. And I guess that's a motivation that just isn't going to dissipate as long as I've not given up on life.
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Mom is down to 300 lbs now from 525. She's going for 200. My only regret is that we didn't recognize how important maintaining physical well-being was many, many years ago.27 -
I'm right at 300 pound lost so far (205 this year alone).
The only motivation I have needed is remembering that I am doing it for myself and noone else.
Going from a 6xl t-shirt to a large in a year is pretty dang cool too! Or from size 70 pants to 40....14 -
This was a great feed to read. Thank you for all who shared. I’m 51 down and the support and MGP friends I have met. Wonderful network of folks here! ❤️1
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This time around I've been working on getting healthy for just over 2 years, losing just under half of my bodyweight (142lb) and gaining a lot more. When I started the numbers were just so high that I was over awed, so I set myself lots of little targets. And by resetting those little targets as I hit them along with not demonising any food and ensuring I only had a moderate deficit (I've very rarely dropped below 2000 Calories) I've managed to stay motivated.
Right now I'm coming to the end of a maintenance break and most of my targets are fitness/strength based, but in the new year I'm going to work on losing the last 12lb or so to get in to "normal" BMI. This 4 month break from actually losing weight has been brilliant, not only to help motivate me in my goals both now and for the new year but also to help me learn to eat at maintenance (I'm extremely active so I get to eat a lot).3 -
It's lifestyle I would say, not motivation.
Once you work out on your habits, diet, workouts just keep going, why would you stop ?0 -
108 lbs in a year. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I disagree with others here about motivation versus discipline. I have no discipline. I have no ability to form good habits. I've been going to the gym regularly for months now and if I could, I would stop tomorrow and never look back. I hate running and do it three times a week. I whine every day.
My motivation, on the other hand, keeps me going even when I feel like deep fried dog turd. I don't want to go blind or lose the sensation in my feet due to diabetes. Being temporarily unable to drive or read because of bad vision made me very aware of what will happen if I don't keep my *kitten* together.
Motivation waxes and wanes only when it's not really a good enough motivation. Most people are strongly motivated to pay their bills often enough not to get their homes repossessed. Most people are able to get up every day on not enough sleep and spend hours at a job they loathe because their children need health insurance. All over the world, grown children endure living hell to help their aging parents be cared for during their last critical illness. Not all of these people have discipline - they have motivation, something they care about strongly enough to keep working even when they would rather jump head first into a box of bees.
If you have something in your life that motivates you that strongly to lose weight, remind yourself of it.8 -
*small interim goals
*go-to routine for many meals
*planned breaks where I eat to current maintenance for a few days
*lifting routine (feeling strong is a great motivator for me for eating well)
*good nutrition (so, good energy)
*becoming friends with "I am a little hungry"3 -
I think it's both motivation and self-discipline. Lots of things keep me motivated; when that feeling ebbs it's discipline that keeps me going. But...I'm constantly looking for motivators as it keeps things interesting for me-the 5 pound mini-goals, the pants I want to fit into, the healthier blood work, the special splurge meal I'll have with friends, being able to walk that extra mile, etc. These are motivators- that I purposely create for myself so I don't go insane; when all else fails I rely on the tedium of self-discipline- (just till I'm re-motivated )0
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i lost 95lbs going from 285 to 190. I just focused on small goals, each 5lbs would be a new goal. I think it's easier if you break it down into something much more tangible.2
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I really love this thread and everybody’s contributions. I can only say that while I have a way to go, what’s motivating me not to give up is I do not want to ever have my weight be a topic of conversation ever again. The fat comments just were enough. I do not want hear it anymore! I do not want my weight to be an excuse anymore. I have no clothes to wear.
So when I feel tired, like absolutely throwing in the towel and eating everything in my path, I remind myself of how crummy it feels afterwards. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Whether it’s motivation or a Power that be so far it’s working.
I am incorporating choices that I enjoy. Taking it one day at a time.1 -
As most have said eating the way I do now is how I will eat for the rest of my life. No food is off the menu, I just eat to my calorie allowance. Little things that keep me focused, motivated if you want to call it that...being able to move more, do more, feeling so much healthier, a whole new world of clothes for the slimmer me and NOT having to strategically position myself behind others when anyone insists on a group or family photo!!1
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As of today, I'm down 93 lbs from a high of 254 (BMI 45). I want to drop another 31, but 21 will take me to the top of the healthy BMI range for me.
In my case, I'd developed a permanent obesity-related condition (Chronic venous insufficiency; i.e. the veins in my legs collapsed from having to carry too much me. It also impacted my lymphatic system. The fluid didn't have enough room to flow and it had to go somewhere, so I ended up with lymphedema and a weeping wound on my leg that took about 2 1/2 months of daily nursing visits and multiple courses of antibiotics to fix). I'm now in compression stockings for the foreseeable future and my left lower leg is extremely prone to infection if I break the skin. Which means that I try to avoid taking antibiotics when it's "Well, we don't actually know if it's a virus or an infection, but we'll write you a prescription for antibiotics just in case." No. If I need the antibiotics, give them to me. If you aren't sure, I'd rather not risk building up a tolerance in case I scrape my knee and my leg swells up again.
I just can't afford to fool around anymore.
Also, I've just gotten through a medical scare. Turns out I have/had bladder cancer. Non-invasive, 98% survival rate, the surgery got all the lesions, though they could come back (I'm starting treatment in a few weeks to hopefully prevent that). Class 3 obesity? Added risk for going under general anesthetic. Might have also impacted the diagnosis, though that's speculation. (There are threads on these forums about people whose doctors missed serious medical issues, chalking them all up to the patient being obese. I don't know what my experience would have been a year ago, but I'm kind of glad I didn't have to find out.)
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I'm on track to lose ~50 lbs by Summer 2018. I'm already over 50% to my goal. I was a "fit but fat" person most of my life and haven't suffered any of the unfortunate health scares as others have mentioned above. I had success losing ~40 lbs without calorie counting on my own a few years ago, but hit a plateau and decided to maintain and focus on fitness for a while. Honestly, re-discovering MFP, plugging in my stats, and giving it a try for a month is what did it for me. Realizing the simplicity of CICO and the desire to drop the fat in "fit but fat" is what motivates me today.
Ditto mini, both scale and non-scale, goals. Fitness remains a priority for me, but is also a retreat for the scale isn't moving as fast as I want it to. Setting realistic goals, prelogging, tracking weight trends, and joining challenges on this site have been key to my success.2 -
The results are the motivation. In addition, I always like to set goals in multiple areas, not just the scale. Doing a new exercise, increasing weight on a lift, trying a new ingredient or new recipe, steps, progress pics, measurements, all are areas I set goals in. That way there are always some successes, even when the scale isn't what I was hoping for. I work so hard in my workouts to improve my fitness, I don't want to screw it up with poor eating habits.
Also realize that success is based on establishing a routine and good habits. You won't "feel motivated" every day. In fact, I don't "feel motivated" on most days. I just follow my plan for nutrition and fitness. If I followed my plan only on the days I "felt motivated" I am quite sure I would still weigh 300 lbs and be barely able to get out of my chair. Instead 3 1/2 years after starting, I weigh 155 and can hike up a mountain at age 62.4
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