What’s the worst thing your mother in law has done/said?

She keeps discouraging my 15 year old daughter from being interested in "boy things". She discourages auto mechanics, engineering, welding, etc. Tells her she should be a hand model or an interior designer.

Otherwise, she's really nice, but I'm still grateful she's my ex MIL.

denversillygoose wrote: »

She keeps discouraging my 15 year old daughter from being interested in "boy things". She discourages auto mechanics, engineering, welding, etc. Tells her she should be a hand model or an interior designer.

Otherwise, she's really nice, but I'm still grateful she's my ex MIL.

hand modeling can be quite the rewarding career....

I think mine means well, however she is agrees with what ever you have to say even if it is BS or "fake news". She loves to gossip even if its about her own kids (I would love to know what she says about me). She's also the same person who told me to not lift weights because she did and she couldn't fit into her clothes any more because she was too bulky. Same person who told me to try the HCG diet (nope) because her sister is doing it and you can lose a ton of weight and eat what you want as long as you use the drops.

The only thing she has done that has really burned me up was she recently told my son he eats unhealthy and he's fatter than the other kids. He's 8, he's picky and he's not fat. He has always been big since birth. He eats healthy foods because I cook just about every meal he eats and know what snacks he consumes. She just doesn't ask what he likes so she never has it when he goes to her house. Now I have an 8 year old who is asking me if he needs to lose weight and gets on the scale every night to see if he's gaining. Ugh...MILs

My children were her favorites. She gave my oldest daughter $2,000/semester for college, my youngest $1,000/semester. Another grandchild $1,000/yr for votech, and another grandchild $0.00(yes, he went to college) because he would never amount to anything.
An update- my oldest is a stay at home mom, youngest works in her degree field, one who went to votech has a good job, not exactly what he went to school for, one who got nothing has a steady job, nice wife, good home--in my books a successful person.

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PAFC84 wrote: »

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She moved into my house, wouldn't let me cook or clean.

Which really sucked, because I don't eat meat and they do.

Then she threw out my cleaning stuff and took it upon herself to do everything in my house. Then to top it all off she told the neighbours that I was lazy and didn't know how to cook. While I was basically living off of cereal that I would hide and eat. In my own home.

She blamed me that her son would smoke in the house, and told me I couldn't work out before work anymore because it bothered her.

I kicked her out on her butt eventually, and she told every person in my small town why I was an evil woman. This really effected my business and cost me a lot of money. No matter what, neither my husband's dad or my husband would stand up to her. Because if you made her upset, all of a sudden she'd be in the hospital dying of something.

We've since made up, but I'm still very cautious around her. There is a lesson here folks, do not let your MIL move in your house.

She sounds lovely. How did this effect your relationship with your husband-given that he wouldn't stand up to her and then you booted her out?

He seconded the booting out because I was so done and ready to go myself if she didn't go. He had to second the booting out, because despite me telling them to leave, they just ignored me. Like it wasn't my house or something.

I have to say this was nine years ago, and we get along great now. There is something to be said for standing up for yourself and letting someone know their actions are not going to be endured. She didn't speak to us for a few years, but they came around and now we live about an hour away from them.

You teach people how to treat you. And if they don't learn the lesson, you need to get out of the situation and distance yourself until they learn how to treat you. No matter who they are to you.

Like a pet.

Yes, like a pet. A training if you will.

I've never had to kick one of my dogs out though.

Do you keep doggie treats on hands for when they do something right.....the people, not the dogs?

Mine is a love, she lives a 7 hour drive from us and she adores me! Great combo. My mother on the other hand, let me pour you a glass of wine and tell you a wee story..

My ex MIL and her mother screamed at me that my first daughter was going to hell because I didn’t want her baptized... she had just died a few hours earlier.

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Mine is a love, she lives a 7 hour drive from us and she adores me! Great combo. My mother on the other hand, let me pour you a glass of wine and tell you a wee story..

Oh dear......I see a night full of nightmares

My MIL told me that my SO would never marry me 4 years into our relationship. We married 2 years later and she's no longer in our lives.

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My ex MIL and her mother screamed at me that my first daughter was going to hell because I didn’t want her baptized... she had just died a few hours earlier.

Wow... that's so awful of them. When my cousin passed away, one of my aunts said the same thing since she wasn't baptized.
I'm not religious so I don't get it but what would compel someone to ever say that?

Could be a number of things

1. The need to be right, in their own mind, is more important than respecting the moment

2. Maybe rather than grieving in a healthy manner they went on the attack, looking for something or someone to blame

3. Some people have very strict religious beliefs and can't respect other peoples beliefs or lack of them

4. Some people are just plain bad

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On our wedding day (at the reception) my MIL came up to me and gave me a big hug and told me "Welcome to our family!" Umm, hubby and I had dated 5+ years prior to our wedding so apparently you're only let into to club when a marriage certificate is involved? I still shake my head about that one. Not really mean but I definitely file it under stupid.

Generally okay, but I finally had to ask her why she criticized us for some things that other people were praising us for. Seems she had been hearing inaccurate stories from her sisters while she was living in another country, then when she moved in with us it was her opportunity to really fix our problems. Think she and her sisters actually improved after that conversation.

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kace_kay wrote: »

_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »

My ex MIL and her mother screamed at me that my first daughter was going to hell because I didn’t want her baptized... she had just died a few hours earlier.

Wow... that's so awful of them. When my cousin passed away, one of my aunts said the same thing since she wasn't baptized.
I'm not religious so I don't get it but what would compel someone to ever say that?

Could be a number of things

1. The need to be right, in their own mind, is more important than respecting the moment

2. Maybe rather than grieving in a healthy manner they went on the attack, looking for something or someone to blame

3. Some people have very strict religious beliefs and can't respect other peoples beliefs or lack of them

4. Some people are just plain bad

In a case such as this, they would fit all of these parameters:

-Haven't done their reading, or listened very well, as that isn't a teaching of the church.

http://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/congregations/cfaith/cti_documents/rc_con_cfaith_doc_20070419_un-baptised-infants_en.html

-Pay lip service to what they claim to believe, but don't seek to align their life with it in any real way.

-Are deeply unhappy. Happy people wouldn't seek to hurt someone.

-Thought it was acceptable to take their anger out on someone who was hurting even more than they were, because such people derive a sick satisfaction from causing other people pain.

Reading all these comments confirm to me...hurt people HURT PEOPLE.
If you are a victum of being hurt, realize they do as has been done to them....even further...if not done to them a genetic fault.

Frankly, stop having relations just cause you have an itch or at least get protection.....most men will try to talk you into not having c**doms. Men, were c**doms cause she will allege later she is allergic to BC.

Overall..BE SMART. Gonna cost you over 100K to raise a child.