19, Male, 509 lb. What do I even do at this point?

tobless98
tobless98 Posts: 1 Member
edited November 23 in Health and Weight Loss
I don't even know what to type here. I just feel depressed. Last time I was weighed was at the doctor early this year and I was 480. I just bought a new scale and it says I'm at 509. This whole time I thought I was losing weight and I was just gaining. Tell me what to do. I feel like I'm dying.
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  • ebdonoianjr
    ebdonoianjr Posts: 3 Member
    I understand how frustrating it is stepping on the scale and not seeing any results! What I did first when I started was change my diet. I cut out soda and junk food, drank more water and that made a huge difference by itself. As far as exercise you can just start out slow like take 30 minute walks outside or on the treadmill. I used my dog as an excuse to go for walks but anything that gets you moving around is good. I know you can do it and you’re at the right place for some support and encouragement!
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    And yes, read the sticky posts. There's a few on logging accurately. Start there. You can do it.
  • spiffychick85
    spiffychick85 Posts: 311 Member
    Be honest with yourself and MFP...weigh your foods (any food you eat...I'm a grazing snacker personally) and log them, follow the guidelines MFP gives you...baby steps. You can do this!
  • pogiguy05
    pogiguy05 Posts: 1,583 Member
    Well the most important thing is to never give up. No matter if you have bad days there are also good days. you just have to let yourself see them.
  • 1musicgrl
    1musicgrl Posts: 135 Member
    I'm glad you're asking for help. I want you to know that you really can do it. It takes hard work and for me it has not been easy at all. But we are here to support you. You are worth it and you will reach your goals one step at a time. Feel free to friend me.
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    You have to eat less. If you think you're eating less, but you're gaining weight, weighing and logging food intake is a very good idea, as long as you do it consistently and honestly and aim to hit your calorie target every day. If you struggle to stick to your calories, there are many ways to make eating less more comfortable.
  • rheddmobile
    rheddmobile Posts: 6,840 Member
    When you say you thought you were losing, what were you doing that caused you to think that? Have you been weighing and logging your food, and eating at a deficit?

    That's what to do. Put in your stats, get a calorie recommendation, and go for it. Eating at a deficit works - I'm down 112 lbs in a year, and there are many people here who have lost far more. You can get hold of this and get your life back!
  • dawnemjh
    dawnemjh Posts: 1,465 Member
    MFP is a great tool for helping people but keep in mind that you will get advice from a lot of different people with a lot of different nutritional knowledge and some may be good and some may be incorrect. I would say that if you are not truly motivated to lose the weight you will not be very successful. weight loss occurs when you burn more calories than you take in and you need to decide how that will occur. You don't have to exercise at all if you don't want to as long as you are eating less than you are burning. I think the first step is figuring out how much you need to eat to lose weight and then start being accountable for every bite that goes in your mouth! Good luck to you!!!
  • NJGamerChick
    NJGamerChick Posts: 467 Member
    Weigh your foods and log. After you have a bit of a log going, you can look into it and look into nutritional deficiencies that could also be causing cravings and hunger.

    I've gotten rid of over 125 pounds and have done it the slow way, through modification of my eating, through resolving nutritional deficiencies, and through eventually starting a fitness regime. I will agree with those above who say to consume a little less. Sometimes the easiest way to start the change is to take something constant and modify it. For example, if you drink a 2 liter of cola a day, change to drinking one, or shift to diet. It's a slow change, but it's one that's easy to keep.
  • RamboKitty87
    RamboKitty87 Posts: 272 Member
    I started at 308lbs in January 2017, it was the biggest I had ever been, I felt the same, in despair, pretty much thinking this was going to be another half arsed attempt but I stuck with it, I started by logging at first then when I felt up to it I started exercising, going for small walks at first, doing 3 mins at a time on my dusty neglected exercise bike, just little steps, you take it 1 day at a time and see it as a life long thing not just a temporary fix, I have had my ups and downs like many others have, I don't want to get into it all here but I had some diet breaks along the way, switching favorite foods for lower calorie foods like switching to baked crisps instead of the fried ones I used to eat, switching to popcorn sometimes also, lighter cheese and butter (vegetable spreads) cutting out things I thought were a waste of calories, see calories as money in a way lol would you waste your money on this or that basically, I found cutting nuts and seeds out or just having a teeny amount now and then also helpful, search online for lower calorie / lower carbs/ fat etc etc of foods, doing research helps a lot, pre-log your day as that helps also, I know a lot of people here are into the whole meal prep I think its called where they cook in bulk for the week, I personally don't trust myself with that method but it has helped many others but really first steps would be just logging food, possibly going to your doctors and see if they can advice you at all, getting into a routine with it all, I wish you all the best x
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  • Z_I_L_L_A
    Z_I_L_L_A Posts: 2,399 Member
    Just start...and don't stop. Think of it as life threatening, that is what got me started.
  • hopiemama33
    hopiemama33 Posts: 52 Member
    Start today, right now. Drink one glass of water, then refill it so it is ready the next time you are thirsty.
  • youngmomtaz
    youngmomtaz Posts: 1,075 Member
    I would like to add to all the good suggestions you have gotten already. On top of logging every bite, working your way up to moving more, drinking water, adding in some new healthy food choices, I would like to add: find a real life accountability buddy. It doesn’t have to be someone who needs to lose weight but that would be great too. Someone who you can message or call daily. Compare food choices, share workouts, trade recipes, complain about sore or tired or wanting to eat everything in sight. But ultimately, someone who encourages and motivates you.

    I have a few of these. Sometimes they know I just need encouragement, I can be so stale and uncooperative but just hearing about the fact that they already did their workout for the day or have a salad prepped and meat defrosting for their meal can be great motivation to get me to make better choices. Sometimes we do mini competitions like proving that we logged every day for a week and if you forgot a day you have to buy the coffee, or a number of active daily minutes or something like that. We share successes and failures, and it is really helpful to know there is someone like that to work with.

    This community can be very helpful too, but is is nice to meet up with someone, head out for a walk, talk about nothing weight or health related in that moment, but know they have your back the minute you go home and need someone to bounce ideas off of.

  • knhigham
    knhigham Posts: 11 Member
    I would agree with everyone here by saying that the most important step is to log accurately and be honest about what you’re eating.

    The silver lining in this is that because you weigh so much, you don’t have to starve yourself or cut out all of your favourite foods to maintain a deficit.

    You also will burn more calories doing the same level of activity as a lighter person. So feel free to start out with increasing your step count. No need to go overboard and burn out.

    Another important tip, develop a new hobby or goal unrelated to weight loss. It helps distract you if you find your mind drifting back towards food. Especially if you’re an emotional or boredom eater.
  • DananaNanas
    DananaNanas Posts: 665 Member
    edited December 2017
    I don't have any advice that hasn't already been given but I just wanted to say you can do this!!! Be patient with yourself. Start moving. Use MFP and the forums and there will be people, myself included, happy to answer questions and help you in any way we can along your journey.


    ETA Download an app like HappyScale (iphone) or apparently Libra (for android... I have an iphone). You put in your weight and goal and it breaks it down into many much smaller goals. It also tracks trends so you can see through the normal weight fluctuations. My weigh-in today was exactly the same as my weigh in yesterday but my "moving average" shows me down by .2 from yesterday.
  • elainemariebenes
    elainemariebenes Posts: 16 Member
    no additional advice to give, just wanted to say don’t give up on yourself. you can do this and you are worth it!
  • apullum
    apullum Posts: 4,838 Member
    What you do is take it one day at a time. Start today. Put your stats into MFP, figure out how many calories you need to eat to reach your goal weight. You can then forget that goal weight if it helps you.

    Hear me out on this one.

    It can be really overwhelming to think, I need to lose X number of pounds, when X is a big number. But it can be a lot more manageable to think, I'm going to lose 10 pounds. Then, after you lose that 10 pounds, I'm going to lose another 10 pounds. That way you're focusing on mini-goals that you will accomplish much more quickly on your way to achieving your ultimate goal.

    You can do this with non-weight-related goals too. Maybe I'm going to run a 5K is a big goal, but I'm going to walk for 10 minutes is a mini-goal.

    This doesn't work for everybody. If you're motivated by thinking about big goals rather than small ones, great! But if it's overwhelming, then focus on the small steps.

    Also:

    Get a good kitchen scale and measuring cups. Get into the habit of weighing all solid food and measuring liquids using the cups. This will give you an accurate calorie count, but many people neglect this step until their weight loss stalls and they can't figure out what they're doing wrong.

    You do not need to give up any foods you like. You just need to figure out how to fit them into your calorie goals. That might mean eating smaller portions of high-calorie foods or eating them less often, but there is no food that keeps you from losing weight, just like there is no food that causes you to lose weight. It really is just a matter of eating fewer calories than you burn, and those calories can come from whatever food you like.

    Take a look at the "100+ pounds with no surgery" group. There are some good people over there: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/3322-100-pounds-with-no-surgery
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