Rules of a Successful Husband
TheRoadDog
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Here's a couple of mine.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Don't leave the house without a kiss and an "I Love You."
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Treat her well in front of friends and family. They will tell her how lucky she is and you can just take the "Aw Shucks" approach.
I've got many more, but I want to hear yours. Let's face it, guys, most women are better partners than most men. When you find the ONE, put some work into it.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Don't leave the house without a kiss and an "I Love You."
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Treat her well in front of friends and family. They will tell her how lucky she is and you can just take the "Aw Shucks" approach.
I've got many more, but I want to hear yours. Let's face it, guys, most women are better partners than most men. When you find the ONE, put some work into it.
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Instead of sending the flowers, deliver them yourself.
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When she talks, don't just space out and nod your head...ACTUALY listen and contribute to the conversation3
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Say "thank you" once in a while for all she does for you and the family.1
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How about : Do the dishes once in a while. That's more romantic than any flowers3
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »How about : Do the dishes once in a while. That's more romantic than any flowers
I do 99% of the cooking and the dishes afterwards.3 -
My husband gets up early with the kids so I can sleep in, we trade off so each other can get some extra sleep. He also cooks and cleans. I have a great husband.0
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This is husbandry 101. If bros DON'T do these things they are remedial/weak/beta husbands. More advanced tactics include adapting to her many moods that can spring up out of nowhere for no rational reason and coming out on the other end unscathed.1
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What if the woman hates flowers?0
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »What if the woman hates flowers?
A good husband/partner would know what she likes, obv :-D0 -
This is a sweet post, but it feels imbalanced without a few rules for successful wives.
1. Love him. Most men feel love in the form of physical touch or acts of service, so bake that man an apple pie and then love on him like you aren't just trying to get through it so you can get back to watching Grey's.
2. Trust him. He doesn't have to earn it, just trust him from the start.
3. Don't nag the guy like he's your kid. And don't scold him, especially in front of other people. That *kitten* is the worst.
4. Respect the man cave.
5. He's got interests outside of you and your family. Let him do his own thing without trying to guilt him.13 -
TheRoadDog wrote: »Here's a couple of mine.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Mine called and asked "Now what did you do or want"
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Again, I pulled out her chair and she get's all mad and complains about how hard the floor was when hit it. No bonus points for having someone tape it and make money from America's funniest home videos.
So no offense but after these 2 failed attempts, I am not trying the others...just sayin'0 -
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TheRoadDog wrote: »Pull out her chair.
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Warn her first.0 -
caco_ethes wrote: »This is a sweet post, but it feels imbalanced without a few rules for successful wives.
1. Love him. Most men feel love in the form of physical touch or acts of service, so bake that man an apple pie and then love on him like you aren't just trying to get through it so you can get back to watching Grey's.
2. Trust him. He doesn't have to earn it, just trust him from the start.
3. Don't nag the guy like he's your kid. And don't scold him, especially in front of other people. That *kitten* is the worst.
4. Respect the man cave.
5. He's got interests outside of you and your family. Let him do his own thing without trying to guilt him.
I see you get it. You have some of the same special qualities as my wife. These are the reasons I want to treat my wife as I do. My wife supports me 100% and I do no less for her.1 -
Another good one is to know when she needs a good schtupping vs. "making love."3
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TheRoadDog wrote: »Here's a couple of mine.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Don't leave the house without a kiss and an "I Love You."
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Treat her well in front of friends and family. They will tell her how lucky she is and you can just take the "Aw Shucks" approach.
I've got many more, but I want to hear yours. Let's face it, guys, most women are better partners than most men. When you find the ONE, put some work into it.
You sir, are one of the good ones.1 -
When she talks, shut up. When she vents her crappy day, shut up. Don’t try to fix it, just listen.6
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »TheRoadDog wrote: »Here's a couple of mine.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Don't leave the house without a kiss and an "I Love You."
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Treat her well in front of friends and family. They will tell her how lucky she is and you can just take the "Aw Shucks" approach.
I've got many more, but I want to hear yours. Let's face it, guys, most women are better partners than most men. When you find the ONE, put some work into it.
You sir, are one of the good ones.
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »When she talks, shut up. When she vents her crappy day, shut up. Don’t try to fix it, just listen.
To add to this. Sometimes, for your own mental health, you've got to zone out during the venting though. When this occurs, listen enough to remember a few key statements. When you're inevitably accused of not listening, repeat the lines your remembered. It'll be be enough to convince her that you were listening while keeping her mood from affecting yours.3 -
_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »When she talks, shut up. When she vents her crappy day, shut up. Don’t try to fix it, just listen.
Yes please! I eventually stopped talking because he just got angry every time I opened my mouth.
And another point: don't treat her one way in public and another in private. If you are ashamed of the way you treat her in private, you shouldn't be treating her that way at all2 -
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Don't become one?0 -
Be a team... each of you contribute equally. Dishes, cooking, laundry, sweeping, grass cutting is not his or her work.1
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caco_ethes wrote: »This is a sweet post, but it feels imbalanced without a few rules for successful wives.
1. Love him. Most men feel love in the form of physical touch or acts of service, so bake that man an apple pie and then love on him like you aren't just trying to get through it so you can get back to watching Grey's.
2. Trust him. He doesn't have to earn it, just trust him from the start.
3. Don't nag the guy like he's your kid. And don't scold him, especially in front of other people. That *kitten* is the worst.
4. Respect the man cave.
5. He's got interests outside of you and your family. Let him do his own thing without trying to guilt him.
This, all of THIS. I don’t know you, but you ROCK. Respect is a two-way Street.1 -
TheRoadDog wrote: »Here's a couple of mine.
You planning on sending flowers? Don't send them on a special day. Just send them arbitrarily. Send them to her work. Her co-workers will follow the delivery person to her office, ask why she is getting flowers on a Wednesday and then talk you up.
Don't leave the house without a kiss and an "I Love You."
Take the extra step to open the door for her. Pull out her chair.
Treat her well in front of friends and family. They will tell her how lucky she is and you can just take the "Aw Shucks" approach.
I've got many more, but I want to hear yours. Let's face it, guys, most women are better partners than most men. When you find the ONE, put some work into it.
No doubt about it good relationships take work. Those little things add up, but I think some of the little things vary quite a bit couple to couple. For my wife, anything unexpected goes a long way.Ironandwine69 wrote: »
Sorry, did you say something? I got distracted.0 -
I gave this advice to a guy that was getting back together with a wife that cheated on him:
Trust
You must trust her. If you don't, it will push her away.
Trust your instincts.
They have already served you and the more you lean on them the sharper they become.
Be the man she needs you to be.
Candidly I'm as romantic as a cinder block, but
• I open the door to my wife as close to 100% of the time as possible
• I listen (even though sometimes I could care less what she's talking about and she knows it and appreciates it)
• I hold her hand in public
• I don't care where she goes or who she hangs out with, I just want to know she made it to her destination safely
• If I'm up and she has dirty dishes, I take them with me
• If she's not feeling well, I go out of my way to make sure she is comfortable.
• I treat her family with love, kindness and respect
• At least one day on the weekend I take the 4 legged children and let her sleep in
• We have things we do together that we enjoy, like little mom and pop restaurants, biker rallies etc.
• I show respect for our marriage - I have female friends and on occasion have lunch with them. I will do lunch and coffee, not dinner or drinks (alcoholic). I also tell her when I do and any interesting tidbits during the lunchtime/coffee conversations.
• I do not hide my phone or social media from her.
In short I make myself irreplaceable to her. If she is ever faced with temptation I want her to think to herself "I am not going to find someone as good as my husband".
This approach has served me well in these past 25+ years.
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