My friend will never show up to anything to

Workout4Health
Workout4Health Posts: 447 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
But he wants to see me. He always invites me to see him one on one. I asked him his work schedule and I invited him to get togethers around his schedule so that he can’t use his work as an excuse.

He either gets sick or too tired or has to help his mom. He’s gotten sick quite a few times. So I felt disrespected and anytime he invited me to his house one on one I tell him I’m busy.

So I tell him he never will show up and he says I never see him one on one. I noticed this is his pattern. And I can’t figure out why he seems to only want to see me one on one but won’t admit it.

I feel like that’s not fair.
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  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.
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  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend
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  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend

    He's into more taller guys like 6 ft 3.

    Now wonder you two are friends...
    Does he want those guys to wear heels too?
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  • sw33tp3a1
    sw33tp3a1 Posts: 5,065 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    Wow you guys remember everything

    Yes. Yes we do :smirk:
  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend

    He's into more taller guys like 6 ft 3.

    Now wonder you two are friends...
    Does he want those guys to wear heels too?


    No why would he want guys to wear heels?

    By the way your profile pic is very cute. Do you wanna be friends?

    Some guys like wearing heels. And it was a joke back to when you said you'd want girls to be taller.

    No thanks, I think I'll be too short for you.
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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    But he wants to see me. He always invites me to see him one on one. I asked him his work schedule and I invited him to get togethers around his schedule so that he can’t use his work as an excuse.

    He either gets sick or too tired or has to help his mom. He’s gotten sick quite a few times. So I felt disrespected and anytime he invited me to his house one on one I tell him I’m busy.

    So I tell him he never will show up and he says I never see him one on one. I noticed this is his pattern. And I can’t figure out why he seems to only want to see me one on one but won’t admit it.

    I feel like that’s not fair.

    Social anxiety, intoversion or just not liking your other friends could all be reasons he doesn't want to get together with a crowd.
    Either do things with him one on one or stop being friends.
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend

    He's into more taller guys like 6 ft 3.

    Shame... another person that doesn’t like you for being too short.
  • mybfisred
    mybfisred Posts: 1,388 Member
    edited December 2017
    Ha oops nvm
  • elizarizo
    elizarizo Posts: 470 Member
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    But he wants to see me. He always invites me to see him one on one. I asked him his work schedule and I invited him to get togethers around his schedule so that he can’t use his work as an excuse.

    He either gets sick or too tired or has to help his mom. He’s gotten sick quite a few times. So I felt disrespected and anytime he invited me to his house one on one I tell him I’m busy.

    So I tell him he never will show up and he says I never see him one on one. I noticed this is his pattern. And I can’t figure out why he seems to only want to see me one on one but won’t admit it.

    I feel like that’s not fair.

    Social anxiety, intoversion or just not liking your other friends could all be reasons he doesn't want to get together with a crowd.
    Either do things with him one on one or stop being friends.

    Me
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,510 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    But he wants to see me. He always invites me to see him one on one. I asked him his work schedule and I invited him to get togethers around his schedule so that he can’t use his work as an excuse.

    He either gets sick or too tired or has to help his mom. He’s gotten sick quite a few times. So I felt disrespected and anytime he invited me to his house one on one I tell him I’m busy.

    So I tell him he never will show up and he says I never see him one on one. I noticed this is his pattern. And I can’t figure out why he seems to only want to see me one on one but won’t admit it.

    I feel like that’s not fair.

    How Long Have You Lived In Texas ??
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  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend

    He's into more taller guys like 6 ft 3.

    Now wonder you two are friends...
    Does he want those guys to wear heels too?


    No why would he want guys to wear heels?

    By the way your profile pic is very cute. Do you wanna be friends?

    Some guys like wearing heels. And it was a joke back to when you said you'd want girls to be taller.

    No thanks, I think I'll be too short for you.


    Maybe short but I find you interesting

    Well can't say I say the same for you


    Not sure I believe you.

    Believe me when I say that I am not interested in someone who judges women purely on their height, thinks they can find love in a strip club just because some rapper goes to strip clubs, complains when people don't like their status - even though people get busy - and goes to pull people up about it.

    Also, your buddy probably has social anxiety or doesn't like any of your other friends.
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  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    amyteacake wrote: »
    He might like you or doesn't feel comfortable around other people. The best thing to do is talk to him about it instead of just avoiding him.


    Oh believe me I've talked to him about it. And he gets flustered. He says I can just see him one one one after I'm done. I doubt he likes me like that. He is gay though.

    You doubt it, but he's gay and he's gets flustered when you talk about it...buddy I think your pal likes you more than a friend

    He's into more taller guys like 6 ft 3.

    Now wonder you two are friends...
    Does he want those guys to wear heels too?


    No why would he want guys to wear heels?

    By the way your profile pic is very cute. Do you wanna be friends?

    Some guys like wearing heels. And it was a joke back to when you said you'd want girls to be taller.

    No thanks, I think I'll be too short for you.


    Maybe short but I find you interesting

    Well can't say I say the same for you


    Not sure I believe you.

    Believe me when I say that I am not interested in someone who judges women purely on their height, thinks they can find love in a strip club just because some rapper goes to strip clubs, complains when people don't like their status - even though people get busy - and goes to pull people up about it.

    Also, your buddy probably has social anxiety or doesn't like any of your other friends.


    But you do respond to me. You must be a little interested in talking.

    I'm not.
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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    But he wants to see me. He always invites me to see him one on one. I asked him his work schedule and I invited him to get togethers around his schedule so that he can’t use his work as an excuse.

    He either gets sick or too tired or has to help his mom. He’s gotten sick quite a few times. So I felt disrespected and anytime he invited me to his house one on one I tell him I’m busy.

    So I tell him he never will show up and he says I never see him one on one. I noticed this is his pattern. And I can’t figure out why he seems to only want to see me one on one but won’t admit it.

    I feel like that’s not fair.

    Social anxiety, intoversion or just not liking your other friends could all be reasons he doesn't want to get together with a crowd.
    Either do things with him one on one or stop being friends.


    But I don't know why he won't just admit it. It's either that or he's just too lazy. Or a combination of both.

    You see, he always says he's working. But even when I asked him his work schedule and arranged a time when he said he was free, he always came up with another excuse. Sick, not feeling good, other plans, or has to help his mom.

    And so now he's at the point where he just flips it on me. If I ask him if he wants to come, he just says that I can come over after I'm done and see him one on one.

    I don't like the fact that he does this, so I do the same thing to him and tell him I can't see him one on one. And so he says then I can't complain because I am not willing to see him. So it's a stalemate. I tell him I have other friends too that always want to hang out, so how can he expect me to only see him? It's either if we can be more time efficient and he just comes out with all of us. He tells me it's not his fault I have time for my other friends, but no time for him. He just flips it on me.

    So, stop being friends if you don't enjoy going to hang out with him one on one. He has said clearly how he wants to be friends and it is not what you want. You just have to decide to continue the relationship or not with that in mind.
    Is this someone who has been your buddy since you were 3 years old or a more recent friendship asking you to accomadate their preferences?
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