Weight loss and dating

Just be yourself and it will workout in the end.

Just date and enjoy yourself.

No get started now if you feel emotionally ready. But if you do online dating (that seems to be the new normal) show honest and current pictures.

Women for the most part like going for walks and it's a great place to talk and visit. I like heavy guys and so do many of my friends so don't let your size stop you. Good luck!

I've had crushes and been attracted to guys of all body types, it really doesn't matter that much in the end.

honestly its refreshing to hear this coming from a man vs a woman. Its sad but nice to know they feel these things sometimes to, You dont hear about it as much.

Good people will help you move forward and achieve your goals, And goals are constantly evolving. If you wait until you achieve your goal, If your doing it right, Youll be waiting forever. Forever is a long time to go without the support of someone you could have found in the meantime.

That said i semi actively avoid dating, Guys on dating apps perv out to much its creepy >.< Maybe one day ill listen to my own advice goodluck!

edit: i agree, Confidence is sexy. You dont even sound that big. Unfortunatly our world means 20 pounds on a female can often times be a world changer, While on men its not even something to be thought of twice.

Is there someone you're interested in asking out? I think if you have a connection with someone it would be silly to wait, and if you don't it would be pointless to try to force it. I vote for just trying to be your best self--be kind, be interesting, be active and pay attention--and being open to good things along the way.

When I first started this journey I was casually seeing someone and it became an issue because he constantly wanted to go out to eat! That seemed to be the only thing we ever really did. I was trying so hard to stay on plan but would feel guilty if I didn't want to go out to eat or if I didn't eat enough. I know that is mostly on me, not him, but it made it difficult. When it eventually fizzled out, I admit to being okay with it all because it meant I could now just focus on me again. Decided to not actively look for anything new until I'm closer to being where I want to be weight wise.

For years I've been going to work then coming home, I don't even know where to go to meet females and if I'm around any I'm so intimidated I try to make an exit as fast as possible. I think I look like crap and have nothing interesting about me and despite years of trying I can't break the cycle nothing seems to be improving. In fact I don't even think getting in shape is helping at all! Other than improving my physical health. The good news however is I know people who aren't in great shape and also have terrible personalities who are always dating. For the rest of the world it seems fairly natural and simple. I think I must have been a bad person in another life!

I think you should go for it!! There is nothing wrong with trying to better yourself in the process but I dont think you should wait for the weight to come off. I fell in love with my husband when he was 220lbs (hes also shorter than you!) I still loved him at 270lbs and I feel less fond of him at 198lbs because I dont think hes a good guy. The point it....just dont be a dick. Most women would much rather prefer an awesome and kind guy with a few extra pounds over a guy with a great body that treats her poorly.

Don't sell yourself short!

I agree that men think that women care a lot more about looks then we actually do. They stereotypical look, "tall, muscular, good hair, chiseled jaw etc" isn't always what people have to have.

I'm dating someone who people never thought I'd date, because we appear totally different. He's 7 years older, shorter than me, overweight, hates working out.... oh, and he was my boss. But, I found out he has this great personality that I love and he pulls me out of my comfort zone to experience new things. So, it works.