Ladies - would YOU tell a fellow female if her leggings were see-through?
deluxmary2000
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I swear I’m not a creeper, but I noticed a girl in the gym the other day whose leggings definitely were NOT squat-proof if you know what I mean. I was going to say something to her but chickened out.... but if it were me I think I would want to know. Thoughts?
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I have. Twice. I didn't know either one of them, but both said it's okay and basically that's what they wanted so...8
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Yes absolutely and I have!0
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I'd say something, as I hope they would do for me. I also let them know when their g-string (Thong) is sticking up over their pants
I think that looks even worse than see through leggings!! 1 -
I would hope someone would tell me!0
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I would want to know0
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if she was my friend yeah, if it was a stranger no. How i see it in the gym, not really much that anyone does or wears is flattering so see through squat pants isn't that big of a deal. I can't go running around telling anyone whose clothes aren't working for them. I'd have to tell EVERYONE. So no.13
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i might, depending on Stuff. but i also realised that if i was goign to say something i'd wait until i saw her preparing to leave. why ruin anyone's workout with information they can't act on until the next time they come in anyway?
idk. i guess i'm abnormally hardy about stuff like that. getting to see someone else's undies, or more like just evidence that they're wearing them . . . it doesn't seem like the end of the world to me. it's not ideal but people are not their underwear, so i don't really get it, i guess. last time i thought someones underpants in themselves were worthy of squee must have been back in third grade. ever since then i've been sort of 'okay . . . you can't see my actual goodies though, right?' to me it's like conflating the clothing item with the body part they're designed to cover.
like i said, i may be odd.
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I personally didn’t think it was a huge deal at all - I could see a leopard thong under her black tights when she squatted. I wasn’t offended or grossed out at all, but I just thought she might want to KNOW. I would definitely want to. But then I thought I might come across as creepy, like I was staring at her butt.1
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Not unless she asked.1
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Fellow female? No. Fellow friend? yes.
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I think about it sometimes, but I always come back to “If it were me I’d want everyone to just not care.” It’s a common and relatable problem with leggings, no one is seeing more than they might at the beach, and Christ, do we not have enough things to feel insecure about at the gym already?
Pay no attention. Don’t care. Don’t tell her to care. Just do your workout.9 -
Probably not. I do want to provide advice about underwear choices though as I don't understand wanting to wear lacy numbers when working out as surely that would itch/chafe - but that is my issue not theirs.1
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With females unsolicited advice like that just comes off bitchy, even with the best intentions. For all you know she did it on purpose. I say keep your mouth shut and just go about your day.
Pretty much the only time it is ok to comment on a stranger's appearance is when they have something coming out of an orifice. (Booger/blood/you get the idea)6 -
Actually I was working out with my girlfriend the other day and I saw her thong a little. It's only when we get into certain positions. I bet mine does sometimes too. Don't care.2
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MistressSara wrote: »
I don't know about this. I just know mine generally does not show but if it shows for 5 seconds I do not give a *kitten* and no one is looking. I will not walk around with straight up see through leggings on though.2 -
I would want to tell her, but wouldn't. People can be so utterly ticklish about any person giving them any sort of news that might disturb them that I just keep my yap closed. If I know them, I would tell them at the end of the day (or session) that I could see thru their pants. If she wore them again, she probably is OK with that so no more telling.
Side note: I once told a woman that while she was in the restroom (in a restaurant) that the men she was with were conspiring how to manipulate her into getting raped by the two of them. She barked: "mind your own business hayseed". It just goes to show, there is virtually nothing said to another that will not tick them off.7 -
deluxmary2000 wrote: »I swear I’m not a creeper, but I noticed a girl in the gym the other day whose leggings definitely were NOT squat-proof if you know what I mean. I was going to say something to her but chickened out.... but if it were me I think I would want to know. Thoughts?
I would not go up to a stranger and tell them their clothing was see through. That implies a judgement of what clothing should be like or what is acceptable to wear at the gym. It is a clothing police sort of move. I'm not stranger's clothing police nor do I want others telling me that kind of thing.
Now if someone had toilet paper stuck to them or their skirt flipped up in back where it is an easy fix I'd let them know.
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How bout you compliment her on her underwear? That way she'll know you can see them, and can do something about it if she wants.6
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MistressSara wrote: »canadianlbs wrote: »i might, depending on Stuff. but i also realised that if i was goign to say something i'd wait until i saw her preparing to leave. why ruin anyone's workout with information they can't act on until the next time they come in anyway?
idk. i guess i'm abnormally hardy about stuff like that. getting to see someone else's undies, or more like just evidence that they're wearing them . . . it doesn't seem like the end of the world to me. it's not ideal but people are not their underwear, so i don't really get it, i guess. last time i thought someones underpants in themselves were worthy of squee must have been back in third grade. ever since then i've been sort of 'okay . . . you can't see my actual goodies though, right?' to me it's like conflating the clothing item with the body part they're designed to cover.
like i said, i may be odd.
Aha! Now we get back to the vpl conversation. What if they're not wearing any panties and you CAN see their- uh - goodies?
seeing knickers is not really a big deal at all, I dont however understand not wearing any, id rather have a vpl or able to see my black granny pants through my leggings than make sure my leggings are not see through so its ok to not wear knickers2 -
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Sure, but I'd find a way to do it in a way that made it clear that I'm being friendly and not at all judgmental- maybe she knows and doesn't care or intended it. I'd appreciate if someone did the same for me, because while I'm normally pretty good and only wearing my fully opaque leggings out and about, it's only a matter of time until I grab the wrong black ones or something.1
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I wish someone had told me the other day...5
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Nope. I get nipply when I run and sweat and I wouldn’t appreciate strangers coming up to tell me something I don’t give a %*#^ about.7
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Nope. I get nipply when I run and sweat and I wouldn’t appreciate strangers coming up to tell me something I don’t give a %*#^ about.
well, nipples are up front. so to speak
so i wouldn't appreciate it either since there's far less room to interpret that as the person honestly thinking it's something that i don't already know. leggings do leave room for that whole fret about whether or not that individual woman might want to be told.
problem is, you can't tell when its' a total stranger. and you can't tell whether they'd interpret it as 'you SHOULD care' where previously they had felt fine about it. so i'd err on the side of caution. i mean, i've seen men benching in shorts that left nothing except skin colour to the imagination, but it wouldn't cross my mind to say anything to them about it.2 -
MistressSara wrote: »canadianlbs wrote: »i might, depending on Stuff. but i also realised that if i was goign to say something i'd wait until i saw her preparing to leave. why ruin anyone's workout with information they can't act on until the next time they come in anyway?
idk. i guess i'm abnormally hardy about stuff like that. getting to see someone else's undies, or more like just evidence that they're wearing them . . . it doesn't seem like the end of the world to me. it's not ideal but people are not their underwear, so i don't really get it, i guess. last time i thought someones underpants in themselves were worthy of squee must have been back in third grade. ever since then i've been sort of 'okay . . . you can't see my actual goodies though, right?' to me it's like conflating the clothing item with the body part they're designed to cover.
like i said, i may be odd.
Aha! Now we get back to the vpl conversation. What if they're not wearing any panties and you CAN see their- uh - goodies?
If you could actually see her goodies, I'd probably say something to the staff and let them address it with her if they determined the level of visibility to be inappropriate.6 -
So a quick count shows about 11 voting “yes”, and 12 voting “no”.... that really clears things up6
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I agree with telling the staff and have them deal with it. I would not say anything to the woman. If it's just showing underwear no big deal but if it's see through and actually can see her privates that borders on obscenity and that's management's problem.2
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