Going round in circles :(

Miss_Spooky · January 2018

Hi everyone. So...im stuck in what my gp calls a vicious circle when it comes to trying to lose weight. Im at a dangerous weight, it needs to come off but i lose motivation so fast due to my mental health issues. I honestly have no nice clothes that fit me anymore due to excessive gains and its making me feel worse than ever. Has anyone else felt this way? Any advice for me? Id really appreciate any tips.
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MichelleSilverleaf · January 2018

It wouldn't hurt to get recommended to a psychiatrist or someone with some expertise in mental health, they'd be in a good position to help you work through the whys. For me I found that when I was eating good it made it a lot easier to deal with my anxiety and depression. And I was doing, however small or big, something that was good for me, and that made me feel good. And I wanted to keep feeling that good, so I kept trying at it. It's not always easy, today I had to force myself to eat because it had been particularly rough anxiety-wise and got to a point where I didn't care, but pushing myself now means I don't beat myself up later. Do what you can when you can. Even a small effort is better than nothing.

kommodevaran · January 2018

Don't rely on motivation. Don't try to lose weight. Weightloss happens when you consistently, for real, and for a long time, eat less and/or move more, and that is something you have to do. But it's also something you can do, and you can do it any way you prefer. If you hate the gym, maybe you like to swim. If you're afraid of water, maybe you like to walk. If you think walking just to walk is boring, do more errands on foot. If you hate vegetables, don't force down green smoothies. If you don't like the idea of calories, eat three meals oper day and nothing inbetween meals. If you think you'll miss ice cream/cookies/whatever, eat a serving once per week.

Weightloss doesn't have to be torture. In fact, if you want to succeed, you can't torture yourself. Effective weightloss is about applying the right amount of pressure at the right spot at the right time, and continue doing so.

wefts · January 2018

do you really want this ? I ask because I spent years loosing a couple lbs then gaining it back plus extra last may I finally had enough of how I looked and felt . found this site and started logging . once I realized how over sized my portions were and cut back portions added fiber and made getting healthy a priority the weight started coming off. BUT You have to really be ready . you have to make keeping yourself stocked and fed with healthy low calorie high fiber foods a priority . this is not hard if you prepare yourself with healthy low cal foods that you like the taste of . if you do not properly stock the pantry you will have a hard time fighting cravings . the easiest way to prevent binge eating is to eat enough fiber that your never dealing with a starving tummy . I have 1-2 fiber drinks a day along with lots of vegetable rich soups and raw and cooked vegetables so there is always something I can have that will satisfy me with out being a poor food choice . I am now down 39.5 lbs and I am more than half way to my goal .
You can do this if you are ready .

vivalavida82 · January 2018

I found the best way to get me started, is to take one action that gets me started and makes feel better. Then it’s a snowball effect, and I want to do more to feel even better.
I started by doing 30 minutes of gentle yoga (yoga with Adrienne in YouTube) every day and drinking more water. That made me feel so good in my body I wanted to do more to feel even better. It gave me the motivation to start counting calories. So I did yoga and counted calories for a week. And that made me feel great, so it motivated me to restrict calories.

Adding one step at a time, of the action you find least overwhelming and makes you feel good could be a good idea.

I also agree with previous poster, you have to find the healthy foods and exercises that make you happy, otherwise you won’t be able to stick with it.

Hope this helps.

dutchandkiwi · January 2018

When you try to lose weight and you loose motivation how do you start the weightloss journey?
If it is a case of a total overhaul and changing everything around that may be one of the reasons why it gets hard pretty darn quickly?
Has there been an approach you havent't tried yet? The small babysteps without denying yourself those things in life you do enjoy? For instance start by simply logging without judgement. Be kind just learn. Make a small change that you can oversee. For instance If I can make it a week without any sweets I am allowed something special that you really like that is not food (for me that would be a facial, or a bunch of flowers something like that.
Join a healthy cooking class and contact them ahead of time so they know what your goals are.
Pick up a hobby that is soothing and keeps the hands busy (I took up kitting, sewing and embroidery)
Give yourself time, the weight did not all at once cling to you. It took years to develop and build potentially not-healthy habits, why expect to change it back quickly? I allowed myself 3 years to get rid of most of my weight. Got to my base goal (Healthy BMI) after 2,5, but my new goal (BMI 22) took 3,5 years.

These are some ideas that helped me to get started.

callsitlikeiseeit · January 2018

losing weight was a side effect of me (mostly) just wanting to be HEALTHIER. my HEALTH was my motivation. I didnt want to develop diabetes or high cholesterol or blood pressure (its likely I Was already there, but I Dont know. NOW, i know for a fact all my me, aside from a few more pounds, is textbook perfect). I incorporated change slowly. Taking a walk a few days a week. Being more mindful of what, and how much, I ate. small changes, that i stuck to, that over the past 4 years, resulted in a 100+ pound loss.

CrabbyPotato · January 2018

All the things everyone said. Find some clothes that fit NOW that you like/love that are you and your personality!!! Be you! When and if your ready for the rest it will happen so please be patient and kind with yourself

scarlett_k · January 2018

Life is too short to be wearing clothes that don't fit. I finally bought some clothes in my largest size and promised myself I wouldn't be wearing them for long anyway. Do yourself a favour and get some cheap clothes to wear that fit you now and work towards no longer needing them.

MegaMooseEsq · January 2018

I had a very difficult time losing weight until I got my anxiety under control. It’s easy to want to fix everything in your life all at once, but that’s also a great recipe for becoming overwhelmed and giving up on everything. Pick a goal and focus on that for a while. As others have mentioned, small successes can snowball into big change if you give it time. You can do this!

vespiquenn · January 2018

Don’t think of it as losing weight right now. Your mental health should be top priority, because you can’t expect to get anything done until you are at a point that depression doesn’t dictate your daily activities. In case you aren’t already, I would first advocate that you talk to a professional in mental health. Not just a generic doctor.

With that being said, think of how you can improve this piece first. Grab a friend and go out for a short walk, walk a dog or ask to walk someone else’s, hell, I even resorted to pacing in my apartment just to get some exercise when I first started. Getting up and moving will naturally produce endorphins. It won’t fix things, but it can help improve the situation.

Then start thinking about your diet once you’ve reached a level that you are able to adhere to small changes. Don’t go all in immediately. Start by possibly just logging without changing a thing to give yourself a baseline. Then start looking how you can reduce in certain areas. Three servings of chips? Try to reduce it to two and so on.

As a bipolar sufferer myself, I know how weight loss can be the last thing on your mind when even the simple daily tasks like taking a shower or brushing your teeth feel overwhelming. Just start small and focus on your mental health, and the rest can fall into place.

Going round in circles :(

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