Have you ever been made fun of because of your weight?

carlxo21
carlxo21 Posts: 143 Member
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
I gained about 30 lbs these past couple years due to my anxiety medication. I switched meds but the weight stayed on.
I have lost 5 of it and am staying in track.
But my family and parents still make me feel bad about it. They constantly criticize my body and weight. They say things like "Well if you keep eating like you do and never get off the couch what do you think is going to happen?"
I don't eat poorly at all and I work out 6 days a week. They always just make me feel like crap about myself.

Have you ever been put down because of your extra pounds?
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  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    Yep. I was smaller when I went to visit my grandma this year than I was last year (though heavier) and she constantly made jokes about the way I ate - even though I ate pretty well considering what she had to offer me, food-wise.

    The first time I was called fat, I was 9 years old and it was from my oldest brother. Thanks, bro. :sad:
  • omg your not even fat. You just look average. That's really mean. Maybe they're annoyed with something in their own lives that makes them extra irritable.
  • carlxo21
    carlxo21 Posts: 143 Member
    My mom is almost 200 lbs, she never eats right or works out. I think she may envy my healthy lifestyle so she's always talking about fat people and how gross they are. I think she's just angry with herself.
  • velvetkat
    velvetkat Posts: 454 Member
    I went to a new school in 4th and 5th grade and I wasnt really bad overweight but I was bigger than most kids as I was tall too.. Go figure cuz after that i never got any taller and I am 5'3. The kids called me Moose... I have never forgotten that and no one will ever know how much it affected me growing up.


    People dont realize what they say... just ignore them and keep up what you are doing!!

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  • yeahfatty
    yeahfatty Posts: 228 Member
    oh sure .. back in school .. but if anything .. it taught me to spot people's weaknesses very quickly .. really comes in handy now .. in a non-mean way lol!
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
    OH yeah, I have. Usually happens if I'm winning an argument w/ someone and they have to resort to ad hominem attacks. Lame.
  • Seasidedebbie
    Seasidedebbie Posts: 85 Member
    Oh yeah - all my life. People just do not get it. I know I am fat I do not need to be told I am.
  • Trixtabella
    Trixtabella Posts: 471 Member
    I was always picked on at school because of it, even in the street a few months back someone walked up to me and right in my face when I was on the phone said very loudly to her friend 'ewwwwww are my thighs as fat as hers'
  • bopefas
    bopefas Posts: 32 Member
    Oh, of course.Now that I've lost 15 lb's and have a flatter stomach,nobody talks about me anymore.I LOVE IT!
  • pbeans
    pbeans Posts: 42
    Yes. I have been asked numerous times if I am pregnant over the past years. I have been called "wide load" before. I also get comments from people about what I'm eating. I made the mistake of telling a group of friends that I wanted to diet so every morsel they see me eat is questioned. I'm often asked now what I'm eating. That I blame myself for since I made it a deal that I was dieting. The other day while I was wearing pink a woman told me I looked like a fat bottle of pepto bismol. So, yes...I know exactly how you feel.
  • lindsey_mickeyd
    lindsey_mickeyd Posts: 101 Member
    I used to be a sales representative for a company here in my town and one day I was out doing a demonstration and the lady asked me, "So when are you due?" I KNEW what she was referring to, but I played dumb and said, "Due for what?" And she goes, "You know! Your baby! When's your baby due?" And I smiled and hesitated and I said slowly, "I'm...not pregnant..." And you know what she had the NERVE to say? "Really???" OMG LADY NO! I'M LYING TO YOU. >.< Oh! And then what made it even worse, after the demonstration was over (she wound up buying something lol) she says to me, "I'm sorry about my comment earlier, but you gotta admit, you really do look like you're pregnant." Gee...thank you lady...you try to apologize, but then you make it worse by trying to get me to admit I look like a fat pregnant cow. Thank you. Apology NOT accepted.
  • bklyngirl71
    bklyngirl71 Posts: 381 Member
    i think in some form we all were made fun of. you would think that u could count on your family for support. don't they know that you're working hard at losing weight
  • Fighting4Healthy
    Fighting4Healthy Posts: 336 Member
    Yep, my mom's side of the family does, all of the women are a size 6 to 0 except me, I am a size 18. They always tell me at family functions that I do not need to eat certain things and that I will lose weight more if a stand rather than sit, so there is never an extra chair for me. They pick a me if I get an extra helping of something and tell me I'd be pretty if I lost more weight. Yeah it sucks, but I have learned that it is the way they are and they will never change, so I avoid them
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    My mom is almost 200 lbs, she never eats right or works out. I think she may envy my healthy lifestyle so she's always talking about fat people and how gross they are. I think she's just angry with herself.

    This sounds correct as the source of her issue with you.

    I end up saying this same thing over and over to people, but it's true. Many people in your life will not realize that they don't like the changes you're making. They like you better when you're weak and accepting of their random down-turned comments. They like you better lazy because they can be lazy and not feel guilty for it. Please don't let these people discourage you. I know it's especially difficult when it's your mother.

    The other thing I tell people is that you have to work out the inside of yourself as well. Something to practice and remember is that no one can *make* you feel anything. You have control of your emotions. Find a way to master that during one of your "inside" workouts.
  • Trixtabella
    Trixtabella Posts: 471 Member
    Also my Mum used to tell me all the time you would look beautiful if you just lost all that weight.
  • Twasney
    Twasney Posts: 186 Member
    I gained most of my weight when I was older, and I have heard some snide comments...the one that really hurt me was just this last weekend. I was at the lake with a bunch of my girls and I am the smallest of the bunch....and I have been feelings so awesome about myself and my progress that I was actually wearing my bathing suit sans coverup!!!!

    then these snotty little **** boys walked by and said "oh should we get out the harpoons?"

    talk about taking the wind out of your sails!
  • lindsey_mickeyd
    lindsey_mickeyd Posts: 101 Member
    My mom is almost 200 lbs, she never eats right or works out. I think she may envy my healthy lifestyle so she's always talking about fat people and how gross they are. I think she's just angry with herself.

    This sounds correct as the source of her issue with you.

    I end up saying this same thing over and over to people, but it's true. Many people in your life will not realize that they don't like the changes you're making. They like you better when you're weak and accepting of their random down-turned comments. They like you better lazy because they can be lazy and not feel guilty for it. Please don't let these people discourage you. I know it's especially difficult when it's your mother.

    The other thing I tell people is that you have to work out the inside of yourself as well. Something to practice and remember is that no one can *make* you feel anything. You have control of your emotions. Find a way to master that during one of your "inside" workouts.

    I can vouch for this too. Just the other day one of my obese friends told me, "You know it's ok to stay the way you are right?" And I know she was just trying to be helpful, but it really made me feel like she was just telling me that so I'd be like, "You know what? You're right. It is ok to stay fat." Therefore supporting her own fatness.

    People who have issues with themselves don't like it when others with the same issues figure out a way to fix them. It's much easier just to go on with life making excuses than to get up and do something about it.
  • Well said sunkisses.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Yes.....when I weighed 120 lbs, I was called fat.

    If other people tease you for your weight, it's due to their own inadequacies, and has nothing whatsoever to do with your weight.
  • Alexandria1213
    Alexandria1213 Posts: 152 Member
    This last 4th of July I took my little brother to the Splash [a 4th July fair] and I had bought him a ice cream and he couldn't open the wrapper so I opened it for him using my teeth. There were these two girls behind us who had made a remark about me.
    One said "Do you see how she ripped open that wrapper?"
    And the other said
    "Yeah, but do you see how fat she is? She has to get her ice cream fast."
    I am about 35 lbs - 40 lbs over weight but jeez.
  • People never tell me to my face but in HS I heard some girls talking about me and how in the hell my current bf could be with me because I was "fat" and he could do much better. :(
    Also, my best friend took me to a halloween store to look for a costume last year and I couldn't fit into any of the extra large costumes and we just left because I was upset that the fitting room girl kept giving me that "you can't fit into that!" stares.
    :( It's so horrible. Even as a kid, girls wouldn't play with me because i wasn't pretty..hence the self esteem issues i have grown up with.

    But I am learning that some people are better to avoid and to ignore their comments. It's hard though sometimes! Hurtful comments have a way of sticking to you even when you know that they are just words.
  • Bakins929
    Bakins929 Posts: 895 Member
    Yea, when I was a fat kid and wore "husky" jeans. Some kids at school would make fun of me because of it. Sure, they may have been fit for 10 year olds; but flash forward 30+ years and I see the same people on facebook, and they are way more obese than I have ever been. One guy I recall very specifically is now 400+ lbs, type 2 diabetes, and working on his 3rd bypass. He loves his hoveround because he can barely walk now. I know it shouldn't, but somewhere deep inside, that makes me... not happy, but maybe satisfied to see the karmic wheel turn.
  • Constantly for what seems to be my whole life. When you're overweight, that's the insult that people come up with first, "fat." They say words don't hurt but they do. I wish they would be a little creative, at least. I can change my weight, they, however, cannot change their stupidity.
  • I was always SLIGHTLY overweight and I went to the same school from k-8th grade and I got called fat by the same ignorant kids for 7 years since I was in 2nd grade. I was 8 and being called fat! Yes, I was a bit overweight. I think it was because I hadn't hit my growth spurt yet and didn't excersise much because of my asthma.
  • trini14
    trini14 Posts: 110 Member
    I was always picked on at school because of it, even in the street a few months back someone walked up to me and right in my face when I was on the phone said very loudly to her friend 'ewwwwww are my thighs as fat as hers'

    That is so rude!!!! I'm not a violent person, but I'd have to hurt somebody. I don't understand while people have to be so. I'm so sorry you experienced that.
  • suzyluzy
    suzyluzy Posts: 78
    In elementary school, I was a muscley kid because of the programs I was on. I developed earlier. I was always made fun of. Yes I was bigger than most kids, but I look back--I was NOT fat at all!

    But as time went on, I gained quite a bit of weight. And I get comments on my legs because they are large--I always have to find pants to fit my legs, then tailor in the waist! But hey--I love myself. Their comments don't matter. :)
  • I've been made fun of because of my weight. My dad always called me fat and stupid and my mom was just disapproving. And that was when I was in elementary school. I was kind of chubby, but not to where it was a health concern. I didn't get out to exercise much because I was afraid of being in public and afraid of people. It stemmed from my parents' comments about my appearance, and I felt like everyone who saw me, judged me. I know now that I'm never going to do that to my child because I will always remember how that made me feel, like I wasn't worthy of being their child, and they were ashamed of me.

    One (thankfully) failed suicide attempt and a loving best friend later, I feel much better about myself. I still have times of insecurity, but everyone should know that no matter how crappy things may seem, they will always get better. :smile:
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
    The only person that has ever made fun of me for my weight is my mother...her favorite nickname for me as a teen was thunder thighs :\
  • dkb228
    dkb228 Posts: 73 Member
    I got made fun of periodically when I was in school. But it was never bad. I think mostly because even though I was overweight, I've always been very active and confident. I played basketball, sang in chorus, was in the orchestra, drama, and most years I was the smartest and funniest girl in my class. So what did I care if someone thought I could lose a few pounds? I also have a very loving and supportive family. For those of you who don't - that really sucks and you are so awesome and courageous for taking steps to make yourself better and happier despite their negativity.
  • You know I have, and other times it feels like they want to say something about it or they say it under there breathe and they think you can't hear what they are saying. (people can be really rude when it comes to peoples weight ). For a side note if you are happy with how you look then it does not matter what others think, but that does not change that when they are rude it really does hurt your feelings.
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