So tired of the underhanded jabs.

BissiH
BissiH Posts: 19 Member
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I've heard for the last time 'You used to be so fit.' I'm committed to changing my lifestyle and leading a healthy life. For my sake, and my son's.
Finally admitting that I've put on 70 pounds in the last 4 years was hard. I've been lucky enough to form a support group with my work family. Would love to have support here as well.
I'm super excited about this journey!
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  • Packerjohn
    Packerjohn Posts: 4,855 Member
    Best of luck, kick *kitten* and take names. Your son is learning how to live his life watching you.
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    Thank you!
  • neldabg
    neldabg Posts: 1,452 Member
    How rude! I'm not surprised that people will say such things, but it never fails to disgust me every time. Best wishes as you work off those 70 lbs!
  • briscogun
    briscogun Posts: 1,138 Member
    Yeah, people suck! ;)

    Do it for you, but if you can use some of that anger to help motivate you then go for it. When you get to your super fit self, just flaunt it at them and make THEM frustrated!
  • dsboohead
    dsboohead Posts: 1,899 Member
    All I can say is people are *kitten*!
    We all go thru stages in our lives....you are now working on a new stage.
    Confront when someone makes a lousy comment. Just let them know they are rude and need to say nothing to you if they can't be nice!
  • theabsentmindednurse
    theabsentmindednurse Posts: 404 Member
    This journey is so much more than weight loss.
    It is one of courage, strength and growth.
    You are going to find, you will find your voice.
    Stand up. Express your opinion.

    Trust the process. Take it a step at a time. A day at a time. You CAN do this. :):D
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    neldabg wrote: »
    How rude! I'm not surprised that people will say such things, but it never fails to disgust me every time. Best wishes as you work off those 70 lbs!

    People can be the worst sometimes. Thank you for the kind words!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    brian_gunther wrote: »
    Yeah, people suck! ;)

    Do it for you, but if you can use some of that anger to help motivate you then go for it. When you get to your super fit self, just flaunt it at them and make THEM frustrated!

    Agree 100%!!!!!! Thank you!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    dsboohead wrote: »
    All I can say is people are *kitten*!
    We all go thru stages in our lives....you are now working on a new stage.
    Confront when someone makes a lousy comment. Just let them know they are rude and need to say nothing to you if they can't be nice!

    Absolutely, I teach my son manners looks like I need to teach these *kitten* some manners too.
    Thank you!!!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    theabsentmindednurse wrote: »
    This journey is so much more than weight loss.
    It is one of courage, strength and growth.
    You are going to find, you will find your voice.
    Stand up. Express your opinion.

    Trust the process. Take it a step at a time. A day at a time. You CAN do this. :):D

    Thank you so much! And I agree, this journey is about overcoming all the obstacles I've been faced with the last few years or so.
  • michellecbrown1976
    michellecbrown1976 Posts: 9 Member
    I have lost like 27lbs and someone I had not seen in a while said " I did not recognize you, you look so beautiful." Ummm WTF
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Ugh. Humans.

    Anyhow, glad you're making a positive change for yourself! You got this!
  • michellecbrown1976
    michellecbrown1976 Posts: 9 Member
    Thank you. I was warned that weird compliments would come with the journey.lol It's fine. Congratulations on your journey as well. We are awesome!
  • Mslmesq
    Mslmesq Posts: 1,000 Member
    Oh man. Hugs! Having a child is life chamging. And stressful!!!! Go easy on yourself. And congratulations on your resolve and journey. Good luck.
  • YogiJear
    YogiJear Posts: 118 Member
    They're going to feel pretty silly when you get into the best shape of your life after this journey! Not "if", but "when"! :) And when you do, promise me you'll show them some class and be graceful about it :D
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    michellecbrown1976 wrote: »
    I have lost like 27lbs and someone I had not seen in a while said " I did not recognize you, you look so beautiful." Ummm WTF

    Such a veiled insult! I don't understand why people feel the need to put another person down just to build themselves up. Every time I hear someone say 'I'm just honest' I want to say 'No, you're just an *kitten*'.
    Great work by the way. Keep doing you!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    jennifer_417 wrote: »
    Ugh. Humans.

    Anyhow, glad you're making a positive change for yourself! You got this!

    I know, right?! Thank you!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    Mslmesq wrote: »
    Oh man. Hugs! Having a child is life chamging. And stressful!!!! Go easy on yourself. And congratulations on your resolve and journey. Good luck.

    Thank you!!!!!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    manwithmustache wrote: »
    They're going to feel pretty silly when you get into the best shape of your life after this journey! Not "if", but "when"! :) And when you do, promise me you'll show them some class and be graceful about it :D

    I like your attitude!!! Lol! And yes, I always try to think before I react. Doesn't always happen but in this case, yes, I'll have them eating crow as I watch from a distance. In grace and class!
  • 911Doughboy
    911Doughboy Posts: 80 Member
    use their comments as motivation to prove them wrong
  • ladyhusker39
    ladyhusker39 Posts: 1,406 Member
    brian_gunther wrote: »
    Yeah, people suck! ;)

    Do it for you, but if you can use some of that anger to help motivate you then go for it. When you get to your super fit self, just flaunt it at them and make THEM frustrated!

    Anger and vengeance are never the path to a happy life whether you lose weight or not.
  • tyoung526
    tyoung526 Posts: 7 Member
    edited February 2018
    There will always be critics. Several people I work with have been rolling their eyes and making rude comments because I have worked hard to lose weight and be healthy and they are struggling. You can't please every one!!!!

    My weight has yo-yo'd most of my adult life. Maintaining a healthy life style is not easy. Just pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and start again. Tune out the nay sayers and the critics and do your thing...You've got this!!!!

  • psychod787
    psychod787 Posts: 4,099 Member
    Learn to stab back with a velvet glove, not an iron knife!
  • StevefromMichigan
    StevefromMichigan Posts: 462 Member
    BissiH wrote: »
    I've heard for the last time 'You used to be so fit.' I'm committed to changing my lifestyle and leading a healthy life. For my sake, and my son's.
    Finally admitting that I've put on 70 pounds in the last 4 years was hard. I've been lucky enough to form a support group with my work family. Would love to have support here as well.
    I'm super excited about this journey!

    Sounds like you are committed, and ready to get to work! Best of luck to you.
  • dsboohead
    dsboohead Posts: 1,899 Member
    psychod787 wrote: »
    Learn to stab back with a velvet glove, not an iron knife!

    Love this....its mine now!
  • Marilyn0924
    Marilyn0924 Posts: 797 Member
    I've struggled with my weight for the last 25 years, my parents and inlaws being my most vocal critics. Never understood why the people who are supposed to love you most are the most cruel.

    Anyway...I do my best, and have come to realize that what they have to say is irrelevant, and I've since told them that if they can't be supportive, then to keep their traps shut and keep the snide remarks to themselves.

    My husband is my biggest supporter, my kids, being a close second. They are who keep me grounded when I'm having that bad day.

    OP, I'm glad your work family are there for you! Support makes things so much easier!

    Have a wonderful day :)
  • deannalfisher
    deannalfisher Posts: 5,600 Member
    a quote I always keep in the back of my mind - no one can make you feel inferior without your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt

    I ignore people who are dicks because I won't let htem influence how I feel about myself and it has helped in the past
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    911Doughboy wrote: »
    use their comments as motivation to prove them wrong

    Absolutely!
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    edited February 2018
    Marilyn0924 wrote: »
    I've struggled with my weight for the last 25 years, my parents and inlaws being my most vocal critics. Never understood why the people who are supposed to love you most are the most cruel.

    Anyway...I do my best, and have come to realize that what they have to say is irrelevant, and I've since told them that if they can't be supportive, then to keep their traps shut and keep the snide remarks to themselves.

    My husband is my biggest supporter, my kids, being a close second. They are who keep me grounded when I'm having that bad day.

    OP, I'm glad your work family are there for you! Support makes things so much easier!

    Have a wonderful day :)

    They think they're being constructive and honest but people need to learn that unsolicited advice or criticism is more hurtful than helpful. If your opinion is asked, then yes, please be honest. Otherwise like you said, keep your traps shut!

    Here's to you! :)
  • BissiH
    BissiH Posts: 19 Member
    ladyhusker39 wrote: »
    brian_gunther wrote: »

    Anger and vengeance are never the path to a happy life whether you lose weight or not.

    Ladyhusker39:
    I kindly disagree. I don't think he's telling me to take the path of anger and vengeance. He's telling me to take my anger (frustration) with the veiled insults I've received and use it to my advantage. Use that as motivation to reach my goals and have the last internal laugh. Let's face it, appearance can be altered, but if they're ugly on the inside, what can you do to change that?
    Nothing.

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