When life makes weightloss hard

So many trials and health problems sabotaged my weightloss goals over the last year. I gained more weight than I like to admit because of them. However, these events have changed how I pursue my fitness goals. (In a good way) While going through these real life events, I struggled with low self esteem and feelings of failure. I wanted to lose weight. But I wasn't ready to give up certain food habits as they were comforting in light of these difficult events. I learned to have mercy towards myself and allow myself grace to deal with my trials. I let go of my body shaming and allowed myself to heal mentally from the events I was going through. My mental health became more important than my physical. I was not disregarding my physical health in the process. I remained aware and maintained my goals, but I allowed myself time to be "ready" to pursue weightloss. Weightloss in and of itself is stressfull. And stress compounds. I knew that if I attempted weightloss while under my trials I would set my self up for failure. The more failures I experienced the more likely I was to just throw in the towel. When I became ready, I WANTED to do it, I wanted the healthy food, I wanted the physical activity, I wanted every part of it. Wanting it changed everything. Learning to give myself mercy changed everything. If there is an area of weightloss that seems "burdensome" to you than that is likely the area that will sabotage your success. That is why small changes work best for most people. Find healthy food you enjoy. If you just cant give up sweets, stop kicking yourself (that just makes things worse) and budget a moderate serving into your day (you will be less likely to binge). Find habit and activities you enjoy. Don't worry about keeping up with your fitness crazed buddy. A healthy lifestyle is our goal, and it only works if you can keep living it. You need to want it, and it needs to be laced with mercy. Here's to your success!