Toxic workout environment
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I'm guessing I look totally unapproachable when I'm working out.
That's because (unless it's a group run or a specifically social event), I have zero interest in being approached. I don't want conversation when I'm exercising, I'm there for specific reasons that don't include chatting or making friends.
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I can remember the first day in the gym. I am fat, I don't know what I am doing, their looking and judging, I am weak. In reality they didn't care and I see others that are new with the same anxiety. I go very early in the morning and many keep to to themselves but other will talk. I think that the use of headphones have done more to shut down taking and interaction than anything else.1
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BrianJohnson2015 wrote: »I wear headphones at the gym and don’t interrupt people during a workout but obviously there is time in between sets unlike other workouts that are constant where you can say a word or 2. I’m saying after you see someone for the 100th time at the gym and they clearly know who you are maybe say what’s up every now and then. Its just my opinion and I see most of you disagree I’m just more about helping and encouraging people instead of being only into myself
This is a very common gym indicator that one wants to be left alone.
IOW: You are the unapproachable one. If you want some interaction, leave your headphones at home.
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BrianJohnson2015 wrote: »I wear headphones at the gym and don’t interrupt people during a workout but obviously there is time in between sets unlike other workouts that are constant where you can say a word or 2. I’m saying after you see someone for the 100th time at the gym and they clearly know who you are maybe say what’s up every now and then. Its just my opinion and I see most of you disagree I’m just more about helping and encouraging people instead of being only into myself
This is a very common gym indicator that one wants to be left alone.
IOW: You are the unapproachable one. If you want some interaction, leave your headphones at home.
This exactly. If I've got headphones on(and I always do) all I expect with eye contact is a head tilt or "the nod" and unless there's 2 way eye contact that's not even expected.0 -
This has been mentioned in posts above, but a lot of people aren't going to the gym to be friendly. Coming from someone who has been going to my gym and lifting for over 15 years, people have thought I was rude, when all I want to do is get in my workout with my workout partner and leave. We're not judging newcomers or anyone else, truth be told, we don't really even notice other people. I'm there to get my workout in and get out in the least amount of time possible. If someone says hi, we'll return the greeting, but that's it. My advice is don't take it personal, don't be intimidated, go to the gym, get your buff on, and get out of there0
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What is more annoying, people making chit chat in the gym or in the sauna?1
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I think you're over-thinking it, dude.
I see plenty of people time and time again at the gym and we don't chit-chat. We're all here for the same reason: get in, exercise, get out, carry on with our lives.
I don't see any mention of what kind of rude things they're doing. Are they saying rude things to you? Not wiping down equipment when they're done?
I've only ever met one rude person at the gym, and I thought she was rude because she literally berated and yelled at another woman for "stealing her machine", when she wasn't even close to it. Now that's rude.2 -
gearhead426hemi wrote: »gearhead426hemi wrote: »I prefer to avoid the gym all together. The world is your gym and you can change the scenery anytime you want. It smells better too. Kayaking, mountain biking, road biking, hiking, snowshoeing, list is endless just get creative and get out there.
Unless you want to lift weights or the weather is not conducive. Personally I love the idea of snowshoeing. Unfortunately we have not had anywhere near enough snow to Snowshoe... And there is just enough ice on all of the trails to make it dangerous to go hiking...
I live in Washington state so if you don't like getting out in bad weather you can't go outside for half the year. I flip tires, do pull-ups, carry rocks or logs, mountain bike, run I don't let the weather dictate what I do.
There's a million excuses to avoid working out you just need to focus on the one reason to workout.
I go to the gym. I don't make excuses.4 -
I have a resting *kitten* face0
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Silkysausage wrote: »I have a resting *kitten* face
Me, too. AND headphones. Maybe OP goes to my gym? :laugh:4 -
Silkysausage wrote: »I have a resting *kitten* face
I have had that my whole life, lol1 -
Most likely they are just busy working out and focusing on themselves. I tend to just turn off my brain during workouts and sort of concentrate on feeling muscles engage, particularly if lifting. To be fair - it does make people totally unapproachable when they are utterly self-absorbed at the moment. But, that doesn't necessarily mean they are judging, they really probably aren't paying attention. If you actually initiated contact, they might be friendly, or they might be in shock because they were zoned out and didn't notice you existed even if you were right there in front of them 100 times.0
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if you don't agree or like what you observe or hear. ignore them, focus on yourself and yr workout...take the best leave the rest.2
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I get told I'm a bit difficult to approach as I'm more a quiet take things in type of person and therefore that often comes off as standoffish. But I'm really not, I just prefer to watch what's going on and assess things. Especially when it comes to working out, I'm there for a reason and I want to get done what I went there for. So I wear headphones and don't chat a lot (at all actually, unless spoken to and even then I try to keep it short). I'm not all smiley and giggly because I'm working out, and that takes effort and a small amount of pain. But if you met me say at a party and wanted to strike up a chat, I'd be very friendly and like to joke. I wouldn't be judging you or ignoring you but I guess it could come off that way. Maybe that's all your experiencing and the people really don't mean to offend?1
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When I saw in the title "Toxic Environment" I was wondering if there was black mold, or people going around being active jerks to people, the gym was built over a nuclear waste dump, or whatever.
What I really see is none of that. I really see insecurity in you. The "cocky" person is confident - I think you're putting a negative spin on confidence. What do you care if a person can do a lift/run 10 miles/stretch into a pretzel, etc.?
You always have the option of shopping around for other gyms. There are gyms that cater a lot to boxers and other martial arts will likely be different than one than one than Planet Fitness or Curves. The one at a university will be different than the blue collar neighborhood downtown. And so on. It's always a good idea to feel like you fit into the gym you're at.
But I think you're dealing with the "Imaginary Audience" - you're projecting your worries and fears on people who have no such agenda.10 -
gearhead426hemi wrote: »I prefer to avoid the gym all together. The world is your gym and you can change the scenery anytime you want. It smells better too. Kayaking, mountain biking, road biking, hiking, snowshoeing, list is endless just get creative and get out there.
I agree with this when it comes to cardio, but going to the gym is the best option for consistently putting in the effort necessary to build and maintain muscle in a reasonable amount of time (an hour before work or during lunch, for example), versus tromping around in the woods for hours and hoping to find a log to lift a big rock to roll6 -
That's what I do when I go to the gym, get there, do my thing and go home. But for the first time last week I spoke to a guy that was doing pull down pulling behind his head, his form was terrible and I mean terrible. I went to him to suggest that it would be better pulling at the front (that's what i was always told, less risk of injury etc). The guy told me that he has been training for 25 years, and he knew what he was doing (basically told me to mind my own business to be polite). That will teach me trying to be helpful for once...4
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That's what I do when I go to the gym, get there, do my thing and go home. But for the first time last week I spoke to a guy that was doing pull down pulling behind his head, his form was terrible and I mean terrible. I went to him to suggest that it would be better pulling at the front (that's what i was always told, less risk of injury etc). The guy told me that he has been training for 25 years, and he knew what he was doing (basically told me to mind my own business to be polite). That will teach me trying to be helpful for once...
Fortunate he was that polite to you.8 -
That's what I do when I go to the gym, get there, do my thing and go home. But for the first time last week I spoke to a guy that was doing pull down pulling behind his head, his form was terrible and I mean terrible. I went to him to suggest that it would be better pulling at the front (that's what i was always told, less risk of injury etc). The guy told me that he has been training for 25 years, and he knew what he was doing (basically told me to mind my own business to be polite). That will teach me trying to be helpful for once...
Yeah...no. That pull behind the head is special. If you do it safely. Since you don't do it, how would you know?9 -
"Talking builds no muscles." -- Franco Columbu, Mr. Olympia, Mr. Universe6
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