Temptation In The Home...
amandawhatup62
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So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
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amandawhatup62 wrote: »So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.
I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.
Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)2 -
DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.
I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.
Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)
I wish we could hide food in my home lol0 -
amandawhatup62 wrote: »DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.
I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.
Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)
I wish we could hide food in my home lol
Ooh, is the food perishable, or do you think you'll find it?0 -
DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.
I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.
Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)
I wish we could hide food in my home lol
Ooh, is the food perishable, or do you think you'll find it?
My biggest temptation is ice cream1 -
Have you thought about buying lower calorie items to replace the food you want to eat? I'm not an ice cream person, but I know there are products out there. I'm a big chip person and I've been doing pretzels and baked chips when I want them. Funny, I don't seem to get the urge to eat chips as much anymore. It does take some work to get over those humps, but I have realized (finally after many years) that I would rather lose the weight then have chips, and other salty crunchy snacks.4
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Willpower. Holy cow this was a hard one for me. I started out really poorly.
I started to realize I would literally eat just because I was bored. So I started only allowing myself to eat Celery when this happened. It's not the most tasty snack but it helped me kick the habit of reaching for food at all when I was bored.
Calorie counting also helped me out, because I'd start to feel really guilty if I went over my goal for the day.11 -
I've been a binge eater for years. When I first started losing on mfp I was controlling it a LOT better, but that was about 2-3 years ago. Doing terrible lately. Just going to not buy any chocolate because I end up eating the whole box..4
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For me, the things that worked in the beginning.
1. Pre-logging of my meals the day before. I did leave myself a small parcel of calories for an in-case snack, which I'd make someone else go get. LOL
2. When the calories were done, don't open doors. Cabinets, fridge, freezer, etc.
3. Not ashamed to say, there were days I literally sat on my hands.
4. Water and/or flavoured herbal teas seemed to help.
Eventually it passes and you learn to deal with the cravings and adjust accordingly.
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Make sure you aren't trying to lose weight too quickly.
If you have a huge calorie deficit, it makes sticking to the plan much more difficult.
It's usually better to aim for a small weekly loss, so you can last as long as it takes.
Deprivation leads to crashing and burning.6 -
amandawhatup62 wrote: »DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »amandawhatup62 wrote: »So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?
I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.
I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.
Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)
I wish we could hide food in my home lol
Ooh, is the food perishable, or do you think you'll find it?
My biggest temptation is ice cream
[i]...oh...I was going to suggest to stash it all in the freezer...
I actually have to keep my stash of temptations in the trunk of my car. Probably wouldn't work in your situation though since it's your guy's food. Can you talk to him about your struggles and maybe you guys can work something out.
Good luck
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I would attack this in several ways at once:
-Talk to him, tell him that you want to eat better, but it's hard for you when you're tempted constantly. If he could hide it, eat it out of the house, or at least not in front of you while you're eating your salad?
-Stop demonizing foods - it's overeating, not the foods themselves, that is a problem.
-Not depriving yourself. Eat enough (not a too aggressive calorie deficit), eat balanced and varied, eat food you like, have an occasional treat.
-Get in some reasonable routines, deciding how much and how often you still can enjoy treats. Maybe ice cream every Saturday, out of the house? Make it an occasional, happy event, not a big thing, but also not a daily occurrence, which tends to lose its luster really fast.
-Work on your mindset - get into a mindframe of abundance, gratitude, enjoyment, patience, instead of panic, envy, resentment.
-Suck it up. Having to tolerate and resist some temptation, is the price we must pay for living in a world of abundance.10 -
I threw everything out! lol. I know that may not be the best answer but when I had an overhaul of my diet, I did the same to my cupboard and I don't allow crap in the house. My husband and 3 children don't particularly like this but they know that it's the best for them as well (we did used to have a lot of crap). I only became really serious about my weight loss and health in October last year and that's when I took such drastic measures. It's worked for me so far.4
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So far having a substitute for high cal/fat/sugar things other people eat at home who aren't trying to lose weight works for me. Example: ice cream with caramel sauce for me becomes bananas & ice blended with a small amount of almond milk to make the "ice cream" and blended dates make the "caramel sauce.' Having something that I can have that satisfies the craving but with fewer cals/fat/sugar is helping.12
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If I can do a 300 calorie burn out in the gym each day, or a jog round the block for 40 minutes it gives me a lot more headroom firvthe odd snack.4
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I threw some chillis from my garden in my stirfry last night and not being aware how hot they were I overdone it. Tasted delicious but man it was hot. With my mouth on fire I went into the kitchen and seen my son scooping out huge wads of chocolate ice cream. Beautiful cold ice cream. I turned around and walked out. Nothing to see here.4
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I try not to eliminate all the foods that I love (ice cream) totally. I try to work them into my calorie plan, but with a reasonable amount. If I can have a small portion, I am finding I CAN be satisfied by it. Would that work for you>5
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I eat a lot of really good nutrition...like the bulk of my diet. I also eat a little junk food and have something for desert most every night.4
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betty_veronica4 wrote: »I try not to eliminate all the foods that I love (ice cream) totally. I try to work them into my calorie plan, but with a reasonable amount. If I can have a small portion, I am finding I CAN be satisfied by it. Would that work for you>
This is me too. Greasy french fries is my downfall. If a coworker comes in with some I steal one then I am fine.1 -
That's on you.
I don't see why he should compromise because you do not have he willpower. Who are you losing weight for yourself or him?
We have cashews, peanuts (my weakest link). Every time I enter the kitchen we both look at each other, and I say to them not today.
This is not to say I do not eat them, but I leave that for the weekends when I allow myself some peanuts/cashews as my weekend treat. The rest of the time, not interested.1 -
@amandawhatup62 I do not know how far along you are on your journey but I have lost 105 lbs and had the same issue but with my adult kids having their snack foods around and other items that I just could not eat any longer. I will say that continuing to fuel your body with better foods will reduce the cravings you have for those foods that contain empty calories - for example: I LOVED donuts and ice cream before losing weight and getting fit but now even the thought of that is not appealing to me. I do have cheat days wherein I allow myself some of those indulgences but I often do not feel satisfied after eating them so those are few and far between. If you are doing this to get healthy and feel better, then you have to stay focused on that. You will find the strength and willpower to do it!3
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1) I acknowledge that he has different nutritional needs and goals than I do.
2)Those are his foods. I would feel bad eating all of his favorites.
3) When I do indulge, I measure out a serving, put the bag away or hand it back to him, log it, then eat it knowing exactly how it fits in my plan.12 -
When I was losing the majority of my weight, my brother-in-law was living with us. Between him and my husband (both big guys), there was a lot of food around that I couldn't work into my calorie budget. Some things that helped me out were:
1. Telling myself that it wasn't "my" food. I set aside a cupboard and a refrigerator shelf for the food I had planned to eat and they weren't allowed to touch that and I didn't touch "their" food (not that either of them was big on vegetables and lean meats).
2. Since I did the shopping I would buy food I didn't particularly like that they did. Made it easier to leave it alone.
3. If there was something that I was tempted by, I just had them put it in the top kitchen cupboard that I can't reach without climbing up on the counter.
But mostly it was a matter of me realizing that I needed to lose the weight for myself and no one was going to do it for me. If it was going to happen, I was the only one who could make decisions about what I was eating. That was a very empowering realization for me. I don't have to eat everything everyone else is eating - I can eat the way I want to.
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That's on you.
I don't see why he should compromise because you do not have he willpower. Who are you losing weight for yourself or him?
We have cashews, peanuts (my weakest link). Every time I enter the kitchen we both look at each other, and I say to them not today.
This is not to say I do not eat them, but I leave that for the weekends when I allow myself some peanuts/cashews as my weekend treat. The rest of the time, not interested.
I haven’t made him compromise on anything. His junk food is still in the home... I’ve been having the will power. I don’t have his soda, I don’t have his cookies, I don’t have his chips... or his ice cream... I guess I’m looking for ways to divert my thinking when it comes to wanting unhealthy foods, especially with them being right in front of my face.3 -
At my request, my son locks his treats up in a cabinet that we've dedicated for that purpose. He tends to eat junk foods that I binge on, so that's our compromise. Working a little into your food plan is a possibility, too, unless you just feel like you can't control yourself. In that case, since ice cream is your downfall, I've seen small freezers with locks.
I've noticed that since my son's food is in a separate cupboard, even when he forgets and leaves the key in the lock, my brain ignores the cupboard. I don't know what he has in it - I can't crave what I don't know about - out of sight, out of mind.4 -
Not easy my girlfriend eats junk food doesn't put weight on. I try to have replacement for example replace sweets with low fat jelly I replace hot chocolate with low calorie hot chocolate. It's not easy when sweets are about.2
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jamieb7604 wrote: »Not easy my girlfriend eats junk food doesn't put weight on. I try to have replacement for example replace sweets with low fat jelly I replace hot chocolate with low calorie hot chocolate. It's not easy when sweets are about.
Nobody ever said losing weight was easy.3 -
But it could be a bit easier without the envy and the subpar substitutions.jamieb7604 wrote: »Not easy my girlfriend eats junk food doesn't put weight on. I try to have replacement for example replace sweets with low fat jelly I replace hot chocolate with low calorie hot chocolate. It's not easy when sweets are about.2 -
Pre-log, and see if I'll have to give up something else to stay within my goals. If I really want it I will do extra exercise.2
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Pre-log, and see if I'll have to give up something else to stay within my goals. If I really want it I will do extra exercise.
I do meal prep every week so I know what I eat every day. Some days are just a little harder to want to stay in track I guess. When you are constantly seeing someone eat all the foods you used to eat, it sometimes gets hard... but I’m in this to win this this time! This weight loss journey, for me, is different. I have to do it this time! It is so important this go round.. my mindset has been a lot different this go round. But I’m not gonna lie, having all the temptation in my own home gets a little hard.1 -
Since I'm the grocery shopper there is no temptation in the house. If the hubby wants something special then he gets it himself and keeps it at work. We have two small kids so we don't want any junk around. It helps us to eat better when I plan all our meals and do the shopping.2
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