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CaptainFantastic01
CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
edited November 25 in Chit-Chat
Grab some cookies,
Maybe some coffee
Sit right down
This is a safe space
Share your stories/struggles/feelings here
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  • whitney_cherelle
    whitney_cherelle Posts: 19 Member
    Me either. I’d rather go live in a mental health facility.
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    I have two boys who think their absent, angry, alcoholic father is a superhero and argue with me about everything based on what he does or says when he sees them.

    I am exhausted. I don't even want to think about the teenage years (which will last for 11 years)
  • scompton094
    scompton094 Posts: 320 Member
    I have a 2 year old daughter, she acts like she is 13 already...
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    @whitney_cherelle and @Avocado_AS5 you have all my sympathy. I really feel for you. I don't think I could handle teenage girls! I was one, that's enough drama for a lifetime!!
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    @CaptainFantastic01 are you sure you want to open this particular can of worms?? Toddlers are treats compared to teenagers!

    One tip (that I am still struggling with as I have no backup when I am too exhausted) - set your boundaries and stick to them. Never falter!
  • AndOne8675
    AndOne8675 Posts: 151 Member
    Girls 3 and 5. I'm sick of having to make the coffee. Every. Morning. Seriously. I love when my mom comes to visit, she makes it AND folds the permanent laundry goon in our livingroom chair and does dishes. She stays a week and does more than X did in years. 36 and I'd rather have my mom around than a man...
  • scompton094
    scompton094 Posts: 320 Member
    barberellass wrote: »
    Girls 3 and 5. I'm sick of having to make the coffee. Every. Morning. Seriously. I love when my mom comes to visit, she makes it AND folds the permanent laundry goon in our livingroom chair and does dishes. She stays a week and does more than X did in years. 36 and I'd rather have my mom around than a man...

    I wish I had this. I tend to tell my babysitters (teenagers) I'll pay ya extra if you fold my towels and sweep my floors
  • Lucynbailey
    Lucynbailey Posts: 25 Member
    Hey..i have a 3 year old little girl. Me n her dad spilt when she was just 10months old...lost my man 3 days after she was born. She's helped me through so much in her little life all ready. Shes so loving n has always helped around the house n with our dog. She's unbelievable n my biggest fan with my exercising...even does it with me!
  • Lucynbailey
    Lucynbailey Posts: 25 Member
    Clever_User_Name wrote: »
    Lucynbailey wrote: »
    Hey..i have a 3 year old little girl. Me n her dad spilt when she was just 10months old...lost my man 3 days after she was born. She's helped me through so much in her little life all ready. Shes so loving n has always helped around the house n with our dog. She's unbelievable n my biggest fan with my exercising...even does it with me!

    So you and her dad made it 10 months, but your man only made it 3 days? I'm so confused

    My mam..i had edited it but clearly it hasn't changed
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    Well, this is my place! I gots a 15 and a 13 yr old, both girls. And ya, ya'll are right, it's a lot of work and stress, but man oh man do they make life worth it!
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    2 boys - almost 16 and 11. I am thankful every day that I didn't have girls, I can barely manage my own estrogen fueled feelings and my boys are great kids... Most of the time anyway! :) I'm really lucky to have a great coparenting relationship with their dad, so no real drama from that either.
  • AndOne8675
    AndOne8675 Posts: 151 Member
    scompton094 wrote: »
    barberellass wrote: »
    Girls 3 and 5. I'm sick of having to make the coffee. Every. Morning. Seriously. I love when my mom comes to visit, she makes it AND folds the permanent laundry goon in our livingroom chair and does dishes. She stays a week and does more than X did in years. 36 and I'd rather have my mom around than a man...

    I wish I had this. I tend to tell my babysitters (teenagers) I'll pay ya extra if you fold my towels and sweep my floors

    She comes a couple times a year and visits for a week. I'll have to try the babysitter bonus
  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    I have 21 month old baby girl. She is super sweet and snuggly and my whole world. She is sick right now, as am I.
    I am happy to report that I think I got 5-6 hours of sleep last night! Super relieved. I think I had 12 hours sleep TOTAL since Friday night..... It's been a rough week. Been dizzy every day from fatigue, but can't take time off work. So last night was just..... beautiful. Still exhausted, but I'll make it. haha
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    tinak33 wrote: »
    I have 21 month old baby girl. She is super sweet and snuggly and my whole world. She is sick right now, as am I.
    I am happy to report that I think I got 5-6 hours of sleep last night! Super relieved. I think I had 12 hours sleep TOTAL since Friday night..... It's been a rough week. Been dizzy every day from fatigue, but can't take time off work. So last night was just..... beautiful. Still exhausted, but I'll make it. haha

    I'm sorry. That is horrible. It's bad enough being sick yourself, but to feel so completely helpless to ease the suffering if your baby is the worst! I hope you both get better soon (and get to sleep the whole weekend away)
  • jennibabie87
    jennibabie87 Posts: 74 Member
    I have my 5 year old son home today with the nor’easter with at least 10” of snow since last evening!!! And it’s still coming down :( Just ended things with his dad after 4 1/2 years together. Went on a mutual ‘break’ only to find out he’d rather be with her instead, but still wanting me at the same time..Um ya that’s gonna be a no. He then told me own the way to Walmart that having us 2 girls was stressing him out and point blank told him that, ‘why you stressing? You only have one girl to take care of now’ then I found out he’s been cheating on me with her since November and had a gambling problem, didn’t pay the mortgage and lot rent and got us evicted!! But his child support is the rent for our new place, moving next month, and it comes straight out his paycheck since he works maintenance for an apartment company thing!

    Wow sorry the book :)
  • doubleap77
    doubleap77 Posts: 47 Member
    cct204 wrote: »
    Newly single mama with a 3 year old mini-me. Just at the beginning stages of the divorce process so I'm feeling super overwhelmed with all of this.
    We were together since I was 18 so I don't even know how to be single. Let alone be a single mama.

    I'm in awe everyday of you chicks who do it and make it look easy.

    Swap the genders and this is me. Going through divorce with a 6 year old boy (mini-me) and a 4 year old girl. I’d been married to my wife since we were 19. It’s tough figuring out how to be a single adult when I’ve essentially never been on my own for my entire adult life.

    For all the hard days, though, I do have the opportunity to watch my kids grow up.
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  • runnergirl0721
    runnergirl0721 Posts: 2,289 Member
    I have an 8 year old boy- he turns 9 in may. I have had full custody for about a year and a half now. He's the best thing that ever happened to me. But his dad, not so much.

    I have out of a bad marriage his little was 3 1/2, so if anyone ever needs an ear/shoulder, i'm here. i know how tough it can be <3
  • Smilin40
    Smilin40 Posts: 1,828 Member
    runnergirl0721 wrote: »
    I have an 8 year old boy- he turns 9 in may. I have had full custody for about a year and a half now. He's the best thing that ever happened to me. But his dad, not so much.

    I have out of a bad marriage his little was 3 1/2, so if anyone ever needs an ear/shoulder, i'm here. i know how tough it can be <3

    His loss
  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    So to all the single parents.....
    My little one is 21 months. I have been single since I found out I was pregnant (same weekend I got divorced....).
    It's been 2.5 years. How do you date or do anything "adult" without the raging mom guilt???
    I feel so horribly guilty even thinking about getting a babysitter, because with work and errands, I don't have much time with her to begin with. So the free time I DO have, I want to spend with her.
    But you know... there are those days when you just need time away. Whether it's a date, going to dinner with friends, hitting a bar with my sister, etc... And I feel so guilty even thinking about it.
    It's not like I can stay out late, anyway..... My baby girl doesn't sleep through the night yet, so I am usually home by 9PM...

    How do you do it?

  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    tinak33 wrote: »
    So to all the single parents.....
    My little one is 21 months. I have been single since I found out I was pregnant (same weekend I got divorced....).
    It's been 2.5 years. How do you date or do anything "adult" without the raging mom guilt???
    I feel so horribly guilty even thinking about getting a babysitter, because with work and errands, I don't have much time with her to begin with. So the free time I DO have, I want to spend with her.
    But you know... there are those days when you just need time away. Whether it's a date, going to dinner with friends, hitting a bar with my sister, etc... And I feel so guilty even thinking about it.
    It's not like I can stay out late, anyway..... My baby girl doesn't sleep through the night yet, so I am usually home by 9PM...

    How do you do it?

    First and foremost, let go of the guilt. Remember that your Daughter deserves to have the happiest healthies version of you possible. This can only be achieved by taking care of yourself...yes including going out and blowing off steam any way needed.
    I understand as Mothers we tend to pull that guilt trip on ourselves often, but from one Mom to another...you deserve this, and so does she!
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