Feeling so alone on my weightloss journey

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  • quietone44
    quietone44 Posts: 37 Member
    wifey826 wrote: »
    This hit home for me. Thank you for this thread, Quietone44....

    My DH is supportive (insert HUGE) but......He is also jealous that I've been consistently on a plan since last June (that coincided with a temporary separation from him). It's been slow, but I've lost about 60 pounds. Now that we have reconciled he loves to show me off. However, in the same breath he compliments me, a complaint follows about how unhappy he is, wishes he could lose weight too, is depressed. He can't do a-b-c because of x-y-z. Typical response to someone who is happy to reap the benefits without putting in the effort. Now, I know I sound a bit harsh here, but the truth is, as much as he "supports and cheers me on", he isolates me by his negative self talk. It leaves me feeling like he's truly not proud of me at all. This requires a serious amount of motivation that he has yet to find. It is impossible to explain to others, so I don't bother.

    I tried to do the Couch to 5K program... it became a problem for me to be away from the home so frequently. 2 littles under 5....moms know what I'm talking about. So, I just stick to my eating plan.

    I understand where you are coming from. Congrats for being brave enough to admit that you were unhappy and I applaud your efforts to take charge of your own happiness! My separation was my darkest hour, and I started my journey in secret. No one knew, and it was indeed, very lonely. I reached out to my MFP community--they helped me through as well.

    Take care of yourself!

    First off let me applaud your 60lb weight loss!!! That's amazing....but it's even more amazing to know that you still stuck to it while dealing with the weight of everything else. It's hard enough finding spare minutes to yourself when we have kids...but even harder when you're doing it alone without the support of friends and family. I don't even know you but I'm proud of you...you're inspiring and you give me hope! Keep doing what you're doing and hopefully DH will get fed up with excuses and jump on board. Thank u for sharing with me too...going to add you !
  • dsum143
    dsum143 Posts: 3 Member
    I have been getting teary eyed reading this thread. Luckily I have a supportive SO for now. However I am only 11lb down on a 150lb loss (long term obviously).
    You are amazingly strong. Keep going and get to that gym. And when you do, let me know as I might pluck up the courage myself eventually.
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    You have us. I am also not happy that I don't really have friends to share this with but I can come here.
  • chloegalvin3
    chloegalvin3 Posts: 7 Member
    Congrats on your weight loss so far.. your doing amazing!
  • brightresolve
    brightresolve Posts: 1,024 Member
    wifey826 wrote: »
    I tried to do the Couch to 5K program... it became a problem for me to be away from the home so frequently. 2 littles under 5....moms know what I'm talking about. So, I just stick to my eating plan.

    A belated thought - when I was separated then single mom, and had one little of age 2-3-4-5, my saving grace was the local health club that had a kids club care facility with activities etc. I would drop her off, work out, grab her, we'd swim together, shower, and go home. Depends on cost and availability but there might be something available.

    Meanwhile, you are doing SO WELL to lose 60 on your eating plan, and a mom of two small children is never sedentary :) so go you, congratulations!

    Oh and @quietone44 thanks again for this thread, it has been and continues to be lovely.
  • mca90guitar
    mca90guitar Posts: 289 Member
    I work out alone in my house. Just me and my blasting music:). Pretty relaxing

    My friends all suck, won't even bother to see if they want to put down the bong and do something besides watch football or baseball. Need to go back on the friend hunt but dang its hard at 27 esp when most of my coworkers are over 40. Had most of these "friends" since middle school and haven't really gained new ones since highschool. Amazing how much people can change in 9 yrs. Fun to boring lazy stoners.
  • quietone44
    quietone44 Posts: 37 Member
    I've learned we are ALL here for the same reason. Therefore we should ALL be here for each other....after writing this thread I got so much love and support it was almost overwhelming! I added alot of like minded people and things are looking up...I may be physically doing this on my own but I look forward to opening MFP and seeing how everyone else is doing and knowing they're all here supporting me and cheering me on. It makes my days so much better. No one should have to struggle alone. So to anyone out there that is feeling how I felt . Add me. Send me a msg. Whatever it is I want to hear about it. We are in this together! :)
  • Idontcareyoupick
    Idontcareyoupick Posts: 2,854 Member
    This thread is so amazing. I've been having a rough go also and the community has helped even without me having my own post. Congrats to everyone on their weight loss as well as your strength shown every day. I hope to use this to get back into the groove. Thank you for this post
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    You've got 80 million people to share with.

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